Hey there, very new to the board but did read alot of threads last night. I hvent found anything similar to mine at the moment.
I have been with my gf for about 6 months now and did meet in an online community. We get along brilliantly and havent had any arguments, have always kept in touch via text, phone, skype, webcam ect. Im meant to be meeting her in March. Shes in the uk and im in australia. Anyway when we first met she told me her mother has Parkinsons Disease and recently it has got alot worse. Shes very lucky because she lives next door to her Mom and can go and help her. However its gotten alot worse because her Mother is now hallucinating due to her meds and she cant leave her Mothers side. While this has all been going on i have received 1 text a day and thts fine, i do know she has got her hands full atm.
However the last 3 days i have not recieved anything from her at all. I have kept my distance slightly, i have sent a couple of text msgs saying im thinking of her and there for her. I havent asked why she hasnt msged me bc i dont want to hassle the poor thing. Ive also checked with her friends on FB and they havent heard from her either.
Here is my dillemma. The last text msg said she feels like she is cracking up and cant handle anything in her life. So the last one i sent to her was im here for you , if you need to call ill keep my phone on at all times. Never heard from her again. So im really confused. This is going to sound incredibly selfish on my part. However it only takes a second to text someone to say there alright but yet she hasnt done that. She would know im absolutely worried about her, i dont need to tell her that. Im just finding it really difficult going from everyday contact (4 hours each time online together) to nothing. Ive decided to just give her some space for couple of days and not text her, but im so scared. Ive got all the "what if" thinking. Such as "what if her love has faded for me" "what if shes gong to dump me bc she feels she cant give any of herself for me anymore" Id willingly wait for her because what shes going through is not her fault. Its an uncontrollable circumstance. I just miss her so much and feel so helpless stuck here in Aus and not be able to hold her and be with her to help her through this tough time.
Dammmit i hate this, and feel so bloody terrible for her to.
Please someone help me out on this one coz sometimes i dont feel im coping too well. I do have depression myself but my anti depressants are keeping me afloat. However i can feel the edge of the anxiety and depression coming through somtimes.
Anywy do you this can be worked through? Plese any advice would be wonderful. Thankyou
Thanks
Anni
PS i sent her a text msg today saying that i know she has her hands full and that when she feels ready she can contact me, that im here for her always. I just hope i hear from her eventually. Next week is valentines day so im thinking of sending this bracelet i always wear so she has something of me with her.
I have been with my gf for about 6 months now and did meet in an online community. We get along brilliantly and havent had any arguments, have always kept in touch via text, phone, skype, webcam ect. Im meant to be meeting her in March. Shes in the uk and im in australia. Anyway when we first met she told me her mother has Parkinsons Disease and recently it has got alot worse. Shes very lucky because she lives next door to her Mom and can go and help her. However its gotten alot worse because her Mother is now hallucinating due to her meds and she cant leave her Mothers side. While this has all been going on i have received 1 text a day and thts fine, i do know she has got her hands full atm.
However the last 3 days i have not recieved anything from her at all. I have kept my distance slightly, i have sent a couple of text msgs saying im thinking of her and there for her. I havent asked why she hasnt msged me bc i dont want to hassle the poor thing. Ive also checked with her friends on FB and they havent heard from her either.
Here is my dillemma. The last text msg said she feels like she is cracking up and cant handle anything in her life. So the last one i sent to her was im here for you , if you need to call ill keep my phone on at all times. Never heard from her again. So im really confused. This is going to sound incredibly selfish on my part. However it only takes a second to text someone to say there alright but yet she hasnt done that. She would know im absolutely worried about her, i dont need to tell her that. Im just finding it really difficult going from everyday contact (4 hours each time online together) to nothing. Ive decided to just give her some space for couple of days and not text her, but im so scared. Ive got all the "what if" thinking. Such as "what if her love has faded for me" "what if shes gong to dump me bc she feels she cant give any of herself for me anymore" Id willingly wait for her because what shes going through is not her fault. Its an uncontrollable circumstance. I just miss her so much and feel so helpless stuck here in Aus and not be able to hold her and be with her to help her through this tough time.
Dammmit i hate this, and feel so bloody terrible for her to.
Please someone help me out on this one coz sometimes i dont feel im coping too well. I do have depression myself but my anti depressants are keeping me afloat. However i can feel the edge of the anxiety and depression coming through somtimes.
Anywy do you this can be worked through? Plese any advice would be wonderful. Thankyou
Thanks
Anni
PS i sent her a text msg today saying that i know she has her hands full and that when she feels ready she can contact me, that im here for her always. I just hope i hear from her eventually. Next week is valentines day so im thinking of sending this bracelet i always wear so she has something of me with her.
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