I'm graduating from my medical school in May I'll be doing my training (internship/residency) approximately 200 miles away from where I am now. The guy I am dating will be stuck in our current city for 2 more years because he's in grad school. Right now we've been dating for almost 5 months and by the time I leave it will be 7 months total of dating.
Although we live in the same city right now, we see each other perhaps two days a week just because we're both busy with school and also we enjoy our own space. But when we hang out together, we make the best of it, enjoy each other's company, and don't make a big deal about little petty things.
We both agree that it sucks and being in a LDR will be difficult since we're both busy. He said that it looks bad because his past relationships ended due to distance (however, one was 1500 miles apart and the other 4500 miles). But since we get along so great and really don't want to date anyone else, we decided we'll stick together right now and continue on as normal. When it's time for me to leave, we'll see how things are going and decide then whether or not to try an LDR.
My major concern is that if we do stay together, it will be hard to reunite in the same city. I could TRY to transfer after my first year of residency, but that will be pointless if he moves away after HE graduates in 2013. I think my best option would be to try to transfer to the same place he moves after he graduates, but even then it will be tricky. This transferring with residencies is complex.
This guy is someone I could definitely see myself with longterm, and that's probably the biggest, main reason why I want to continue seeing him after I move. I'm just worried about 1) the fact that we haven't been dating long, 2) our busy schedules, and 3) how/when we will reunite.
Does it sound like we have a chance? Would you attempt a long distance relationship if you were in our positions and really cared about each other? Or would you just end it right now?
Although we live in the same city right now, we see each other perhaps two days a week just because we're both busy with school and also we enjoy our own space. But when we hang out together, we make the best of it, enjoy each other's company, and don't make a big deal about little petty things.
We both agree that it sucks and being in a LDR will be difficult since we're both busy. He said that it looks bad because his past relationships ended due to distance (however, one was 1500 miles apart and the other 4500 miles). But since we get along so great and really don't want to date anyone else, we decided we'll stick together right now and continue on as normal. When it's time for me to leave, we'll see how things are going and decide then whether or not to try an LDR.
My major concern is that if we do stay together, it will be hard to reunite in the same city. I could TRY to transfer after my first year of residency, but that will be pointless if he moves away after HE graduates in 2013. I think my best option would be to try to transfer to the same place he moves after he graduates, but even then it will be tricky. This transferring with residencies is complex.
This guy is someone I could definitely see myself with longterm, and that's probably the biggest, main reason why I want to continue seeing him after I move. I'm just worried about 1) the fact that we haven't been dating long, 2) our busy schedules, and 3) how/when we will reunite.
Does it sound like we have a chance? Would you attempt a long distance relationship if you were in our positions and really cared about each other? Or would you just end it right now?
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