Why did you choose a LDR over a CDR?

[kymckenna]

This may not be the right forum but oh well.

I know a lot of us go through times where parents, friends, relatives and others ask you this question or something similar.

My reason:

A love is much more meaningful when you fall in love with the personality of someone over looks. When you can talk and get to know each other even when so far away and not let the distance interfere. When you can truly trust and depend and commit to each other miles and miles away. Yes, a CDR would be nice, but in my opinion it wouldn't be as fun and as unpredictable as a LDR.

My LDR has tested my strength, my ability to trust, my ability to be independent while also having a partner and so much more. My LDR has taught me so much about myself I would have never known.

My question is when you are asked this, what do you say?

I stand up for us LDR couples, in a way we endure more pain and suffering then CDR's.

[LadyMarchHare]

I didn't get a choice in the matter, that's why. It was either be with a man several hundred miles away who I knew, liked, and wanted a future with or have nothing locally. I could be more poetic about it, but really that was all there was for me. If I had to do things over and still end up where I am I'd say hell yes because even through the pain of being physically apart I have never experienced such emotional closeness and such kinship. In this way someone was given the disadvantage of knowing me for what and who I am before seeing my face or my body and deciding to love me anyway whereas if someone were given the chance to see me first chances would be there would be no getting to know me. It's quirky, but it works.

[theyellowdart]

Because shes the love of my life.. Would I like to be closer to her? with every fiber of my body... But thats not in the cards right now, so of course i'll choose the distance over not being with her at all.

[rivi87]

well said . I think that I speak for most of us when I say I did not chose to have a relationship like this...but you cant help how you feel about someone and both of your circumstances. I think in some ways its made my relationship stronger bc we talk all the time we know eachother well (sometimes too well :P) and you get to know your SO on that emotional level. I think people on CDRs take for granted the time they spend together when we can goes months without seeing him/her and when you do its the most amazing feeling. If I had it my way though my boyfriend would be right here...but hey I'll accept the distance because I know he's who I want.

[Sora1101]

Why did I choose a long distance over a close distance? Well you can't help who you fall in love with or where they happen to be located, I was never very popular with guys when I had first met my SO and then while we were taking a small break a whole bunch of guys suddenly started asking me out, but I knew in my heart who I wanted to be with, yes it sucks that I can't hug him or anything but this LDR has made me stronger as a person and I know that my SO has loved me before I broke out of my awkward/unpretty phase and loves me for who I am as a person, I wouldn't trade that for anything.

[blankita719]

Definitely would not have been my first choice as I can not stress enough how much I hate the distance. However, when I met him, I met him there in his home state. And I never expected to fall in love with him. We went many years not being together because of the distance, and when we got back together last summer, it was with eyes wide open knowing that we were going to hurt. But we were friends for all of those years, and I feel that we know each other in ways that people who are close distance may not ever know each other. I have never been happier with anyone in my life, so for me, I'll do what I have to in order to make this work. And once people see the two of us together, the understand why we do it. There hasn't been anyone else on this earth who gets me the way he does. So, 1423 miles away might seem crazy to others but I'd rather be in love with him than anyone here.

[Rugger]

Almost none of us choseto have an LDR. What happened was we fell in love with people who were far away to begin with, or who became far away because of an outside force. You can't chose who you fall in love with.

I chose to be LDR instead of breaking up because I loved him and I from experience , knew that good men are very hard to find. I wasn't ending a relationship with someone so suited for me because of a trivial thing like distance.

[snow_girl]

I didn't choose it, it chose me.

[JEREIANEDREI]

To be honest I dont want this LDR,,coz i'm such an emotional person,,I want all my loved ones to be closer to me...
But I know God has a reason why he let all this things to happen,.now I lived alone all by myself,,without my family beside me..
And my MAN closer to me...Its hard,,really hard...but I like now the most in LDR,.I learned a lot,,It teach me HOW TO TRUST more,.how to understand more in your partner,.Now I proved that It doesnt matter how near or how far your MAN is...Its just a matter of TRUST and HOW STRONG YOUR LOVE AND FAITH to each other...

Having a CDR relationship before,,as I experienced it...I could say that my LDR relationship is much better...but much harder...

But of course I'm lookin' forward of closing the distance,,in due time...coz I wanna be closer to my MAN....missing him so much

[BabyGund]

He chose me. When I saw his profile and how far away he was, I dismissed him as a romantic possibility. We were acquaintances and I figured at best we'd be friends. He had other things in mind!

[Mizpah]

He chose me. When I saw his profile and how far away he was, I dismissed him as a romantic possibility. We were acquaintances and I figured at best we'd be friends. He had other things in mind!

This, exactly this. When Aaron found me on that silly Facebook app, I knew as soon as I clicked on him that he lived in North Carolina and did not think there was a possibility that we would actually be anything more than friends. I was also certain that he was a player, but that's another story. He persisted, and it only took one conversation for him to prove me wrong, for me to choose him. We were long-distance for three months, a short time compared to so many of my LFAD friends, but we experienced the difficult and painful side of distance, and the good parts too. 300 miles seemed so insignificant compared to what Aaron, and his love, brought to my life

[Moon]

There was no choice, it just happens that the guy I love, and am completely compatible with, lives 4200 miles away from me *shrugs*. It doesn't matter if he lives next door, or in Finland, he's the one for me, its that simple.

[bigmac62]

Just like everyone else, I didn't choose an LDR, it chose me. But if you're looking for a reason why I chose to go for it...well, I just thought she was the girl for me. She was and still is absolutely wonderful, and I wouldn't trade her for anything!

[Mara]

We met online. Typical boy meets girl story except we didn't live close to each other. I didn't think anything would come of our friendship, I didn't particularly want anything to come of our friendship. I've never cared for LDRs, I had a boyfriend move across the country on me, and when he did, I broke things off. I just couldn't imagine moving my whole life for someone until I could. If I didn't love him like I do though, I definitely wouldn't be in this LDR with him. I wouldn't do this for someone else.

[MusicalSoul22]

Well, my SO decided he wanted to start a career, and it just so happened the best school was is AZ. Being the supportive girlfriend, I couldn't back out on the relationship and try to stop him from chasing his dreams. In the long run, this will be the best thing for both of us. We have been together so long that it never entered our minds to end things. It's just a temporary separation. It wasn't really choosing a LDR over a CDR. It was choosing Josh over anyone else. <3