Hey guys. I need some help or advice. Maybe I am just being the total cow here?
A few months ago I think I had a mini-breakdown. Uni stress, family stress, and the LDR stress, and our arguments got to a boiling point and I kind of exploded which resulted in my feelings getting all confused and even me thinking I was doubting my feelings for my SO. See here.
We sorted things out, or so I thought. I do love my SO. I love her with all my heart. Completely and utterly. But then as expected I suppose she has become very self-concious and worried about if I will doubt my feelings again which is understandable.
I just wanted to know though is it bad to say that you can't promise right now at this very moment that you will love someone forever. You can promise that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, that you can picture that future with them, that you intend to be there for them, that you love them with all your heart, that you want to love them forever.
I just keep thinking what if I change as I get older, into someone else, someone my SO doesn't like as much. What if something happens in 10 years, 20 years...etc and something happens to us and I break that promise that I made all those years ago. I know I am probably over-thinking it all. But I made all those other promises but was scared to make that last one in case I ended up breaking it. Not that I intend to or anything. I did in the end promise that I would love her for ever and ever but it won't fix anything now.
Basically she has nearly called off her trip to see me in just under 3 weeks. I don't know what to do. I love her so much.
A few months ago I think I had a mini-breakdown. Uni stress, family stress, and the LDR stress, and our arguments got to a boiling point and I kind of exploded which resulted in my feelings getting all confused and even me thinking I was doubting my feelings for my SO. See here.
We sorted things out, or so I thought. I do love my SO. I love her with all my heart. Completely and utterly. But then as expected I suppose she has become very self-concious and worried about if I will doubt my feelings again which is understandable.
I just wanted to know though is it bad to say that you can't promise right now at this very moment that you will love someone forever. You can promise that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, that you can picture that future with them, that you intend to be there for them, that you love them with all your heart, that you want to love them forever.
I just keep thinking what if I change as I get older, into someone else, someone my SO doesn't like as much. What if something happens in 10 years, 20 years...etc and something happens to us and I break that promise that I made all those years ago. I know I am probably over-thinking it all. But I made all those other promises but was scared to make that last one in case I ended up breaking it. Not that I intend to or anything. I did in the end promise that I would love her for ever and ever but it won't fix anything now.
Basically she has nearly called off her trip to see me in just under 3 weeks. I don't know what to do. I love her so much.
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