Longest you've gone without a phone call...

[xopookie]

I know my last thread was kinda weird about absence makes the heart grows fonder and stuff, but I haven't spoken to my honey in 4 days and it's been driving me crazy. (I haven't spoken to him because he went to Tokyo for New Years Eve and he's been busy with packing and stuff) . We spoke briefly on google chat but it's still not the same as a phone call. I never realized how much long distance depends on those everyday phone calls until now . I know for a fact that my long distance relationship probably couldn't of worked in the 80's or maybe 10 years ago because there's some many technology outlets that we can use to be able to speak to each easily on an international level. Can anyone relate? I've been feeling depressed about this lately and I never realized how much I loved him until I realized that not hearing his voice for 4 days makes me depressed. Also my 4 year anniversary with him is coming up and he's my 1st boyfriend

[LostInLove]

I can relate. When The Boy and I first started going out we were only talking on the phone a few times a week. But slowly that built up and we talk every day, even if it's just a quick phone call to say good night. Now I've gotten used to it, and if he can't call one night I feel a bit lonely.

Also, we used to Skype once a week but his computer's not really working so I hardly get to see his face anymore...I am DYING to skype with him.

[xopookie]

I see, that's understandable right now I'm dying for a message from him or something. This is super depressing.

[Yorkshire Girl]

Ah LDR's do depend and rely on communication, so when you dont get to speak to them it can be very hard.

Last week we didnt speak for 8 days. Spoke to him yesterday. He went away for the new year and I prefer to speak to him when he is on his own or something. So I spoke to him briefly yesterday and for 2 mins today. I probably wont get to speak to him now until the end of the week maybe even next.

[Sano]

4 days has been my max, and I was pissed for those 4 days too XD

[lucybelle]

Actually in the first part of our relationship we never called each other. We chatted or sent emails maybe one time a week. Well after more than a year of this, I told him I wanted him to contact me more. An email maybe once a week was not enough for me. So we started chatting almost every day Mon-Fri for 30 minutes or so. Finally like a month ago (after hearing people rave about Skype on here) I told him I wanted to try out my webcam. We now use Skype daily. And holy mess what a huge difference it is to actually HEAR him and SEE him, then just chatting. Oh it's so much more fulfilling. (even though his internet connection is real crappy so I can only see the outline of him, the rest is a blurry mess). Just knowing he's there is great.

So.. longest time without a phone call: 1 year+. Longest time without another form of communication: 2 weeks.

[Silviar]

We've never used phone, but the longest we've gone without voice chatting is three weeks. It was pretty difficult.

[milaya]

5 weeks, we exchanged two or three mails during that time.
We were just starting our relationship. I wasn't sure what we were at that time, since we did what couples do together, but we didn't label it.
He was off to work his 12 hour shifts (7 days a week) and I continued my travel around Japan.
It was my first relationship, so didn't really know what I was "allowed" to ask for and didn't know his work schedule. I didn't want to come off as pushy or clingy so I refrained myself from contacting him, before we were to meet again. Turns out he kinda did the same thing... he later told me he thought I was "playing/toying" with him.

The second time we were apart, (when we also had finally labeled our relationship), he called me once a week from his work.

Then we had a period of talking everyday and I actually found myself getting more needy and whiny that way XD I easily got sad and felt down if we for some reason couldn't talk for a day (didn't tell him that of course).

This time around we speak around 4 times a week. Which is maybe better for me. Since I don't see myself getting as down about not talking with him for a day.

[Dziubka]

When he went on a holiday trip with his mates last summer, we didn't speak for almost two weeks. There were lots of texts, mails and even a few postcards, but since they were staying somewhere else each night and in like three different countries, calling would have been very expensive.
Other than that... maybe two days, when we were both really busy or he didn't buy his skype plan on time.

[LadyMarchHare]

I think the last time I was on the phone with him was either October or September of last year. He tried calling once last month but I missed the call and he couldn't call back. I'm used to going weeks without communication of any sort and phone calls are the rarest in communication for us because during decent calling hours he's always at work.

[EBKitty]

Hmm we've actually never talked on the phone It's too expensive for either of us at the moment, so that's why we text, email, skype, and chat online.

[Micah]

The beginning of our relationship, we mainly just sent texts or sent emails to one another... we maybe talked on the phone once a week or once every 2 weeks. As our relationship has progressed, we usually average about every other day. We do text every day, but I find if we talk on the phone every day we run out of things to say. I do find that if I go more than 2 days without hearing his voice, I get bummed out. Hearing his voice definitely soothes me and makes me happy!

[Moon]

We never use phones, we're international and with all the other types of technology available, there's no need. We use GoogleTalk almost daily (Much nicer than Skype, imo), I log on when I get home from work, and we voice chat for about an hour or so, before he goes to bed. I can't get him to cam with me though, he's super shy and just hates the idea, although I'm workin' on it, since I really miss seeing him between visits! We only text very occasionally, usually if one of us knows we'll be late or can't make our usual chat time, or something.

It was sorta funny, on our last visit, he had a pre-paid SIM for me, so we could call each other since he had to work, and we only used it once, we forgot we could actually call each other for once

The longest we've gone without communication was about a week, when he's been on vacations with his friends. We're both lucky that we live in countries with very reliable internet service, I'm not sure how some of you manage with SO's in places with spotty service

[paulawriteslove]

The longest we've gone without a phone call or hear each others voice is 4 days. That was a almost two years ago when I went away for a week and had no phone service ><

[Zephii]

Actually, LDR is not a new thing at all. For example, Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barret-Browning were quite famous for their long distance love. They were poets back in the victorian era.

The longest Obi and I have gone without speaking (voice chat, msn text chat or phone) was roughly three months. It was just too expensive to call and I didn't have access to the internet. Like those famous poets, we relied on letters. It wasn't the end of the world.