Fighting

[Stephanieeee]

Me and Kyle like, never fight. I can maybe think of 3 or 4 occasions where we have gotten a little nastier then nessacary, but we really don't scream or yell or anything like that. I think its good that our communication is so solid, but I think it would be interesting to see what its like to be the object of his wrath. His temper can get pretty crazy, just not with me. Hmm.

Anyway, How do you and your beloved fight?
Is there yelling and such, or do you just talk it out?
Whats the most serious argument you have ever gotten into?
Do you ever have to stop yourself from yelling about certain things?

[Lexi]

We... I hate to say... never fight. It's not in his nature to fight or hold grudges, and I can be pretty hot-tempered but talking to him keeps me calm and rational. We just agree on pretty much everything and never really have anything to fight about. This will probably change when we move in together, but I can't imagine it'll ever get too heated.

The ONE fight we had, I came across some very inappropriate and rude texts he was sending to other girls and basically threatened to just end our relationship because I have never once lead another guy on and it wasn't fair to me that he was basically "sexting" these other girls or complaining about me. UGH. thinking about it makes my blood boil, but that fight was mostly me yelling and being right, and it ended with promises of fidelity and never again. So far, so good .

[garnet]

Anyway, How do you and your beloved fight?

Hmm. He goes off to another room to be alone, and often emails me. I get snippy and shut down emotionally. Thankfully we don't run into this too often lol.

Is there yelling and such, or do you just talk it out?

Very very very rarely do we yell. I could count on one hand how many times it's gone that far. We talk or email (what can I say, our relationship was built on email communication, and we got good at it!)

Whats the most serious argument you have ever gotten into?

We've had a lot of stupid fights that we took seriously. Most of these were while we were at a distance though.

Do you ever have to stop yourself from yelling about certain things?

Not so much, yelling isn't the best way to communicate with Rane.

[Casey]

Hahaha, we yell, we fight, we scream when we really get into it!
We are usually drunk though when we really yell! - so we are all good in the morning lol
Since we went lond distance we have gotten better at talking things out, or we can simply disconnect the call (childish I know) but sometimes it's just "you are really annoying me, so I'm gonna call you back later when I calm down"
Five years together - and we are complete opposites so there is bound to be fights but we get over them pretty quickly cause we (usually I) yell them out, and then when the moments over the other person is like "do you feel better now? get that off your chest? yes? good, now what are the issues you want to deal with?"

[ber6810]

i hate to say it to.. but we never fight. and yes he has that side too but just not with me. i truly feel lucky, and i wonder if we ever did fight i probably would be th emost over dramatic ball of emotions..

[nic&matt]

Fights are healthy and common. I've had many arguments with my boyfriend over different reasons, big and small. The most crucial aspect is to talk it out and be open. I will be the first to admit, I'm a stubborn horse. I hate admitting I'm wrong and most of all, that others are right. This makes it very difficult for me to see his side on the topic or convey mine with ease. It's something I'm always working on and want to improve. The most difficult argument we've had is the future. We've had discussions over what we want to do, where we want to go, and how they other person fits in with "our plans". Plans, however, don't always match up and it's hard to take it one visit at a time when the future is what you're aiming for....
I do stop myself from yelling, and I'm a yeller. The most important thing that we've decided, a long time ago, was to never hang up on eachother, no matter how heated it gets, and it gets heated!!! Looking back I'm so thankful I have never done that because it forces us to work out the problem, value eachother, and take one step closer to finding out things about eachother.
Fighting is good to build communication and respect. I feel the most close to him after we sloved an issue. When we've solved big issues, everything else seems relatively easy in comparison and it's comforting to know that we work well together as a team!
Good luck on this debate and other future arguments! The outcome is always better than you think it will be!

[Stephanieeee]

Hahaha, we yell, we fight, we scream when we really get into it!
We are usually drunk though when we really yell! - so we are all good in the morning lol
Since we went lond distance we have gotten better at talking things out, or we can simply disconnect the call (childish I know) but sometimes it's just "you are really annoying me, so I'm gonna call you back later when I calm down"
Five years together - and we are complete opposites so there is bound to be fights but we get over them pretty quickly cause we (usually I) yell them out, and then when the moments over the other person is like "do you feel better now? get that off your chest? yes? good, now what are the issues you want to deal with?"

Ah, I bet the distance is doing wonders for your communication Thats wonderful. But yeah, that sounds like a pretty healthy way to fight. Sometimes you've just gotta yell.

[Lexi]

Ah, I bet the distance is doing wonders for your communication Thats wonderful. But yeah, that sounds like a pretty healthy way to fight. Sometimes you've just gotta yell.

There are times I wish we would get into passionate heated yelling fights, just for excitement and to stir things up, only, I'd be the only one yelling and I'd just seem like a bitch... but I should probably enjoy the peace and quiet for now.

[blankita719]

We argue, but don't yell. He's insanely level headed and whenever I am emotionally reacting to something, he just starts logically breaking it down, which makes it difficult to argue. Plus, we've both got kids in our respective houses and I try to not let my son see me get that upset, so we just don't yell.

[Stephanieeee]

There are times I wish we would get into passionate heated yelling fights, just for excitement and to stir things up, only, I'd be the only one yelling and I'd just seem like a bitch... but I should probably enjoy the peace and quiet for now.

Hahaha, seee, I feel the same way. I mean, I dont like fighting with him...but just once it would be nice to hear him go crazy. Just for a change of tune. hahaha, but I dont have the balls to provoke that type of anger in him.

[samglam209]

We also fight quite a bit. Usually we don't yell. If anyones going to it's him,for the most part sometimes I yell back but usually I just get defensive because he fights by attacking the other person and I fight differently thinking about what I did wrong and what I can do to communicate well. I think me doing that has helped him to be better about it though. One of the most serious and common fights we have is about me not giving him time to himself.

[Casey]

Ah, I bet the distance is doing wonders for your communication Thats wonderful. But yeah, that sounds like a pretty healthy way to fight. Sometimes you've just gotta yell.

Yep the distance is actually doing crazy good things for our relationship. Since we have been together since I was 15 & him 16, I think it was good for us both to have 6 months physically apart to establish ourselves as well, ourselves, and to still know we want each other!
Back to the fighting though - we are both loud, talkative, and passionate, so I think it would be very weird for us not to yell when we fight sometimes. Sometimes when we are arguing and the other person is very quiet, we feel as though the other person doesn't want to sort it out.. haha we are funny sometimes
Most of our fights were about simple domestic things - like not cleaning/fixing/doing something - LDR makes us appreciate what the other DID do!

[michy]

In a year and a half we've never truly fought. We've had a few... hmm, "debates" is probably the best word, usually if I'm upset about something (me being the sensitive/emotional one!), but they've not been heated, all rational and civil. We've had a few misunderstandings, but work them out usually within the hour and without a proper arguement. He's gotten on my nerves a few times with little things, lol- as I'm sure I have with him- but the sort of stuff I'd just laugh off after a minute.

But one of us will push the other too far at some point... and in a strange way I'm kinda curious to find out just how he gets mad, and what he's like when he's angry... because I don't know!! It's one of the last big mysteries as to how his mind works that I've not had a chance to work out yet! But he's one of the most laid-back people I know, though, so I don't expect anything too shocking...

I have a hard time seeing us yelling at one another... I don't raise my voice, hardly ever. Basically, the madder I get, the quieter my voice gets, which I'm told can be pretty disconcerting, lol. :P

[Čternity]

We aren't really fighters either. I think we have gotten to the point of resolving what we can and having the sense or patience not to fight about what's out of our control.

[Karringtyn]

We argue, but don't yell. He's insanely level headed and whenever I am emotionally reacting to something, he just starts logically breaking it down, which makes it difficult to argue. Plus, we've both got kids in our respective houses and I try to not let my son see me get that upset, so we just don't yell.

We are basically the same way!