A couple of days ago, my SO and I were talking about the future and we got into a bit of an argument. We are hoping to close the distance once we graduate, I still got a year and a half to go and he has 2 and half years left.
I’ve always told him that I want to move to Michigan, where he lives. I love it out there, he lives in the country and it’s so peaceful and beautiful. Lately, I’ve been thinking of the possibility of having him come here. When I told him about it he got a bit defensive. I don’t know if it is because he is so used to me saying that I want to go there that he never had to think about moving here. I talked to him about his reaction and he said he is not against the idea, but he doesn’t get it why all of the sudden I’m thinking differently.
I know we still have a long way to go before closing the distance but there have been a couple of reasons that are making me think about all the options again... I am studying Tourism Management and obviously would like to work in the tourism industry once I graduate. I feel like I have a bigger chance to find a job here in Montreal than in Michigan. Also, I don’t want to leave my family. I love them with all my heart, my little sister is only 6 years old and not being able to see her grow up would be very hard for me. I don’t want to lose everything I’ve got here; family, friends, etc.
I always ask myself, what if things don’t work out? What if I move there and later on we realize it’s just not what we thought it would be? He gets mad at me and says that if I think that way it'll never work between us, and I know what he means. Don’t get me wrong I love him more than anything, and our relationship is going great but it would be a HUGE change for me... I’m just a bit scared of giving up everything for him... Is it normal? Or am I just being crazy?
I live in Canada and he lives in the US and we are clueless when it comes to all the immigration process that we will have to go through. I don’t know if any of you know anything about it, but when it comes to that aspect... Would it be easier for me to move there or the other way around? I know that here in Quebec there’s a way to obtain all the papers without having to get married, it’s called the “Facto Union”. I don’t know a whole lot about it, I would have to do some research...
Please HELP! I don't know what to do anymore and I would appreciate everyone's opinion!!!!
I’ve always told him that I want to move to Michigan, where he lives. I love it out there, he lives in the country and it’s so peaceful and beautiful. Lately, I’ve been thinking of the possibility of having him come here. When I told him about it he got a bit defensive. I don’t know if it is because he is so used to me saying that I want to go there that he never had to think about moving here. I talked to him about his reaction and he said he is not against the idea, but he doesn’t get it why all of the sudden I’m thinking differently.
I know we still have a long way to go before closing the distance but there have been a couple of reasons that are making me think about all the options again... I am studying Tourism Management and obviously would like to work in the tourism industry once I graduate. I feel like I have a bigger chance to find a job here in Montreal than in Michigan. Also, I don’t want to leave my family. I love them with all my heart, my little sister is only 6 years old and not being able to see her grow up would be very hard for me. I don’t want to lose everything I’ve got here; family, friends, etc.
I always ask myself, what if things don’t work out? What if I move there and later on we realize it’s just not what we thought it would be? He gets mad at me and says that if I think that way it'll never work between us, and I know what he means. Don’t get me wrong I love him more than anything, and our relationship is going great but it would be a HUGE change for me... I’m just a bit scared of giving up everything for him... Is it normal? Or am I just being crazy?
I live in Canada and he lives in the US and we are clueless when it comes to all the immigration process that we will have to go through. I don’t know if any of you know anything about it, but when it comes to that aspect... Would it be easier for me to move there or the other way around? I know that here in Quebec there’s a way to obtain all the papers without having to get married, it’s called the “Facto Union”. I don’t know a whole lot about it, I would have to do some research...
Please HELP! I don't know what to do anymore and I would appreciate everyone's opinion!!!!
Comment