Contact between you and your SO

[kiara_silver]

It varys with us, when we first got together we talked about everyday for hours at a time. (this is with a 8 hour time dif) Then one month he was away on vacation so we didnt talk hardly, but i knew he was having fun and wasn't expecting to talk to him so wasn't so hard, when he got back we talked again alot. When he has college it gets hard for me sometimes because he's so busy, this time it was harder then last time, just cause we would go days without talking at all, after 3 days with no word from him i get a bit moody. so it goes up and down for us, right now he's been on alot, lol this is better for me, but i think not so much for him, he gets bored at home with not much to do. But i love hearing from my man daily if i can.

[Zandria]

But i dont want to feel like a burden/bothering her for say. Or come across as being needy/pushy. But I'd just like to chat for sometime each day. So what do you guys think I should do. Thanks, I think she wants to chat more but her school work kills it.

I completely know how you feel with that inkling feeling like you're being overwhelming, because I've felt like that recently. I normally talk to my SO everyday through texting, and Skype and on the phone at least once a week. Though recently I haven't heard from him in two days, and I've said something to him yesterday and the day before, but I don't want to try anymore due to my fear of being too much.

I did talk to my SO about the issue with our communication, and I addressed the issue that sometimes I feel like I'm being needy, always starting the conversation, wanting to video chat, all of those things, and it bothered me. He now understands my issue at least. I think you two should try to plan out some time that you both can make within the day to talk to one another. Talk about your feelings, communication is key, especially in LDRs. I hope that helped! [:

[Engel]

we are on the same time zone.. so we skype the whole day while we can be remotely close to our computers. like.. he just had to hung up on me to restart his PC and our skype call said it lasted 8hrs.

our longest call was 15hrs... surprisingly tho.. my internet behaved that day.. cuz i generally have to restart my modem 500 times.. which means calling him back 500 times.

WOW. my boyfriend works too much to ever be able to do that. the only time when we were apart (close distance now) we had long calls was if one of us was watching the other sleep until the other could sleep as well. them it would be some hours more. but when we were appart we would talk everyday, even if just for 10/15 minutes sometimes. the days that was impossible to talk we would email.

[Engel]

Me and my SO use skype. I turn it on when i get home from work at 4pm, and we talk all night til i sleep at 1am. so about 8-9 hours a day, with breaks for dinner etc. Even if I or she wants to watch something on the tv, we just mute skype and keep it on whilst we both do other stuff.

LOL I used to do that as well!

[BlueCat]

It used to be most days, and now that he's working again (which is good, because it's helping our situation) I'm lucky if it's twice a week. So I'm finding it really hard to adjust to that and getting to talk to him less often. It's been really stressful on me.

[Zapookie]

We mainly talk on skype. Maybe about 3 or 4 times a week, a few hours at a time. Sometimes we'll go through phases where we talk a few nights in a row. If we're not on skype, we'll talk on FB chat or MSN. But we usually don't go a day without some form of contact.

[bluepotato1236]

When we were LD, we talk everyday...Skype, webcam, text and phone calls..My SO subscribes plan so that he can call internationally for cheaper. I also have a cheap call to call the US (Dont know why..but im glad my service provider is doing that..:-P it is only RM0.18 per min which is approx USD0.06 per min).. We have 16 hours times different..which actually kinda work for us..coz when he is working, i am sleeping..when he finish work, i already wake up..

Like everyones says, there is nothing wrong for wanting to talk to your SO. Try to set up a schedule to talk when both of you free..

[emforever]

We are pretty much constantly texting or facebooking each other. We call or skype on average every other day

[knhdarw]

We talk everyday 2-3 times a day @ his lunch and when he gets home from work cause im out of school so we go by his schedule now... And we also text all day long sometimes tons but other days its just a few. Usually OOVOO every night or @ least 4 times a week.

[GatoGirl]

We talk once a day on the phone M-F in the early morning while he drives into work, 15 min max. Sat/Sun depends on his schedule. He is always the one who calls because his schedule is way tighter than mine right now, and lots more unpredictable. We never text, FB or anything else. We are dinosaurs. We started this LDR thing before all the tech communication options existed, so we were letters and once a week phone calls for about a year. Then we just stuck to the phone. He works at a computer, so when he's home, that's the last thing he wants to do, and he can't get any personal calls, emails, texts, etc. at work.

[Amber]

My SO other and I text each other each morning and through out the day send little texts if needed. We also talk on the phone for about 10minutes to 2 hours if possible before bed. If we have lots to do during the evening before bed or one of us passes out then we send a text message saying good night. We still have communication problems on and off because one of us might be having a bad day or may just be tired, but the key is the communicate those feelings. Try and talk when you can! Dont push the other person to talk every day when they are working or have school work to finish, remember that those things are important to make it in the world too.

[flatliner]

talking to my SO is very random, we will talk for 6 hours texting and talking on facebook for 1 day then not talk for 2 weeks. we use facebook alot, and when i dont hear from her for a few weeks every once in a while her best friend will message me and say, "she talked about you all day, i think she loves you" stuff like that. so that keeps me over fo a few days. at first i hated it but now i im alot better with it.

[traditionalgirl75]

Theres only hr & half between my SO & I , so we talk every night for a few hr's & alott of texts during the day. We also call each other during breaks in the daytime . We webcam Every single weekend as well

[Yaaamiii]

everyday when the summer is over we'll be back in a ldr, but when we were in one, we talked everday. a lot of the times it was only for about 10 minutes or so a day...sometimes more, since he has difficult classes that demand a lot of his attention. it sucked but we got through that year...here's hoping for a better year next school year lol

[Susanne426]

It is tough right now my SO is busy with work and I am busy with work and kids so I haven't had much contact with him and it is rough on me. Right now just trying to focus on the 4 weeks until I see him and not get too upset over the lack of communication.