I have been in a LDR with the most amazing man I have ever met, he is so outstanding that I know he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.
But I have a problem... I keep hurting him. I say things that hurt his self confidence. I unintentionally say things to downplay what he has done for me. He says I say things to make him "feel the distance". I act childish and complain, getting on his nerves and cutting down his gift ideas (this happened this morning, and is why I'm here). I don't say what I'm supposed to (telling him I love him often, asking for kisses and hugs, talking about our future or the things I want to do with/for him). The list goes on and on.
It's been seven months since we started dating and four since he proposed to me, the whole time I have been doing these hurtful things.
Personally I think all of my hurtful behavior is because we have not met in person yet. It will have been nine months when we do.. if he doesn't leave me.
I am very scared, I do not want our relationship to end. Fortunately he loves he enough to keep giving me chance after chance, trusting I won't do anything like this again... BUT I DO!!! I'm sure this is the last chance he will EVER give me.
I feel like I need serious psychiatric help. Why do I keep hurting him when I love him so very much. All I want is to make him happy and keep him happy, never hurting him again.
If anyone has any experience with this sort of thing please share and tips or advice you may have.
I'm really at my wit's end, I can't stand to lose him.
But I have a problem... I keep hurting him. I say things that hurt his self confidence. I unintentionally say things to downplay what he has done for me. He says I say things to make him "feel the distance". I act childish and complain, getting on his nerves and cutting down his gift ideas (this happened this morning, and is why I'm here). I don't say what I'm supposed to (telling him I love him often, asking for kisses and hugs, talking about our future or the things I want to do with/for him). The list goes on and on.
It's been seven months since we started dating and four since he proposed to me, the whole time I have been doing these hurtful things.
Personally I think all of my hurtful behavior is because we have not met in person yet. It will have been nine months when we do.. if he doesn't leave me.
I am very scared, I do not want our relationship to end. Fortunately he loves he enough to keep giving me chance after chance, trusting I won't do anything like this again... BUT I DO!!! I'm sure this is the last chance he will EVER give me.
I feel like I need serious psychiatric help. Why do I keep hurting him when I love him so very much. All I want is to make him happy and keep him happy, never hurting him again.
If anyone has any experience with this sort of thing please share and tips or advice you may have.
I'm really at my wit's end, I can't stand to lose him.
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