Strength..

[Heather]

Jason Please DO NOT post on my threads again, thank you.

[Heather]

this thread, was meant for me to get the strength to do what I need to do, I do NOT need you(Jason) to make this worse for me. Please stop, do not comment again, leave it.

[Heather]

To Michelle --- Is there any way you can delete those past 3 posts? I would like to keep my thread for the reason it was posted. Not for that. Please? Thank you.

[NikkiP]

Given that this post wasn't bashing your SO at all I'm going to state my feelings that I think the above was pretty inappropriate and unnecessary.

Sweety, everybody who crosses your path is going to teach you something new. I do mean everyone. No matter how important they are to you, spending any amount of time in your life will have an impact. I'm sorry that you're hurting. I promise you that there is something good that will come out of this. Don't feel like you have to hop right back in the water to get over this. Clearly, it was not meant to be.

You will get over this and you will be a stronger person because of it. Glad you are staying in the forums.

Let me know if you need anything.

[Heather]

I was not bashing him at all. This thread was simply so that I could get the strength that I need to move on. I do not get that support at home, the ONE person who knows that the most IS Jason. Deep inside whether he wants to believe it or not, he knows how truly alone I am during this time. I need support, I need strength. I was not at all expecting any of this, nor was I expecting him to come on and post to my thread..

Nothing needs to be explained, nothing at all.
Jason knows as well as I know where BOTH of us went wrong in our relationship.


I will get my closure, I will grieve, I will move on. Please let me grieve. Please......but at the same time of all of that. I will never stop loving him. I know in my heart, my love was pure and true.

[mllebamako]

I think Nikki meant that you hadn't bashed him in the original post so he had no reason to come here and add in his post.

Anyway, if you really want the posts removed: message Michelle directly and I'm sure she will do it for you. But she probably won't see your note if it's just in your post.

I really feel for you in this situation. But I am glad that you are keeping positive and remembering that things will get better. This is not the end of your life or your development as a person, you are so strong and you'll make it through this.
PM me if you want to talk. I'm here for you.We all are.

ps. I know Michelle can also change your username if you message her directly

[Heather]

Thank you so much I will message her, and sorry Nikki if I took your post the wrong way!

[NikkiP]

I think Nikki meant that you hadn't bashed him in the original post so he had no reason to come here and add in his post.

This! This is what I meant! I was just trying to be... nice about my feelings. ;-)

[Stephanieeee]

I have honestly started to realize that I can move on, it's definitely going to be difficult. I'm going to struggling for a long time to get over him. I'm going to fight between my head and my heart. I know that I need to move on and think about myself, I've been trying. I want the best for me, and I want the best for him(I really honestly do) no matter what I will love him forever. I hope nothing that happiness for him, of course I want it to be with me. But I know that I need to do things for me. When I keep myself busy and I do other things, I don't hurt as much because I'm not thinking about him as much..but when I really start thinking about him, it hurts a lot...I'm not leaving the site. I need strength from you guys, and encouragement. I love reading your stories etc. So good luck with all you guys have and I know that someday I will find true happiness. I will find someone to love me for who I am

this made me so happy. thats the exact mindset you should have right now, regardless of the situation or the other girl or his feelings. this is about you at this point. period.
and getting over him will happen, dont let the time intimidate you or anything.
<3

[Heather]

Thank you Stephanie <3 I know having a positive attitude and looking towards the future will only benefit ME later in life!

[Zephii]

This is something I was told when I broke up with the pedophile. It made me feel better, so I'm going to pass it on to you...

Real life break ups are not like Hollywood break ups. There isn't always a good person and a bad person. Sometimes there are two very nice, wonderful people but they simply are not meant to stay together. Neither one of you are a bad person. It helps to remember this when your friends and family are all saying "we told you so" "you're better off" and all that. I know that for a while you'll have mixed feelings of hurt and anger and that people gloating over the end of your relationship wont help you move on. I'm sorry they can't be there for you the way you need them to be.

Stay strong xx We're all still here for you.

[ber6810]

heather, we jsut became friends, but your so strong. keep in mind what i told you. and keep your head up. it can't rain forever. everything in life makes you who you are and everything happens for a reason.. i'm always here if you need me!

[Heather]

Wow, that's wonderful Zephii, thank you very much

I know neither one of us were "bad" people. Jason is an AMAZING person and I know that I am wonderful too. We were just in a very bad situation. I can move on, I know it. I can become stronger. I will. It's just going to take me time..when people tell me "get over it, move on" "we told you so" I ignore them, delete them, whatever I have to NOT to hear that, because I need to grieve, I need to feel the way I am feeling in order to truly be happier in life afterwards. If I do not grieve and I do not allow myself time to heal, this will only hurt me in the long run. I am trying my best to stay positive.

[Zephii]

That's the spirit mate

[Stephanieeee]

yay. and at some point if you're too loose the optimism, its understandable. we've got your back and stuff.