How to get along with SO's friends?

[Rugger]

I get along with most of my SO's friends. The guys he lived with in college are some of the nicest people I've ever met and they treat me like one of them. We play-insult each other back and fourth and sometimes I get manhandled ( one of them will pretend to hump me ) But My boyfriend acts that way with their girlfriends (One of them didn't like it and they broke up, But the other girlfriend I LOVE, she's awesome and we are really close).

I'm touch and go with his best friend from home. He's a total ass to me . He thinks he can walk all over me and I just give it right back to him. I don't take shit from guys like him. My SO's mother says that he acts that way when he likes someone but IDK.

[LadyMarchHare]

By 'speaking their language', I meant speaking English, it's not my native language. I have been out with them before, I know they like me, but for me it's easier to socialise in a smaller group, because when there is a bunch of guys, I tend to be quiet, especially when they talk about football etc

Thanks for advice anyway

Ah, okay. Thanks for clearing that up. It is difficult being around groups of people speaking another language, especially when the subject is something you may not be familiar with or even have an opinion on. Guys have their topics, girls have theirs. I think so long as you make an effort they'll see that and respect you for it.

[Dziubka]

I'm in the same situation. I also have to speak a foreign language with my boyfriend and his friends (and family!).
In the beginning I used to be really quiet around them. I didn't know them, couldn't relate to most things they were talking about (inside jokes, mutual friends, etc) and a lot of the time I simply didn't understand.

I has gotten a lot better with time, though. I've become more confident about my language, met most of the people they talked about and have gotten to know everyone better. By now I really like most of my boyfriend's friends and get along with them great.
In fact my boyfriend's closest (girl) friend has become one of my closest friends, too.

[erinewelsh]

Many of my boyfriend's friends have already written me off before having met me, but we don't let it stop us or get to us. If they can't be happy that their friend is happy, then they aren't very good friends.

[paulawriteslove]

I get along with my SO's friends and my friends love my SO. I guess the trick is to be yourself and have fun