Me and my SO have hit a rut, the same one of having absolutely nothing to say to each other. We can't think of things and we usually just end up staring at each other or doing other things while on webcam. And it really bothers me...I've heard that spending time apart can make it easier to gather things to talk about but the fact is I can't deal with that. I NEED to be on webcam with him everyday or else I get really upset and lonely.
This isn't because we have bad communication or anything, its just the fact that we've reached the point where we know each other so well that there's nothing left to really talk about. To quote my SO, "We know each other better than people I know who have been married for 20 years."
My SO suggested that we do webcam still, and if we honestly run out of things to say, we stop, both go do something we really want done or enjoy, and then call each other back after and see if we have anything to talk about then or we just call each other back to say goodnight. Is that a good idea?
I'm also wondering how you all deal with this, especially members that are now CD with their SO's, you had to have had moments like this in your relationships right? How did it all end up working out, your relationship I mean? I still have at least a good 2+ years before I ever am CD with my SO...
I guess I've been worried about being "too boring" to him. He said quite honestly that he did get bored sometimes and that's always made me a tad scared about well...being boring to the point of a breakup. Is it something other people in LDR's experience??
This isn't because we have bad communication or anything, its just the fact that we've reached the point where we know each other so well that there's nothing left to really talk about. To quote my SO, "We know each other better than people I know who have been married for 20 years."
My SO suggested that we do webcam still, and if we honestly run out of things to say, we stop, both go do something we really want done or enjoy, and then call each other back after and see if we have anything to talk about then or we just call each other back to say goodnight. Is that a good idea?
I'm also wondering how you all deal with this, especially members that are now CD with their SO's, you had to have had moments like this in your relationships right? How did it all end up working out, your relationship I mean? I still have at least a good 2+ years before I ever am CD with my SO...
I guess I've been worried about being "too boring" to him. He said quite honestly that he did get bored sometimes and that's always made me a tad scared about well...being boring to the point of a breakup. Is it something other people in LDR's experience??
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