Soulmates and happy marriages !!

[FadedSunrise]

I don't believe in a single soulmate either, but I believe in soul connections. There are people in your life that you meet, and after a while, realize that whatever happens they're going to be with you for the rest of your life. It can be a SO, a best friend, a sister, whatever. My best female friend and I, somehow I just know that even if we go to law school at the opposite ends of the country, study around the world away from each other, we're going to end up going to each other's weddings and being old women on the porch together.

The SO I just broke up with, it feels more like we're only apart in name. I accept the fact that 5, 10, 15 yrs down the line it will turn out that he is not meant to be the one I will end up with. However, I know no matter what we've established a connection and nothing is going to break it.

Do I have words to describe either of these? Nothing better than-they're both comfortable, warm presences in my heart.

[TknandLvnIt]

That is very kind of you :-). I think that the main thing is being able to get to know each other. I spent a lot of time just getting to know him and seeing if he fit what I wanted for my husband and vice versa. I think its great that family is involved in arranged marriages I appreciate your perspective because a lot of times people put a very negative spin on it. I think that thinking about long term and family involvement are both very important for us. I want to make sure that our lives will blend together, that we want the same things for the future but also that we match individually. I think a blend of the two would probably be the best approach when considering marriage.

[lucybelle]

That is what is the culture shock and difference I am talking about.We respect our parents and the society. I have posted a separate thread with the title Indian Guy - American Girl. If you may then please share your opinion there too.

(I'm too ADD to have read through all these posts so I hope I'm not repeating something...)

One of my best friends is from India. She moved to the USA with her family when she was 13 (about 10 years ago). Her parents were a love marriage. They were actually arranged to marry other people, and ran away to get married to each other But now that my friend is nearing the age where she "should be married", she is fine with an arranged marriage option. She basically told me that if she doesn't get married in the next two years, then she'll do an arranged marriage. She's met potential matches before, but hasn't liked any of them. Her parents are okay with her taking her time, but at the same time want her to get married. Her mom is always asking why I'm not married yet!

I really like that sort of blend of cultures that she has. Even though she has spent almost 1/2 her life in the USA, she is still holding onto the customs from her home country. She's realistic about it. I, personally, can't wait til she gets married. TRIP TO INDIA!!!!

[angel85]

I wanted to share with everyone that i came to see my so and we got engaged will get marry soon . I think that when its the moment you got to follow your heart . Thanks to have found the one iam the happiest women .