He has left... :(

[Rach321]

So, I've been talking since I joined about the fact that my boyfriend would be going to Afghanistan for a year. Well... he's on a plane right now!

I'm feeling very much in disbelief right now, and am dreading the feeling I get when I realize I can't call to wish him good morning tomorrow. It's likely we won't talk for at least a couple of weeks, and we won't have regular contact until he gets internet set up in a couple of months.... The LONGEST we've gone without speaking is probably about 24 hours.

We had an amazing trip together last week, and we made many memories that I can look back to when I really miss him.

I just feel worried- worried for what might happen or what he might see, worried for our relationship and how we will be able to maintain our connection and continue to grow together, how I'll feel to not be able to call the person I'm closest to in the world whenever I want....

I'm so thankful that I have this site to come to. You guys are really the only people I know who can relate!

[Tanja]

I'm so sorry to hear that

I would really struggle in your situation to be honest. I don't know kind of what advice to give you cause I've never been in that kind of situation myself and I can't imagine how hard this must be for you but I hope you can use those great memories as a support and help you lift your spirit. I'm sure he misses you as much as you miss him.

The work he is doing is very important so be proud of him and know that he's gonna be thinking of you while he's away and most importantly HE WILL COME BACK. Focus on getting through the next couple of weeks until he gets his Internet and you can talk to him again.

What you two have is strong enough to survive this if you just want it to be. Loads of hugs ♥ ♥ ♥

Don't forget we're always here whenever you need!

[Mio]

I'm sorry to hear this!!! I wish you a lot of strenght! I hope you can comunicate soon with him, and that everything works out good! Best wishes!!

[Rach321]

Thank you both for your replies! They really mean a lot to me!

I woke up this morning and went straight to work, so it wasn't too bad. I felt really really tired from all the crying I did last night, but overall I'm handling it better than I thought I would.

I got a short email from him this afternoon when he reached the Dubai airport, which made me feel really happy because I wasn't expecting it. We also got to skype for a couple of minutes. It didn't work too well because skype is blocked in Dubai. But I got to see his smile, which really brightened my whole day. He'll be on another plane in a couple of hours, and I'm not sure when I'll hear from him next. But I really cherish these little conversations and will try not to count the hours/days til the next one!

Our plan is to meet in Europe in August for my best friend's wedding (rovided he is allowed a break). I'm focusing on the memories and reminding myself that summer is not that far away. Though it's soooo cold here right now... It feels as though Spring will never arrive! :S

[JoMarie]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm terrified of going through a DET with Kevin as I've only been through friendly DETS with him, never as a couple. I wish I could give you a hug!

[A Silence in Winter]

We all feel for you, Rach! As LDRers I think everyone on this site can understand how difficult it would be to have extremely limited contact with their SO. -hugs-

My boyfriend was considering joining the Navy at one point in time and he just about stopped my heart. I couldn't imagine being in that kind of a relationship. I'm so sorry you have to be so far away from him.

Take comfort in knowing that this story is going to have a happy ending! =) He'll be fine, especially if he knows that you love him with all of your heart and you will be rooting for him every minute he is away!

As for Summer... It's not far at all! Although when you're waiting for something like that it goes by so slow. :P Ugh. But it'll come by sooner than you realize. ^^

[Rach321]

I feel your hugs!

It still feels a bit unreal and I am hurting, but I am feeling confident that it's going to be ok.

[Tanja]

I feel your hugs!

It still feels a bit unreal and I am hurting, but I am feeling confident that it's going to be ok.

That's the spirit! Summer is so not far away, the wait always seems long but when you're actually back together it'll feel like it was just a blink of an eye when you were apart. Keep your chin up!

[Taija]

I can only imagine how tough that must be.

But try to stay strong! I know it feels like an eternity, but he will be back sooner or later.

[Ali&Jake]

*hugs* stay strong! Everything will be okay.