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    Bringing up...

    Moving in together.

    My SO and I are closing the distance in the spring. The plan as of now is that he will attend law school here, assuming that he is accepted. We should know in two or three weeks. If he isn't accepted at my university, we will both be moving to a new city, which will be decided when he gets all of his acceptances.

    We are planning on living apart if he moves here. I'm happy living with my roommates. I live in a nice neighborhood. The cost of living his low here, etc, etc, etc.

    However, if we both have to move to a new city, I'm starting to think that we should just live together. We're in a very committed relationship and get along perfectly together. We've never had any problems or been bored or tired of each other, even spending virtually every second together for weeks on end.

    Law school is very demanding. Most law students put in upwards of 60 hours a week between class, studying, writing, etc.

    I've come up with plenty of pro's and only one con to living together in this situation.

    PROS:

    Support- Considering the sheer amount of time law students spend with school related things, and the stress level of attending law school, it would be great for me to be able to be there to support him at the end of the day. Just to give him an ear to rant to, or give him a back rub, or whatever.

    It Would Make Things Easier For Him- He would have someone there to cook, keep things clean and organized, handle the bills, etc.

    Hawt Sex - Self explanatory.

    Time For Each Other- One of the biggest complaints in most law school relationships is the lack of time for each other. Living together would give us that time. We'd get to spend time together in the morning, and for dinner, and we would get to go to bed together every night. That would be time that we may not get otherwise.

    Financial Feasibility- Being not so wealthy college students, moving to a new city where the cost of living is significantly higher, it would be more financially wise for us to live together and split the bills. We would be able to maintain a better quality of life living together as well.

    Company- Moving to a new city where neither of us knows anyone, it would help for us to move in together so that we have company when we need it,

    CONS:

    Lack of Privacy- If we have a fight, we can't just go to our house, because we'll be there.

    How would YOU approach the subject with your SO?
    Last edited by Tabitha; December 23, 2010, 11:29 PM. Reason: Typo


    "If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
    - A. A. Milne

    #2
    Well you have plenty of good reasons why it's a good idea. I've never asked a guy before. My boyfriend actually brought up us moving in together when I move back to San Diego.
    It wont be easy but if you think you're ready to take that step then you should be ready to mention it to him. Just ask him what he was thinking if you can't live in your city and then say you were thinking it would be easier to live together because of all the reasons you listed above. Good luck with talking to him.

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      #3
      Well you certainly have more pros than cons. Which is a good thing! My SO and I sort of just decided that we'd be living together when we close the distance. Mostly for a money thing. I've never lived with a boyfriend before (have had plenty of roommates!) and was a little nervous. My mom explained like this "Guys are hairy, but the good sex makes up for it." I think I can live with that

      Just say "Honey... I've been thinking... financially and romantically I think it would be a lot of fun to live together. What do you think?"

      Good luck!

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        #4
        Thanks for the replies! Plan on bringing it up to him in the next week or two.


        "If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
        - A. A. Milne

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          #5
          yupp i agree, dont ask us ask him lol he is the one with the answer, what you have said in here im sure he would think its a good idea if you two are truly that committed there would be no point in not living together other then personal morals

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            #6
            Turns out, I didn't have to bring it up at all. He just did. Literally minutes ago.

            It seems that we will be living together in April!!!!
            Last edited by Tabitha; December 26, 2010, 09:55 PM. Reason: Update


            "If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
            - A. A. Milne

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              #7
              If you do decide to move in together, you should each plan one night a week where you hang out with friends. It gives you both some space and allocates time to miss each other. While it may be difficult, it will pay of in the end! Good luck! <3 Rae
              If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together...there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart...I’ll always be with you.

              ~ Winnie the Pooh

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