Well, actually we probably both do. For those of you who don't know that much, here is a little background: I'm 19, my boyfriend is 17. He's still in high school, I'm not. I went to school but it didn't work out, and I can't get a job (along with the other 70% of the people in my age group who are unemployed.) But anyway, we met online, and we haven't met yet. We're constantly struggling. Yesterday my SO, Alex came up with a serious idea--that we save up money for ourselves and such, even though we both don't have jobs it's pretty possible. We were aiming for Spring Break, that's our goal. Our plan was for I to fly down somehow for that time. Where's the problem, you are asking?
Both of our parents don't want their kid going down, they want the other person coming up. My mom walked in when Alex and I were looking at flights to get an idea of prices and she kinda got upset with me, telling me that there is no way that I am being allowed to go down there to the States, because both my parents think that I'm going to get hurt in some way, which of course is true, and they don't want me going down to meet a family I don't know and haven't met before, therefore, if something goes wrong I'll be stuck. I'm 19. I would be paying for it. And the answer is still no. Which as if any parents themselves is reading this, I get their point. I truly, truly do.
Alex isn't allowed to leave by his parents either. They won't let him leave until his grades are good enough in their standards, which is pretty tough. They were going to let him come here in Spring Break, but they made the decision and told him that he wasn't allowed to go. That was a long night. The problem here, is that they don't want him leaving the same reasons that my parents do--both parents want the other person coming up here.
At this point, I don't really care who goes where. But I think that the only way I would be allowed to go there, or even have my SO acknowledged by my dad (he thinks Alex is VIRTUAL...grrrrr!) Is if my dad meets him, face to face.
I know you're probably thinking get a job Melissa. I'm looking. But in the New Year I'm going to see a Career Counselor and hopefully sign up for school, because the previous career choice I made didn't work out and wasn't for me.
I just...I don't know what to do, I was so upset about this last night, I actually wasn't talking to my mom all that much last night, or anyone else last night. I was kinda just keeping to myself--not wanting to deal with anyone.
I know you're going to see my signature and see that we've only been talking for over 6 months. I know that that isn't a long time, I've been told that before, I just I don't there's a specific time limit people should meet--someone's told me before to wait longer. I've seen people on here meet after 2 months of talking.
I just want a time frame. A date. If Alex does good with school this coming semester, he says his parents will let him go, and he said the earliest would be next summer. And even then, there is no guarantee.
Anyone please, if you've taken the time to read all of this, thank you SO MUCH. It means so much to me. If you have any piece of advice, anything, I'll take it. Anything that would help us in any little way. I feel as though we're stuck in mud, and the only thing we can do is keep time going...and even then there is no guarantee when we can take the first real step in our relationship together.
Both of our parents don't want their kid going down, they want the other person coming up. My mom walked in when Alex and I were looking at flights to get an idea of prices and she kinda got upset with me, telling me that there is no way that I am being allowed to go down there to the States, because both my parents think that I'm going to get hurt in some way, which of course is true, and they don't want me going down to meet a family I don't know and haven't met before, therefore, if something goes wrong I'll be stuck. I'm 19. I would be paying for it. And the answer is still no. Which as if any parents themselves is reading this, I get their point. I truly, truly do.
Alex isn't allowed to leave by his parents either. They won't let him leave until his grades are good enough in their standards, which is pretty tough. They were going to let him come here in Spring Break, but they made the decision and told him that he wasn't allowed to go. That was a long night. The problem here, is that they don't want him leaving the same reasons that my parents do--both parents want the other person coming up here.
At this point, I don't really care who goes where. But I think that the only way I would be allowed to go there, or even have my SO acknowledged by my dad (he thinks Alex is VIRTUAL...grrrrr!) Is if my dad meets him, face to face.
I know you're probably thinking get a job Melissa. I'm looking. But in the New Year I'm going to see a Career Counselor and hopefully sign up for school, because the previous career choice I made didn't work out and wasn't for me.
I just...I don't know what to do, I was so upset about this last night, I actually wasn't talking to my mom all that much last night, or anyone else last night. I was kinda just keeping to myself--not wanting to deal with anyone.
I know you're going to see my signature and see that we've only been talking for over 6 months. I know that that isn't a long time, I've been told that before, I just I don't there's a specific time limit people should meet--someone's told me before to wait longer. I've seen people on here meet after 2 months of talking.
I just want a time frame. A date. If Alex does good with school this coming semester, he says his parents will let him go, and he said the earliest would be next summer. And even then, there is no guarantee.
Anyone please, if you've taken the time to read all of this, thank you SO MUCH. It means so much to me. If you have any piece of advice, anything, I'll take it. Anything that would help us in any little way. I feel as though we're stuck in mud, and the only thing we can do is keep time going...and even then there is no guarantee when we can take the first real step in our relationship together.
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