He said that he's not physically attracted to me :(

[Veiled_Dreamer]

Gah, I hate those arguments that you get so worked up about and then a little while later it comes to you how stupid the whole thing was. =( Best of luck working it out. You guys have pulled through a great deal, I'm sure you can stick this out.

[folclor]

Hmm, I don't think he meant that he's not physically attracted to you. I mean, when I talked to my boyfriend once about what he's attracted to in a woman, his response was, "I like long hair and women with curves." His friend, on the other hand, loves women who are really skinny. I asked my boyfriend, then, if I had been a 'twig' would he still have been attracted to me. His response was that he was attracted to my personality, my mind, my creativity before he knew what I looked like or sounded like so, yes, he would be.

A lot of guys are like that. They have the picture of their ideal of a woman's body (usually based upon the women around them growing up, that generally shapes what they think of as beautiful) and then they fall for someone's personality and the body isn't always what fits their description of perfection, but it becomes what they're attracted to because they're attracted to you. And, as far as the adorable thing goes, he may just say that because that's what he thinks. He might also think you're sexy but he might not want you to think that he objectifies you. My boyfriend calls me 'cute' all the time and one time I was a little upset about that (I blame the hormones) and asked him if he thought I was sexy. He told me he did but he also found me cute. So I don't mind very much anymore.

Guys have complex, sometimes hidden, emotions and minds that work in very different ways, just like girls have a gambit of emotions that we go through, sometimes without knowing why, and overthink things on reflex. Give him a break on this one thing. He probably grew up around aunts and cousins who were super curvy or extremely large, his mother might be as well, and therefore that's his definition of beauty. Doesn't mean he can't find you just as beautiful.

[William]

My girl looks nowhere near the perfect picture I've always had in mind.
And if I see someone who has the same figure and looks, they don't immediately strike me as pretty.
However, my girl is arguably the most beautiful woman I have ever met. It's just the way a guy's mind works; Marian is right.
We always joke to each other: 'If I didn't think you were cute, I wouldn't have gone out with you', but there's truth in there. Even if you love each other more for your personalities.

And then you girls always have your pheromone-check, haha

[Taija]

Everyone has their "type" that they claim to prefer, but the truth is that when it comes to relationships, preferences fly out of the window. I've always said that I like tall, dark and older men, but then I went and fell in love with a super-skinny American who is only a year older than me. And I think he is the hottest person that has ever walked the Earth.

Love is crazy like that, never goes the way we planned.