As many of you might know, my boyfriend Jared moved an hour away from me two months ago so that we could be closer. However, things didn't go out exactly as we would have liked. Jared and I had a talk last night. He was trying to decide what would be the best thing to do for our relationship in the long run, and he was stuck on what to do. Basically, he is running extremely low on cash now since he hasn't found a job yet, he will be cut off of his dad's insurance in April, and he has been very stressed out because he hasn't made in friends here. He told me that he would stay until the middle of March and see if he could find a job, but I told him just to go back now because it would just waste more of his money and he needs to get back on his feet.
This is a very hard decision, and I am very sad that he is leaving, but I think this will be best for us. The past two months, we have both been very stressed out because of his situation, and that has caused many fights. Honestly, I would rather us be 800 miles away and happy than 50 miles away and bickering all of the time. We both agree that he made the move too soon and that he didn't plan it out enough. I hope that others will maybe learn something from this. Going from LDR to CDR(sort of), takes a lot of planning, and you just can't jump into it and expect everything to work out smoothly.
Jared talked to the manager at his old job, and they told him that he can come back and start as soon as he likes, so he is going to start working there again on a week from this upcoming Monday. His dad has a house there that has been on sale for over a year but has not been able to sale. He told Jared that he could live there temporarily. Jared said that he is going to try getting an internship or a better job, and after a year he will try moving here again, this time finding a job here first. If that doesn't work, out, I graduate in two years, so we will be together then. We also plan to see each other once a month like we did before.
Hopefully, this will be better in the long run, even though it will be hard. I will miss being able to just get dinner with him, but this is for the best.
This is a very hard decision, and I am very sad that he is leaving, but I think this will be best for us. The past two months, we have both been very stressed out because of his situation, and that has caused many fights. Honestly, I would rather us be 800 miles away and happy than 50 miles away and bickering all of the time. We both agree that he made the move too soon and that he didn't plan it out enough. I hope that others will maybe learn something from this. Going from LDR to CDR(sort of), takes a lot of planning, and you just can't jump into it and expect everything to work out smoothly.
Jared talked to the manager at his old job, and they told him that he can come back and start as soon as he likes, so he is going to start working there again on a week from this upcoming Monday. His dad has a house there that has been on sale for over a year but has not been able to sale. He told Jared that he could live there temporarily. Jared said that he is going to try getting an internship or a better job, and after a year he will try moving here again, this time finding a job here first. If that doesn't work, out, I graduate in two years, so we will be together then. We also plan to see each other once a month like we did before.
Hopefully, this will be better in the long run, even though it will be hard. I will miss being able to just get dinner with him, but this is for the best.
But I think it's great that you guys are realistic enough to realize that something's not working, and mature enough to separate even though you guys will miss the convenience of being close. Everything will work out for the best though! Things like this usually do. 
I just have to compliment on your selflessness and strength, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been able to do that myself, despite being older than you.
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