I'm a planner. Plain and simple, I need things to be planned out. I like checklists I can follow and make sure things are going to schedule. And even when things don't follow the plan I need to know there's still a path I can attempt to go back to. My plan right now is really shaky and it scares me. When all my friends are graduating I still have two yeas of school left in a major I still hven't decided on for a career I don't know if I really want. It's not a good plan, but at least it's something and I have to hold onto it.
My boyfriend is not a planner. He's got a ton on his plate with work, family and school that he's working through, but there's no plan there. For the most part this difference was never too much of a bother for us. That is until just recently when I realized how much it scares me that he doesn't have one.
I attempted to try to work something up for him, that we could discuss and see if he would like it, but I unfortuntely chose the worst time in which to bring it up which resulted in a less than nice conversation from which I am still recovering. We never truly resolved this issue of having no plan and I am afraid now of ever bringing it up again lest it lead us into yet another arguement. I don't know what to do.
I don't know if I'm looking about this all the wrong way. That I should have faith in the strength of our love and focus instead on the absolute here and now and know that with time we will somehow be together and make it works once that happens. Is it true that all I really need is love? Or do I need to go back to my plan, attempt once again to present my ideas to him and see if something can't be worked out. And if then, what if something really can't be worked out because our lives are just too much up in the air to try to direct it at this point?
Please...help?
My boyfriend is not a planner. He's got a ton on his plate with work, family and school that he's working through, but there's no plan there. For the most part this difference was never too much of a bother for us. That is until just recently when I realized how much it scares me that he doesn't have one.
I attempted to try to work something up for him, that we could discuss and see if he would like it, but I unfortuntely chose the worst time in which to bring it up which resulted in a less than nice conversation from which I am still recovering. We never truly resolved this issue of having no plan and I am afraid now of ever bringing it up again lest it lead us into yet another arguement. I don't know what to do.
I don't know if I'm looking about this all the wrong way. That I should have faith in the strength of our love and focus instead on the absolute here and now and know that with time we will somehow be together and make it works once that happens. Is it true that all I really need is love? Or do I need to go back to my plan, attempt once again to present my ideas to him and see if something can't be worked out. And if then, what if something really can't be worked out because our lives are just too much up in the air to try to direct it at this point?
Please...help?
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