Quick Thought

[nic&matt]

Here's an intresting expression:
Your emotions follow your thoughts.

Easier said than done, am I right?

It doesn't matter if I think LDRs are the absolute best thing in the whole wide world, I still miss him

[Yaaamiii]

bleh I'm sure we can all agree to knowing what that feeling is like I always feel sad and really off when I don't get to talk to my SO for a day...I feel bad even saying that, because I know some people here go an entire week with minimal talking, but not out of choice. And I'm one of those people who hates texting as a form of communication. Well, its a love/hate kinda thing. I love texting, its really convenient, but I hate when that's the only way I talk to him all day...makes me feel like I haven't actually talked to him, and a lot more things tend to get miscommunicated through texts. Anywho, I miss him too nights like these suck lol

[Moon]

Nah, I don't believe that. No matter how positive you make a bad situation, it's still bad I'm content with my LDR, but I still miss him like hell all the time, and no amount of focusing on the parts of it I like will change that. All you can do is stay strong and get through it, I'm sorry that you're feeling down.

[Minerva]

Time spent in cognitive therapy taught me this is mostly true. It seems counterintuitive, but truly, one's emotions do follow one's thoughts. That's not to say there are no bad situations, or that one should never feel negative emotions. But if one learns to look at thought patterns -- really examine them -- one might begin to realize so much of one's responses are conditioned by the past, and the brain makes the same sort of connections over and over because that's how it's always worked. Unhealthy thoughts tend to stay unhealthy if not explored, and unhealthy emotions result. If one can focus on the thoughts and know when one is having unhealthy, unrealistic, or overblown reactions, one can start to change thought patterns, and as a result, emotions become more appropriate. It's a bit hard to explain.

People who are good at this tend to weather the storms of life with more resiliency, bounce back from blows quicker, and can see troubling situations in a clearer light. And even though I sort of understand the idea behind cognitive therapy, I'm still working on it. It isn't easy.

Anyway, it's natural to miss your loved one. What would be less healthy would be, for instance, going into a deep depression for months on end because you feel you can't live with out them, because your thoughts have convinced you you're nothing without their presence.

[nic&matt]

Thank you for your answers! I'm not down or anything, I'm actually doing great right now! I just thought it was an intresting saying and wanted to see others opinions on it.