How to get along with SO's friends?

[LovingHim]

Especially when you are the one who speaks their language and constantly worries about making a mistake?

[LadyMarchHare]

Not sure what you mean by "Speaking their language", unless we're talking some kind of lingo.

Rule of thumb: be yourself. They don't like you, that's their problem you aren't required to be buddies with them nor are they required to like you. Sure it makes things easier, but so long as you're not trying to kill each other, tolerance gets you through the night. You're not with your SO to impress their friends, nor are they with you to impress yours.

[princessmeg1328]

I would say to just kill them with kindness. Treat them the way you would like to be treated, and hopefully, they will come to realize that you are an amazing person. There is a reason why your SO chose to be with you, but there is also a reason why they're his friends. You're all important to him and so should be able to at least tolerate each other for his sake.

[kiara_silver]

I don't realy know any of my SO's friends personally. he only introduced me to one, and we get along fine, but i don't think you should worry. Just be yourself, Your SO loved you for you not what his friends think of you, so don't worry about it, just be yourself.

[Silencedsongs]

Rule of thumb: be yourself. They don't like you, that's their problem you aren't required to be buddies with them nor are they required to like you. Sure it makes things easier, but so long as you're not trying to kill each other, tolerance gets you through the night. You're not with your SO to impress their friends, nor are they with you to impress yours.

This basically, except attempt to play nice. It does make things easier if everyone can get along, but you're dating your SO not his friends.

[Semperfikindoflove]

Oh man, I can give a lot of advice on this topic considering the fact that my Marine and I broke up at one point because of his friends. We started out dating after my ex and I broke up, we had hung out for three months straight and had fallen completely in love with each other. We spent a lot of time together and he ignored them when he was with me. That wasn't my fault and I wasn't forcing him to ignore them but they thought I was. Well a lot of bad things went down because they hated me. They cornered me at one point and told me that I was bad for my boyfriend. They said he didn't want to be with me and he talked behind my back all the time. I ended up calling him crying and upset (this was a few months before he left for boot camp). I almost ended things with him so he and I met up and talked about it. Well for months and months they kept pushing. They still do. When he left for boot camp they wouldn't leave me alone and they kept messing with me. After he got out of boot camp they caused us to break up which was a complete shock to both of our families. His friends talked horribly about me and he let it happen for the longest time. After we were broken up for about two weeks and he had left for training, one of his friends took it way too far and completely trashed me. My boyfriend (who was my ex at the time), decided finally after the 7th or 8th time of me ending up hurt because of his friends that he was going to put me first. I mean what kind of friends who you have had since kindergarten treat your girlfriend with such disrespect?

I've dealt with my fair share of friend issues and here is my advice for you:

1. Ignore them, it's the best thing that you can do. If you let them push you and you get angry it will only cause fights between you and your SO.
2. Be the bigger person, be the calm one in a bad situation
3. Don't be afraid to speak your mind or let your SO know how you feel about the way his/her friends treat you
4. Be considerate, they may have been friends for a long time so be careful how you talk to/about them
5. Make sure you and your SO are on the same page about how to deal with issues when they come up with friends
6. Be respectful even if you don't like them

I hope this helps, I know how you feel so if you need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to message me!

[LadyMarchHare]

This basically, except attempt to play nice. It does make things easier if everyone can get along, but you're dating your SO not his friends.

Kind of a given. Goodness knows I wouldn't ever intentionally be a jerk to any of my guy's friends, unless they try starting something but that's just me.

[BeckyHarrison]

Goodness I've been having this problem for the longest time! I worry about my SO's friends because they are the reason he is gone in the first place. They aren't the best crowd. Not the worst either. But they promote things that he shouldn't be into. He doesn't see it that way, of course making me the bad guy for pointing it out.. but he's the one shipped away in a christian based program.. so I can't be too wrong lol UGHHHH friends lol

[MrsExPrez]

Hahaha I hate my SO's best friend.. I want to kill him.

okay that is exaggerated. but still.

[FadedSunrise]

My SO's best friend only started getting to know me after we started talking at long distance. The only reason he gets annoyed at me these days is because there is one computer in their house, and if my SO's on it talking to me he can't get on to play around on the net. Haha. But otherwise I could see myself getting along with him too-he's so fun!

[NaNi]

My SO has quite a lot of friends and I got along with all of them.

They're a friendly bunch.

[nicole]

My SO has quite a lot of friends and I got along with all of them.

They're a friendly bunch.

same, my SO's friends all treat me like I've always been there lol But not in a creepy, over-familiar way, they are just always nice and treat me like part of the gang.

[LovingHim]

By 'speaking their language', I meant speaking English, it's not my native language. I have been out with them before, I know they like me, but for me it's easier to socialise in a smaller group, because when there is a bunch of guys, I tend to be quiet, especially when they talk about football etc

Thanks for advice anyway

[LovingHim]

By 'speaking their language', I meant speaking English, it's not my native language. I have been out with them before, I know they like me, but for me it's easier to socialise in a smaller group, because when there is a bunch of guys, I tend to be quiet, especially when they talk about football etc

Thanks for advice anyway

[mllebamako]

I don't speak my SO's friends' language very well but I try my best and they appreciate the effort