Just a little.. I don't know.

[Emma-Louise]

So I was out with my best friend today, and he told me that he doesn't understand why I'm still with my boyfriend. He said that my boyfriend is nothing like me, and that he's not amazingly attractive (even though I disagree.. Completely) And that when he see's us together, we have no Chemistry. No Spark. and that this is the reason everyone wonders about us...

I just.. I don't know what to make of this. I just.. Help?

[Čternity]

I'm a bit confused. Did you tell him he was being rude and hurtful to you? Why would you let your best friend talk about your SO like this to you?

[Kika]

are you sure that 'everybody' isn't just your best friend? He is your best friend, therefore you must get on well, he finds you attractive...

[rsvpnj]

I'm a bit confused. Did you tell him he was being rude and hurtful to you? Why would you let your best friend talk about your SO like this to you?

I agree with Eternity... I can't understand why your "Best Friend" would talk to you like this. Unless your SO was being abusive or something similar and even then this is never a good approach because it usually causes the person to become more defensive of their SO... I think you should be re-evaluating your friendship not your LDR...

However, is it a possibility that your best friend is jealous or attracted to you?

[jerseygirl904]

I'm a bit confused as well. Why would he speak to you that way? Is he attracted to you? It does "sound" a bit like jealousy.

[Emma-Louise]

He's been my best friend for years.. I'm talking since we were seven. We went out about 2 years ago. I told him he hurt me, but I haven't heard from him since. I talk to him about everything, About how my parents are doing everything they can to stop my boyfriend and I from being together, about how my friends from school don't understand and refer to him as my penpal, about how much I miss him.. And he usually just listens, tells me everything will be fine, and my SO loves me.. But today.. I don't know what happened..

[Kalmyia]

I have had a similar conversation with several of my friends where they were wondering why I was dating someone who lived so far away who I couldn't possibly get along with. I found it could be because they weren't aware of the situation or how I really feel about my SO (in my case they were mostly other guys telling me this). I would carefully evaluate your friend's reaction and recent interactions as some of the posters have said, does your best friend hope for more than just friends? The fact that you previously dated could mean that he is hoping for a retry.

[PaperbackWriter]

What a rude thing to say! I agree, it does sound a bit like jealousy. He definitely owes you an apology.
I'm sorry he's being a jerk.

[Lexi]

It definitely sounds like jealously. And some people just don't understand LDR and won't be easily convinced that it's important to you and your SO.

[LadyMarchHare]

And how does he know you guys have any chemistry or spark? Does he sit in the room every conversation? I don't think so. Personally if my friend had told me that I would have told him to mind his own business and that he was CLEARLY misinformed. Because really, only the two of you know you have chemistry, if you're alike, and who gives a flying monkey about looks? But I do agree the green-eyed monster may be at play here as I had some similar reaction from a friend but she wanted me to leave my guy just so we'd both be miserable, not that she was attracted to me.

[Caitlin2009]

if my so called friend said the same to me i would stop being there friend because that was uncalled for to say such a thing, even if he does want you and he does, he should be respectful of your feelings and respect that your already going out with someone

[Elissa]

I agree, it sounds like jealousy.

[DarkSolitary]

Sounds like jealousy to me.

[Silviar]

I didn't read all of the responses, so sorry if I'm copying, but what your friend said was not only disrespectful, but I find it passive aggressive. How the hell does he know if you have chemistry or not? It's not a quantifiable measure he could feel himself, for crying out loud.

Now, if he was saying something that's all about he's worried because you have absolutely nothing in common and that concerns him, this would be a different conversation. Putdowns+classic overstatement(everyone? Come on!)+justifications = several red flags. You need to think carefully on this friend.

[Rane]

And how does he know you guys have any chemistry or spark? Does he sit in the room every conversation? I don't think so. Personally if my friend had told me that I would have told him to mind his own business and that he was CLEARLY misinformed. Because really, only the two of you know you have chemistry, if you're alike, and who gives a flying monkey about looks? But I do agree the green-eyed monster may be at play here as I had some similar reaction from a friend but she wanted me to leave my guy just so we'd both be miserable, not that she was attracted to me.

I agree that it'd be impossible for him to know whether the two of you have chemistry or not. I wonder, do you go to him to talk about things when things are bad with your relationship? Or just good, or both? Because if all he heard was the bad, then it'd be obvious to see how he would judge thinking that you had a bad relationship. But like everyone's said, no one knows whether there's chemistry in your relationship but you. Maybe if he voiced his concerns because he was worried about you, then okay, but the way he's trying to tell you that your relationship isn't right for you, just screams jealous and controlling to me, because he'd rather be your SO. I don't know, it just doesn't seem like how a best friend would act. But that's just how it seems from what you've said, I don't know any more to judge about him then he does to judge about your chemistry with your SO, you know?