My boyfriend is close friends with one of his exes, because she is his best friend's twin sister. I didn't even know until we all went to Daytona Beach together and We were drunk. Needless to say, I wasn't happy at all. But now I'm okay with it, because she's really awesome and she's glad that he found someone to make him happy ( they also didn't date very long and never did anything)
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"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love " ~ Theodore Seuss Geisel.
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You know what I think it is. I think the reason why your man hasn't put her on block yet is because he wants to see how she's doing. Even though he loves you, he's probably still curious of what she's doing. It's kind of like when you absolutely don't like someone yet you check up on them through facebook or ever befriend because deep down you hope that he or she is doing worse than you. I know it's childish but a lot of people do it especially women. We're notorious of checking up on the exes to see if she's prettier than us or smarter like an ego boost. (I've done this before hehe sadly!)
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I think you should leave it be because he isn't showing any real indicators of not having moved on from his ex. I know that it can be easy to worry about it though.
I know a little about some of my SO's exes, but we don't really talk about it anymore. I had a two year abusive relationship before my SO and I got together. My boyfriend HATES my ex and encouraged me to leave him. I'm glad I did because I'm treated so much better now.
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Originally posted by tissa View Postnothing! He wants me to accept that. He wants to have friends and that is who he says they are and that he doesn't want to give up friendship
Personally, I never asked my bf not to talk to her or anything, he just didn't want to due to how bad she treated him and the hell he went through because of her, however I'm sure if they were friends and I did say I was uncomfortable with it, he would reassure me I have nothing to worry about but if it bothers me, then he'll cut off ties with her.
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Originally posted by xopookie View PostYou know what I think it is. I think the reason why your man hasn't put her on block yet is because he wants to see how she's doing. Even though he loves you, he's probably still curious of what she's doing. It's kind of like when you absolutely don't like someone yet you check up on them through facebook or ever befriend because deep down you hope that he or she is doing worse than you. I know it's childish but a lot of people do it especially women. We're notorious of checking up on the exes to see if she's prettier than us or smarter like an ego boost. (I've done this before hehe sadly!)
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Originally posted by Laura024 View PostI think you should leave it be because he isn't showing any real indicators of not having moved on from his ex. I know that it can be easy to worry about it though.
I know a little about some of my SO's exes, but we don't really talk about it anymore. I had a two year abusive relationship before my SO and I got together. My boyfriend HATES my ex and encouraged me to leave him. I'm glad I did because I'm treated so much better now.
Thanks for the advice!
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You can't be in a relationship without trust, especially a long distance relationship. My SO's ex is his neighbor AND the mother of his child who he sees daily. I don't even think twice about her. If your SO goes back to his ex, it wasn't meant to be. I really hope everything works out for you.
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Originally posted by KimberlyJ View PostYou can't be in a relationship without trust, especially a long distance relationship. My SO's ex is his neighbor AND the mother of his child who he sees daily. I don't even think twice about her. If your SO goes back to his ex, it wasn't meant to be. I really hope everything works out for you.
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we talked about it so many times and ALWAYS end up arguing. I do not like him going out with them and because some of them are not really ex'es but more like ex fuck buddies, I do not feel comfortable with him hanging out with them at all coz they have never been anyone for him, but girls to hang out and have sex with and they are the same now. Yes he has me now, but still and his resistance and a desire for me to just accept it and be ok when he says "me and such and such are going to hang out tonight" well... I am sorry but there is jsut no way I can feel comfortable with it being far away :'(
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My opinion on this is he should def just block her and if he keeps putting it off you should confront him about it, nicely of course or he might get mad/defensive. There should be no reason not to block her especially if her profile is private so he cannot see anything on there. I don't think you have anything to worry about as far as trust goes but if he continues to not block her I would talk with him about it.
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Originally posted by tissa View Postwe talked about it so many times and ALWAYS end up arguing. I do not like him going out with them and because some of them are not really ex'es but more like ex fuck buddies, I do not feel comfortable with him hanging out with them at all coz they have never been anyone for him, but girls to hang out and have sex with and they are the same now. Yes he has me now, but still and his resistance and a desire for me to just accept it and be ok when he says "me and such and such are going to hang out tonight" well... I am sorry but there is jsut no way I can feel comfortable with it being far away :'(
Good luck with everything
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Originally posted by hxcbreakdance View PostMy opinion on this is he should def just block her and if he keeps putting it off you should confront him about it, nicely of course or he might get mad/defensive. There should be no reason not to block her especially if her profile is private so he cannot see anything on there. I don't think you have anything to worry about as far as trust goes but if he continues to not block her I would talk with him about it.
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