some have it so good...

[ber6810]

i agreee, i see alot more CD arguments then LD ones

it makes me very thankfull<3<3

[Rugger]

Ug. I've had this once. My best friend was complaining about how she didn't see her boyfriend everyday whine whine whine. HE LIVES 15 MINUTES AWAY!

I told her the next time she complained, I was going to punch her in the arm.

[Zephii]

i feel like hey if they can't deal with a few days.. how would they deal with months??

From someone who's been on both sides of the fence I feel I can answer this.
It's different. It's a different kind of missing.
Tonight Obi works late. I don't even know how late as yet. And I'll miss him. Yes, I saw him thismorning before work. Does that mean I wouldn't be able to handle an LDR? Of course not. Canada to Australia LD wasn't a walk in the park. Hell, there were three months in there we only had snail mail for communication, and it didn't occur to me that I even had something I could complain about! I just did it.

Personally, I didn't find LDR that hard. We met online. We'd always been LDR. We were good at it. He might have been in Canada, but he was still everything I needed. I missed him, but the quality of missing was different. How to explain? I felt like my life was on pause, like I was always waiting. It was inconvenient being attached to my pc constantly. I didn't like people treating me like I was single when I wasn't. I wanted him there, sometimes so badly I couldn't function like a normal person. But it wasn't the end of the world. But when he's gone now, or when he gets home stupidly late from work I feel like it is the end of the world. It's safe for me to say I miss him a lot more now then when we were LD. Because now, he could be with me all the time, but isn't. When we were LD, that's just the way it was.

If that make sense.

[ber6810]

Idk why i never wrote my intro properly.. but for the people who do know. i HAVE been on both sides of the fence. so yes zephii i do know where you are coming from.
we went to the same college. and we were majoring in the same thing.. we never really talked our first trimester of school. second trimester in my corrections class he was partnered up with me. and we became close started texting etc . third tri in school about this time last year. we started going on little dates... talking every night blah blah blah.. school ended the end of may we still werent
a couple idk how it would work since he was from NJ we continued talking blah blah blah. first week of june he invited me up for the weekend.. so i went then we became official he asked me out under the shark exibit at the aquarium lol well yea we had all intentions on him coming back to school in september which would only mean 3 months distance in august.. teh week before it was move in day.. his mom got really sick she still is.. she has MS. and anxiety.. bryan being the good son he is..drops school out here and is attending college in NJ to take care of his mom.. while his selfish brother goes away and his careless stepdad drinks all day henceee we are still LD =/
i do agree the missing is different.. idk.. i just like i said cant help but get the anger jealousy

[Butterfly]

thankkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk you for this.

i feel like people think i am nagging or being spitefull.. and maybe a little. but i thought this is what this was for? hmmm :/

You're not nagging at all & I for one can totally agree. We have this forum to vent it out, so vent it out we shall do!

Of course every relationship has problems, but I do believe being in an LDR makes most problems just a little bit harder. I do get jealous when I hear friends talking about doing everyday things.. like going to the mall, falling asleep together, watching a movie, GOING TO SEE A MOVIE!! (I would LOVE to go see a movie with my SO.. Everytime I see a new preview I think "Oh he would love this!" But, nope. He's not frickin' here!) So yes, I understand where you are coming from. Of course I don't blame people in CDR's - but sure, I do get a little envious when my couple friends get to enjoy those little things everyday.

(Although, on the flip side, I'm sure there are many people in CDR's who are envious of NOT having to see your SO everyday - LOL!! Kidding

[Butterfly]

I know it's difficult...I struggled SOO bad with this for months....trust me I DO understand. I guess I have just come to the conclusion I am going to just focus on what I have and KNOW that I am blessed. All my sad emotions were a waste of my energy...

That is such a good attitude. I need to learn how to completely get to that point!

[Silviar]

From someone who's been on both sides of the fence I feel I can answer this.
It's different. It's a different kind of missing.
Tonight Obi works late. I don't even know how late as yet. And I'll miss him. Yes, I saw him thismorning before work. Does that mean I wouldn't be able to handle an LDR? Of course not. Canada to Australia LD wasn't a walk in the park. Hell, there were three months in there we only had snail mail for communication, and it didn't occur to me that I even had something I could complain about! I just did it.

Personally, I didn't find LDR that hard. We met online. We'd always been LDR. We were good at it. He might have been in Canada, but he was still everything I needed. I missed him, but the quality of missing was different. How to explain? I felt like my life was on pause, like I was always waiting. It was inconvenient being attached to my pc constantly. I didn't like people treating me like I was single when I wasn't. I wanted him there, sometimes so badly I couldn't function like a normal person. But it wasn't the end of the world. But when he's gone now, or when he gets home stupidly late from work I feel like it is the end of the world. It's safe for me to say I miss him a lot more now then when we were LD. Because now, he could be with me all the time, but isn't. When we were LD, that's just the way it was.

If that make sense.

Ah but my dear, the difference is you're not whinging about a fixable situation.

[murphfan51]

At school is the worse, when my friends are snuggled up to their boyfriends and I just have this ache inside as I wish I could have that too!
I had a friend that would sook when he went home (finally noticed me, I was her best friend but she ditched me for her bf, no longer friends) and say I miss him so much, especially on fridays when that rare time her parents wouldn't take her to see him, and it made me so upset, 2 days??? I haven't seen my love for 7 months!!!
But I would much rather go through all this and have him rather then someone in a CD, I love my so to pieces, he is worth it!

[Jangle1901]

I get totally jealous when I see other people together, and wonder if they really know how lucky they are, and then wishing it was me. Like, if I end up hanging out with my bestfriend and her boyfriend, I can barely stand it. The always end up snuggling and kissing, and pretty much forgetting about me, and then I have to watch them in silence and think about how much I wish that was me. And even some of you guys on here, who get to see your SOs every couple of months, and realizing how lucky you guys are, too. I havn't ssen my SO since I met him, and would do anything to have even what you guys have. -sigh- I'm gonna stop mow before I totally start ranting.

[ber6810]

jangle i know what you mean about the bestfriend thing. Even
More so because they live together. She's always inviting me over or to go out with them. But i just dont want to sometimes. It sucks

[nic&matt]

Some have it good but others have it much worse and I'm always mindful of that. Something that has been hard on me though was my best friend also entered a LDR. She is my role-model, somone that I look up to. When she entered a LD, I thought, "So can I. It can work". Now, after one year she says it's to hard and is transferring to her SO's school....if she wasn't strong enough, I hope at least that I still am...I don't have that option....