How long would you wait for your SO??

[agentholli]

I would wait forever..BUT there HAS to be visits every 6 months or so. LOL I would really wait forever. Mark is the only one I want to be with.

[Ianthe]

I think, for me, it would depend on the reason behind the separation, and whether our needs are being met. I've told my fiance that I consider five years to be my personal limit, in our current situation (where we visit, perhaps, once or twice a year, with no set in stone plans for the future). As much as I love him, I (being a girl who requires a lot of physical attention) am not currently having my needs met, though it can't be helped right now. If our situation changed...if we lived closer and we could meet more often (once a month or so), I would probably feel differently.

If something happened outside of our control that kept us apart for longer, of course, I wouldn't just up and break up with him on the five year mark. But if we're just at a stalemate, and can't make up our minds? I would start to seriously doubt whether we were meant to be.

[Caity]

I met my guy 7 years ago. Due to our age and school there was no way we had any chance of closing the distance anytime soon. I was 10 and he was 12 when we first met. We only met in person for the first time this year. Fortunately, if things go to plan, we'll only have to wait 9 more months to close the distance when we move to england together. But if circumstances changed I think I would still wait for him as long as it takes. I love him completely and now it's nigh on impossible to imagine my life without him in it.

[Stephanieeee]

I mean, it raises the question of what you would do after you stopped waiting. Do you find somebody else? Forget everything you went through simply because of a time issue? How do you even go about that.
I couldnt imagine...just moving on that easily. Maybe if through time I was able to somehow loose my feelings. But, other then that. I could never just neglect that he's still 3000 km away waiting for me. As long as he's still on this earth, I'll be with him anyway I can.

[NikkiP]

How to say this, how to say this, how to say this... I know I'm going to retype it 57 times but I'll take a shot at it.

We are really lucky. I know this. I don't see a lot of couples on here that meet on line and then decide how to be in the same city so they can quickly move into a CD relationship without living together. We are not the norm.

Knowing that I only have to make two more hikes up to Pittsburgh is what keeps me going. The last time I was there I absolutely broke down into full out tears in his arms because of the toll my trips up there have been taking on me emotionally and physically.

Originally we had decided that he would move here in June. Then we started discussing me moving there. I got my raise, then he decided that he would break his lease and come here. I honestly don't know how long I would make it knowing that the only thing getting me through now is that his move is less than 45 days away.

That being said I love my SO more than I ever thought was possible and I don't know what I would do to keep that love in my life since he's the only person I've ever actually believed when they said I love you to me.

[Zephii]

I mean, it raises the question of what you would do after you stopped waiting. Do you find somebody else? Forget everything you went through simply because of a time issue? How do you even go about that.
I couldnt imagine...just moving on that easily. Maybe if through time I was able to somehow loose my feelings. But, other then that. I could never just neglect that he's still 3000 km away waiting for me. As long as he's still on this earth, I'll be with him anyway I can.

Well, there's that isn't there?
Having tried to move on from Obi in the past and failing dismally (and him having done the same) I know moving on would be terrible. I'm not sure I ever really would and that would hinder any other relationships I have. I don't think he is the only man on earth who could make me happy, but finding a man who'd make me forget him? That'd be tough.

But I still wouldn't wait forever. I'd make it happen, or admit defeat.

[Insanity]

Well, there's that isn't there?
Having tried to move on from Obi in the past and failing dismally (and him having done the same) I know moving on would be terrible. I'm not sure I ever really would and that would hinder any other relationships I have. I don't think he is the only man on earth who could make me happy, but finding a man who'd make me forget him? That'd be tough.

But I still wouldn't wait forever. I'd make it happen, or admit defeat.

That's what has happened with my SO and I. We have both tried to move on a few times but we ended up back together. When we're apart we're both so miserable, nobody or no thing could change how I feel about him. He and I have been to hell and back, been through things that many close distance couples would have never survived eg. lies, big big big lies and mental illnesses. We've learnt from these issue, where we went wrong and after being together 15 months we're now heading in the right direction.
I love him and I would wait as long as it took, but I'm not the kind to sit around and wait for it to happen. I believe if you want something you have to go out there and get it.

[SeattleLove]

I would wait as long as I had to wait to finally be with him, CD-wise....right now, it looks like we still have to wait another 6 years (due to school and college etc). In this time we will see each other every 3-6 months. And there is no reason why I would think that it won't last. Our love is so strong that I know for sure that we will make it through those years. I coldn't even imagine myself being with someone else than him. I love him so much, he is my life and I would feel lonely without him.
That's why I will wait another 6 years..

[noodle]

Right now I'd say forever (even without visits), ask me when me and my SO have a fight I'd say not a second longer ^^ hahaha
But I'll stick with the first one and add some visits and we'll be fine
Tho I'll do everything possible to close the distance asap

[Caitlin2009]

I mean, it raises the question of what you would do after you stopped waiting. Do you find somebody else? Forget everything you went through simply because of a time issue? How do you even go about that.
I couldnt imagine...just moving on that easily. Maybe if through time I was able to somehow loose my feelings. But, other then that. I could never just neglect that he's still 3000 km away waiting for me. As long as he's still on this earth, I'll be with him anyway I can.

i dont see how anybody could move on just like that if they really loved there SO? how could anybody do that especially when you put all your time invested in it to make it work

[Zephii]

i dont see how anybody could move on just like that if they really loved there SO? how could anybody do that especially when you put all your time invested in it to make it work

Well, there's "making it work" and then there's "flogging a dead horse"

[mllebamako]

Well, there's "making it work" and then there's "flogging a dead horse"

Finally an opportunity to use the dead horse smiley!!!

Okay sorry...carry on people

[Stephanieeee]

Well, there's that isn't there?
Having tried to move on from Obi in the past and failing dismally (and him having done the same) I know moving on would be terrible. I'm not sure I ever really would and that would hinder any other relationships I have. I don't think he is the only man on earth who could make me happy, but finding a man who'd make me forget him? That'd be tough.

But I still wouldn't wait forever. I'd make it happen, or admit defeat.

Exactly. Time doesn't stop, and the time when you could be together is still tangible. Letting go is just impatience.

[Stephanieeee]

Well, there's "making it work" and then there's "flogging a dead horse"

lol'd

[Stephanieeee]

Finally an opportunity to use the dead horse smiley!!!

Okay sorry...carry on people

still lol'ing