Whew, long time no post! It's a comfort to know that I have somewhere to turn when dealing with my LDR (and speaking to so many who understand).
Idan and I have been together for 2.5 years (our story is here) and I have been more happy than not most of the time. While I do miss him terribly, in the past half year I have found ourselves bickering and arguing more often than not.
Last night in particular we talked for about two hours and in the end, I felt confused and hurt. When I suggested we take a break, he said he can't function without me and asked me to never ask him that again (he started crying). I have a lot of insecurities and they often come up when we argue (namely, not feeling good enough for him). A lot was said, but one thing stood out to me after we ended our conversation- he asked me if I was happier a year ago. I said no, because I was dealing with many personal obstacles at the time. But I interjected and said, we've fallen out of the "Honeymoon" period. He said we can always fall back into it, I'm not too sure.
Isn't the Honeymoon period called that because you're still a little naive about the relationship? That you're still unaware, to an extent, of all the faults, ticks and habits of your partner? I think Idan was referencing the romantic elements of our relationship. They've gradually faded over time. We used to send letters religiously to one another, send each other youtube videos on Facebook or even post cute "I love you"'s on each other's wall. We're both busy, yes, but I imagine some things take a few seconds and not much effort. I've tried doing this, but with little to no reciprocation, it sucks out the motivation.
But I know he still loves me and cares about me. I think I've just grown too emotionally dependent on him instead of growing myself independently. Where he is the opposite. He's very much improving himself and learning so much, but doesn't worry too much about me.
I don't know- I'm just confused and want some guidance, you know? Thanks guys.
Idan and I have been together for 2.5 years (our story is here) and I have been more happy than not most of the time. While I do miss him terribly, in the past half year I have found ourselves bickering and arguing more often than not.
Last night in particular we talked for about two hours and in the end, I felt confused and hurt. When I suggested we take a break, he said he can't function without me and asked me to never ask him that again (he started crying). I have a lot of insecurities and they often come up when we argue (namely, not feeling good enough for him). A lot was said, but one thing stood out to me after we ended our conversation- he asked me if I was happier a year ago. I said no, because I was dealing with many personal obstacles at the time. But I interjected and said, we've fallen out of the "Honeymoon" period. He said we can always fall back into it, I'm not too sure.
Isn't the Honeymoon period called that because you're still a little naive about the relationship? That you're still unaware, to an extent, of all the faults, ticks and habits of your partner? I think Idan was referencing the romantic elements of our relationship. They've gradually faded over time. We used to send letters religiously to one another, send each other youtube videos on Facebook or even post cute "I love you"'s on each other's wall. We're both busy, yes, but I imagine some things take a few seconds and not much effort. I've tried doing this, but with little to no reciprocation, it sucks out the motivation.
But I know he still loves me and cares about me. I think I've just grown too emotionally dependent on him instead of growing myself independently. Where he is the opposite. He's very much improving himself and learning so much, but doesn't worry too much about me.
I don't know- I'm just confused and want some guidance, you know? Thanks guys.
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