Hmmm...What if you could??

[Trethsparr]

I told him after 3 weeks, which was a huge deal at the time. Besides, we were already saying I really really really really really really really like you, so it was pretty much time XD.

Sounds a lot like my SO and I, except it was after six weeks instead of three. We both wanted to be sure and didn't want to rush into saying it. I, however, was ready to say it before he was, but I didn't want to jump the gun. Instead I said phrases like, "I care about you very deeply." It was hard because I wanted to use the "l" word, but I was glad I waited for him to say it first. I knew then that we were both on the same page. See, the word and its implications were important to him (plus he'd never used it before in a romantic sense), so he didn't want to just throw it out there frivolously. I appreciate his patience very much.

[paulawriteslove]

He told me the moment that he knew that he loved me. I remember being in complete shock and didn't know what to do or say. After a few weeks I knew that I felt the same way and then I told him.

[hxcbreakdance]

He told me before we came "official", basically we had been seeing each other without actually being boyfriend and girlfriend for months. We both found ourselves holding back from saying it and one day he just came right out and said it, he said he didn't care it if people thought it was too soon. Right after he said that I told him I loved him too. I think it's different for everyone and if you love someone you should say it, like some others have said on here don't hold back!

[NikkiP]

grr I know I've written this already somewhere but I can't find it. it happened fast. We were laying in bed on the night of my first visit and he told me that it would be hard not to fall in love with me. I'd told him "I really like you" all day long and I was half asleep and I pulled him closer to me and said "I love you, Ryan" and he said it back. Thaaaaaaat was when I knew I'd be starting an LDR.

[princessmia]

If you love him, tell him! I mean, if you've known each other all that long...TELL HIM.
Say something like 'We've known each other for a very long time, and the last time that we were together, _______________.' Just be completely honest, say what's on your mind...how you FEEL.

I met my SO online, and he told me 2 weeks after we were talking, and he said he fell much sooner than that. To be honest he shocked me and I was denying my feelings for him when we first started talking because I was in an LDR before and I didn't want to get hurt again, and I couldn't say it for the longest time because I'm messed up, but eventually I said it, and it's really hard to say it first time, because I'd never TRULY been in love before, and when I finally said it, it just felt right, and saying it made me even more in love with him. Now, I say it more than he does x)

But honestly. He's in an LDR with you. You obviously like each other a LOT. And who knows, maybe he's afraid to say it because he doesn't know how you're going to react as well?

GOOD LUCK

[MissShortie]

I don't think it's ever to soon in my opinion. My SO told me he loved me before we were even going out, and he had only known me for maybe 2 weeks?
I waited to tell him back tho because I thought it was to soon, but after a week I didn't care I was crazy about him and told him asap

[TknandLvnIt]

Thanks for the advice everyone :-)! I really want to tell him but I am trying to be patient. He has only told one girl and she was his first love and he has dated since then and not said it even when they did because he didn't feel it...Like others were saying he doesn't want to say it unless he means it. I know that I shouldn't hold back and every time I talk to him especially when we are together...I just feel like I'm going to explode. While he was visiting last week I remember leaning over him and looking into his eyes...and he told me the reason he had been so grumpy all week was because he was realizing that he more than kinda liked me...I wanted to tell him then...but didn't. But I want it to be mutual it would be horrible for me if I told him and he didn't say it back...How did you ladies deal with the wait in between? There is nothing stronger or higher or deeper than love when its true and if I have to wait for him to realize that he loves me I'm willing to do that. I love being with him...and I'm hoping it will be even sweeter after the wait when we both are willing to surrender to the feelings.

[Kalmyia]

I think its important to tell someone you love them if you really do.. dont hold back your feelings. you just know when the right time to say it is.

This is definitely true. I think I waited all of 3 weeks before I couldn't hold myself back anymore so I called my SO on her way to work. I know she was beaming all day long. There is never a wrong time to let them know how you feel.

[kymccloud]

My SO and I have known each other for 6-7 years we were best friends for almost 2 before we started dating. We waited about a month after dating before saying it. It was new years and we were spending the night at my moms house in the spare room. I could tell he was nervous but he wanted to let me know. I think we both knew we love each other we were just scared to say it. I'm glad we did though.

[LostInLove]

I...waited for him say if first. I have issues, and if I said it first I would worry he was only saying it back because I said it. Pretty ridiculous, I know. So I'm not a good example for you. But yes, we were only going out for 2 months, and had known each other for 4. And my friend at work and her bf fell in love after a couple weeks :P. So your timing is completely reasonable. I agree with the rest of the people here, if you love him then say it!

[noodle]

I personally think there is no rule to wait a certain time. It's the same with sex.
My SO was tellin me he loves me months before we even considered datin, for him it was the right time, for me it wasn't.
It took me a while till I could freely say it, before it felt as if I had somethin in my throat and pretty much choked it out lol
If you feel like its the right time just do it!
I mean like, if you say you love him you're just tellin him how you feel inside right?
I know this will kinda sound kinda cruel but if you say the 3 words it doesnt mean you have to marry him right now or whatever you are just expressing your feelings towards him.

One of my close friends has been datin her bf for about 6-7 months (they're also some sort of LDR - see each other every weekend almost) and she said not too long ago that whenever he says he loves her she can only say "love you too" and if she says the 3 words its just cause she doesnt want him to be hurt. So I wonder why is she even datin him if she cant say it/doest feel like it?
But you love your bf so why not tell him? There's nothin more wonderful than hearin the 3 magical words from the one you love