Strength..

[Heather]

This is probably the wrong place to post this, but I really need some help.
My heart is telling me to love him, to continue to fight, to prove to him that I need and want him. But my head is telling me I'm hoping and praying for nothing. My whole life for the past 2 years, has been him. How can I let it go? I don't have the strength. He made me a strong person, because of him I was able to do things over the past 2 years I never would have been able to. I'm having so many mixed emotions right now and I don't know how to get through this. He's my soul mate and my best friend and I've lost him.

So sorry for this, I just...need to find the strength to get through this, I need to but I can't.

What would you do if you were in my situation? Lost your soul mate? How do you cope...

[agentholli]

what do you mean you lost him? Did he break up with you?

You said you don't have the strength but then you said he made you a strong person. Don't doubt yourself. You are a strong person. You will be able to get through it if you have to. I am sorry

[mllebamako]

I don't really know your situation but I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. Break-ups are always difficult but you do have the strength to get through it. When I broke-up with my ex it was one of the hardest decisions I ever made because my heart and head were telling me two different things, just like yours are.
You have to decide what's right for you. In the end, I decided that it was best for us to end things. It was painful and it took me months to pull myself out of the darkness, but I got through it and now I am a stronger person and I found a love that was true. (I'm not saying your love isn't true. That was just my experience).

I wish you strength and peace within yourself.

[Heather]

He broke up with me for several different reasons. I'm so in love with him. He taught me things no one else could. I know he was/is my soul mate and my best friend. I really do not get it. If I knew this is what true love did to you, I wouldn't have allowed myself to fall. I don't want to let him go. I want to continue to fight. I want to be strong, but how can I be? When he's my love and there's a huge possibility that the feelings aren't and weren't mutual...I'm crushed, heart broken, and I feel like I truly am alone.

[kymccloud]

I am so sorry to here that he broke your heart. The best advice I can give is to follow your heart. I hope everything goes well for you, but if it doesn't remember to hold your head high. If he can't see what he is missing then he doesn't deserve you. You should be with someone who does. *hugs*

[MissShortie]

I am sooooo sorry, I can truely relate to how you are feeling.... my SO broke up with me for a little... it felt like I ran into a brick wall, my plans were all about him, for me to be with him I mean.
I don't know if I can give you the right advice at all, but I can be here to listen to you anytime you need someone to vent to...
I really feel for you and wish I could help you, heartbreak is a horrible thing

[Èternity]

There's no easy answer. I was sad when you said that you'd been together over the last two years and there's a huge possibility that the feelings aren't and weren't mutual. That's such a long time for a one-sided relationship. It's natural to want him back as you had been together a long time but I believe everyone deserves someone who will adore and cherish them. I hope you can find some peace soon.

[Heather]

My mom didn't like him, and everyone is telling me to get over him, and I will just put this out there that him and someone else(from this site) are now together(that will be put out there soon enough) I won't put my feelings about this out there, those who know me and have talked to me know what I'm thinking..but I'm just so confused, I know that I'm not ready to move on, I love him with all my heart and I always will. He's the love of my life and he really taught me things that no one else has. I feel like I NEED to move on, but I can't. How can you move on from being with someone for 2 years and truly honestly loving them and giving your heart to them and trusting them not to break it when they do? it's difficult....I was pregnant with his child and had a miscarriage. I honestly, am so lost and confused right now. I need to find strength. I need it, so bad... Sigh....

[EBKitty]

I'm sorry to hear about this

You can find the strength to go on. You gotta tell yourself everyday that you'll get over him. It's no easy feat but you can do it. Now is a time when you need to be concerned with yourself, not him and not anyone else. You gotta let yourself heal.

It will take time, most definitely. It will not happen overnight. But like I said, start doing things for yourself now. You said he helped you things you never thought about doing... well, now do others things.

I hope you start feeling better *hugs*

[Heather]

I have honestly started to realize that I can move on, it's definitely going to be difficult. I'm going to struggling for a long time to get over him. I'm going to fight between my head and my heart. I know that I need to move on and think about myself, I've been trying. I want the best for me, and I want the best for him(I really honestly do) no matter what I will love him forever. I hope nothing that happiness for him, of course I want it to be with me. But I know that I need to do things for me. When I keep myself busy and I do other things, I don't hurt as much because I'm not thinking about him as much..but when I really start thinking about him, it hurts a lot...I'm not leaving the site. I need strength from you guys, and encouragement. I love reading your stories etc. So good luck with all you guys have and I know that someday I will find true happiness. I will find someone to love me for who I am

[kymccloud]

You Go Girl! Find someone who loves you just as much as you love them, and someone who loves you for exactly who you are! Best Wishes

[Heather]

Thank you so much I am slowly starting to do it.....with the help of friends on here, and in real life I appreciate all of you!! thank you.

[kymccloud]

I'm sure you would do the same if it happened to one of us. Just remember that you can be strong. Hold your head up!

[Heather]

Of course I would! I am trying my best.

[Lippitt02]

ok i have to post because yes its me that was with heather, things were not right for ages and i wont go into details because i have moved on the people that know me best know that i wouldnt do this for no reason, there are two sides to every story and what happened, happened. sometimes you have to admit when something isnt right and my problem was i new it wasnt right but i i wanted to be proved wrong that never happened, i did fall for iris she was there to help me through tough times and again only when things calm down will i truly say what happened but only a select few people know and for now i will keep it that way