I've never been left behind, but as hard as leaving was, I think it would be harder to have memories of him hidden in every corner of the house. I'm not sure I would have been able to handle that. /: When I left...I couldn't do it. At the airport I had to ask him to disappear, or I wouldn't have been able to walk away from him. So I turned around for a second and he walked into the crowd and hid in a bookstore so I couldn't see him anymore. I was in tears and got strange looks for it, but that wasn't a real concern for me at that moment.
Announcement
Collapse
No announcement yet.
Leaving or being left - which is worse?
Collapse
X
-
I'm not sure. Both hurt. But when you're the one leaving you have so much ahead of you, like the trip(s) back home. It doesn't really get your mind off things, at least not mine, but it's something to keep you busy. When you're the one being left behind you just stand there, alone. I hate coming back home to an empty apartment.
Comment
-
Definitely being left behind. I've only left him behind once and cause I was so nervous about flying and there was always something to do or somewhere to go it distracted me pretty well from missing him. Plus I was going home to see my daughter and dogs again whom I had missed loads.
It's devastating being left behind, driving back home alone, stepping through the front door knowing there's no-one there and everything still smells like him. Sleeping in an empty bed and having breakfast alone. I always cried for hours after I got home and couldn't function at all. I hope I don't have to go through that pain ever again.
Comment
-
I have mostly been left behind, though I did leave once. I find it harder to see him leave than it was when I left. Both were still extremely tough, and I agree it never gets easier no matter how many times you've done it, but I think being left behind hurts more. It leaves me feeling alone and I feel like I have more time to think if he leaves as opposed to me. One of the hardest things I've ever done was watch his train leave the station with him on it. That was extremely painful and I immediately cried my eyes out, and all the sad songs came on the radio as soon as I left the train station parking lot.
Comment
-
Before I used to think it was leaving, but since I've been the one traveling the last two times, I've realized I find it harder to be left behind than the one leaving. Since even though it's hard for me to keep a straight face on a 24 hour travel, it also gives me something else to think about than just "the empty" feeling. So I actually prefer that.
Comment
-
Yikes, that's a tough one! I've been left behind way more than I've left.. I've only left once but that was pretty horrible >_> I almost refused to leave and wanted "one more kiss" about 50 timesI couldn't hold the tears for a second, pretty much cried through the whole process of getting on the plane. Since then he refused to let me be the one to leave, because he saw how much more I was hurting
It was horrible being left behind too and going back to the empty apartment that smelled like him but.. I think leaving was harder for me.
Comment
-
Originally posted by lucybelle View PostI think when you get left behind is worse. At least when you leave your SO you go back to your family/friends etc. That's comforting.{ Our Story on LFAD }
Our Beginning
Met online: February 2009
Feelings confessed: December 2010
Unofficially together since: January/February 2011
Officially together since: 08 April 2011
Our Story
First meeting in person: 16 August - 14 September 2011
Second visit: 17 March - 01 April 2012
Third visit: 23 July - 13 September 2012
Fourth visit: Looking at 23 March - 6 April 2013
Our Happily Ever After
to be continued...
Comment
-
I think that leaving him is easier, because when I leave I have all the time waiting for my flight, on the plane, waiting at the airport and the train journey back from the airport to get myself together and stop being so upset and get used to being alone again. But when he leaves me it's like a part of me is gone. That's why I much prefer going to visit him.No time zone or distance or anything can keep us apart
Comment
-
I accidently voted for leaving.. but I ment to vote being left behind..oops.
being left behind is definitely harder.. it's hard to find things to distract me, and i avoid going into the bedroom because its too much of a reminder of him, when he leaves I feel like i have to kind of mourn his presences..
Although last time I left him, the goodbye was the most calm one we have had so far.. but then about 4 hours into my first flight i went to the bathroom and had a complete breakdown, i felt so helpless.. It was the worst feeling i've had so far when we leave each other. But that feeling only lasted an hour or so. At least I have the flying to distract me, although I hate getting back to my house and it feeling so weird to be there, it always takes me a day or 2 to feel like I belong there.Met Online: February 2009
Feelings grew: January 2011
First met in person: 4 April - 16 April 2011
Officially together since: 4th of April 2011
Second visit: 29 June - 1 August 2011
Third visit: 28 September - 15 October 2011
Fourth visit: 19 January - 25 February 2012
Fifth visit: 24 March - 12 April 2012
Sixth visit: 2 June - 7 July 2012
Engaged: 1st of July 2012
Seventh visit: 27 August - 23 September
Visa lodged: 5th of November 2012
Eighth visit: 8 December 2012 - 12 January 2013
Visa granted: 8th of May 2013
Hawaii: 19 May - 2 June 2013
Closed the distance: 16th of July 2013
Married my Englishman on the 4th of October 2013
Comment
Comment