Over the past 6 months or so, I've slowly been losing feelings for my SO. It really isn't anything he's done wrong, but I just think we've both changed a bit over the past 2 years and we may not be the best for each other anymore. I'm going off to college this summer and I have really big plans for myself. My SO's grades aren't good enough to get into many of the schools I'm looking at, and I don't want to sacrifice my chance at a better education just to be with him. I also really wouldn't enjoy being in a LDR for another 4 years, making 6 years total. I find myself wanting a partner with more ambition and drive to succeed.
When we're actually together it's nice. Nice, but not nearly as heavenly amazing as it used to be. The visits keep me going...for a while at least. But it's like with each visit, it takes a little less time for me to lose feelings for him. Our last visit was 3 weeks ago and it's already come to this. Not to mention he gets extremely paranoid when I am around other people, thus making it incredibly hard to make friends since I moved here 2 years ago.
Part of me wanted to just break up with him. But I guess I'm the sort of person who is bad at letting go. So I've decided to give the relationship another chance, and "take a break" for a few weeks to see how life is without him. Honestly its going really well, but we'll see what happens next week when I'm back in school. Part of me wants this to be the end but part of me doesn't. However, most of the emotions convincing me to stay with him are guilt, sentimentality, and the fear of being alone. I just wanted to come on here for some advice, if anyone has some to share.
Was taking a break a bad idea? Is there anything I can do to keep the relationship, or should I just give it up?
When we're actually together it's nice. Nice, but not nearly as heavenly amazing as it used to be. The visits keep me going...for a while at least. But it's like with each visit, it takes a little less time for me to lose feelings for him. Our last visit was 3 weeks ago and it's already come to this. Not to mention he gets extremely paranoid when I am around other people, thus making it incredibly hard to make friends since I moved here 2 years ago.
Part of me wanted to just break up with him. But I guess I'm the sort of person who is bad at letting go. So I've decided to give the relationship another chance, and "take a break" for a few weeks to see how life is without him. Honestly its going really well, but we'll see what happens next week when I'm back in school. Part of me wants this to be the end but part of me doesn't. However, most of the emotions convincing me to stay with him are guilt, sentimentality, and the fear of being alone. I just wanted to come on here for some advice, if anyone has some to share.
Was taking a break a bad idea? Is there anything I can do to keep the relationship, or should I just give it up?
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