So EVERYONE is breaking up! I know someone else posted something along these same lines a couple days ago, but I felt like making a different post and maybe it'll make someone smile.. Although I'm rather selfish, this is mainly for me to remember all the good things about my relationship :P
I gotta say that my SO is perhaps one of the greatest men on earth (Don't we all say that?). Recently, he and I have been having a varied amount of difficulties with time, which is quite a significant factor in every LDR. I'm homeschooled and graduating in May; he's in his first semester in college. He has day classes as well as a job in the day so we don't talk much, and that gives me a lot of time to finish my high school classes and try to finish up in March or April instead of May.
We realized that he needs a switch in jobs for confidential reasons, but with that he'll need to work in the day and do classes at night. Fine right? Well.. Yeah, then I realized something. I'll be working starting as soon as I graduate (have a job lined up at my grandparents' business) which is the typical 8-5 job with an hour for lunch. That leaves me about 30 mins total, if my SO is not busy, to talk in the day. He'll end up getting home around 10 and I send him to bed at 10:30 because he needs to be up at 6:30 and he desperately needs the sleep to fully function in his busy schedule. Once I realized I get to call him for half an hour on some days, I quite frankly was a bit devastated. I've just gotten used to his going to college, now he's going to be gone more in the next semester.
He saw the look in my eyes (I have difficulty talking openly with virtually anyone as a result of my past) and immediately knew what was wrong. He comforted me, told me he loved me, and told me no matter what happens or how busy he is, he's always thinking of me and misses me and wishes he could hold me all day long. How sweet is that?
I have a much rougher past than he does, so I have many walls he's had to work hard to break through. Well as a result of my past, I have anxiety issues and depression issues amongst my 9 or 10 (I lost count) physical issues. Because of the anxiety and depression, anything that could seem insignificant can be made significant which leaves me a bit hard to deal with. This never seems to phase my SO. He and I were drifting a little far apart because of the lack of quality time together each day, so we ended up talking about it and it was fixed right up. This happens a lot with us -- he's so great to me and knows exactly what fixes every problem.
So I'm rambling now. Stop reading at any point :P
The whole thing I really wanted to say is this. Every relationship, no matter how hard it gets, can make it with the proper amount of tender love and care. Listening to each other, talking through problems, never getting off the computer with them or off the phone with them while upset, and understanding and embracing your differences. I'm happy to say that in the entire year he and I have known each other, we have never once had a true argument. We've had our differences of opinions, and have gotten frustrated with each other having a different point of view, but every time that's happened, we've been able to talk it through and find a mutual ground that we both agree on. If he's upset, or angry, or sad, or just having a really crappy day, somehow I'm able to fix it in 2 minutes flat. And somehow, he's able to do the same.
I love my SO more than I could ever love any man on this earth. He loves me more than I ever thought I could be loved by anyone! And I know that no matter what happens, he and I will never have to face what so many of you precious people are having to endure -- breakup. I now wear a promise ring with my name and birthstone, and his name and birthstone on it. It represents that I am promised to him forever, and he is promised to me and when the time is right, he and I will become engaged and proceed in getting married. And I honestly can't wait.
So everyone that has been feeling down as a result of the breakups posted here, remember. There's always hope. There are many people here that are head over heels in love with their SO, some that are finally closing the distance, and some that are engaged. So you can see, not everything ends in breakup. I know my relationship won't.
Ok I'm done rambling now. Toodles!
I gotta say that my SO is perhaps one of the greatest men on earth (Don't we all say that?). Recently, he and I have been having a varied amount of difficulties with time, which is quite a significant factor in every LDR. I'm homeschooled and graduating in May; he's in his first semester in college. He has day classes as well as a job in the day so we don't talk much, and that gives me a lot of time to finish my high school classes and try to finish up in March or April instead of May.
We realized that he needs a switch in jobs for confidential reasons, but with that he'll need to work in the day and do classes at night. Fine right? Well.. Yeah, then I realized something. I'll be working starting as soon as I graduate (have a job lined up at my grandparents' business) which is the typical 8-5 job with an hour for lunch. That leaves me about 30 mins total, if my SO is not busy, to talk in the day. He'll end up getting home around 10 and I send him to bed at 10:30 because he needs to be up at 6:30 and he desperately needs the sleep to fully function in his busy schedule. Once I realized I get to call him for half an hour on some days, I quite frankly was a bit devastated. I've just gotten used to his going to college, now he's going to be gone more in the next semester.
He saw the look in my eyes (I have difficulty talking openly with virtually anyone as a result of my past) and immediately knew what was wrong. He comforted me, told me he loved me, and told me no matter what happens or how busy he is, he's always thinking of me and misses me and wishes he could hold me all day long. How sweet is that?
I have a much rougher past than he does, so I have many walls he's had to work hard to break through. Well as a result of my past, I have anxiety issues and depression issues amongst my 9 or 10 (I lost count) physical issues. Because of the anxiety and depression, anything that could seem insignificant can be made significant which leaves me a bit hard to deal with. This never seems to phase my SO. He and I were drifting a little far apart because of the lack of quality time together each day, so we ended up talking about it and it was fixed right up. This happens a lot with us -- he's so great to me and knows exactly what fixes every problem.
So I'm rambling now. Stop reading at any point :P
The whole thing I really wanted to say is this. Every relationship, no matter how hard it gets, can make it with the proper amount of tender love and care. Listening to each other, talking through problems, never getting off the computer with them or off the phone with them while upset, and understanding and embracing your differences. I'm happy to say that in the entire year he and I have known each other, we have never once had a true argument. We've had our differences of opinions, and have gotten frustrated with each other having a different point of view, but every time that's happened, we've been able to talk it through and find a mutual ground that we both agree on. If he's upset, or angry, or sad, or just having a really crappy day, somehow I'm able to fix it in 2 minutes flat. And somehow, he's able to do the same.
I love my SO more than I could ever love any man on this earth. He loves me more than I ever thought I could be loved by anyone! And I know that no matter what happens, he and I will never have to face what so many of you precious people are having to endure -- breakup. I now wear a promise ring with my name and birthstone, and his name and birthstone on it. It represents that I am promised to him forever, and he is promised to me and when the time is right, he and I will become engaged and proceed in getting married. And I honestly can't wait.
So everyone that has been feeling down as a result of the breakups posted here, remember. There's always hope. There are many people here that are head over heels in love with their SO, some that are finally closing the distance, and some that are engaged. So you can see, not everything ends in breakup. I know my relationship won't.
Ok I'm done rambling now. Toodles!
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