Okay so I'm just gonna do a quick filler inner for you before I write my post:
My SO and I had been online buddies for almost two years now. He had always been very flirty and I knew he talked to a lot of girls, so I didn't want to take him seriously at first. He had been saying he wanted to visit me since August 2010, but we were not serious back then at all, and he was with his ex girlfriend until October 2010. We talked a lot, and I guess the point when we both decided to be exclusive would have been in February 2011. Anywho, he held off his visit until July, which was when we finally had his passport and tickets all sorted, after much frustration. He is currently staying with me and will be here until mid-october. I know, I was sceptical about the 3 month stay, being a first meeting and all, but its been wonderful and time is flying fast.
Sorry I know that was a little long, but back-story is needed here (thanks for staying with me!)
Now, my problem today is that he's been feeling that I didn't take him seriously until he got here. Part of that is true, because he had money and time to come see me, he was just really chicken or something rather.. idk. But when he finally put on his big boy pants and took the step to see me, I knew he was serious. You know how actions always speak louder than words.
He had always been really insecure before coming to see me, always accusing me of talking to other guys online saying I had multiple online "boo's" (which wasn't true at all) and then I'd jokingly say that he must have lots of girls too, and he'd deny. Of course everyone has random internet people they talk to on MSN/AIM/FB (I think that's how a lot of these LDR's start out, right?) but he was the only person I spoke to day in, day out. The only person I would confide in.
Anyway, idk when, but he must have used my laptop a couple of days ago and left his gmail logged in. Something compelled me to check his chats, and there were multiple logs from all these girls I know he is friends with. I know I shouldn't have snooped, but it confirmed everything. He was still in contact with his ex right up until a few weeks before he came to visit me. He met up with her (this I know because he told me and was honest about that, told me they are still friends), but the way he spoke to her in the chats was very loving, saying that he missed her and enjoyed hanging out with her.
I went back in the history and noticed that the way he talks to all these girls was the way he spoke to me, too. I thought that maybe I was special... but now I realise that it's just the way he is. I don't really know what to make of all this... its kind of sad. Maybe I shouldn't have gone snooping, and should have just stayed ignorant... sometimes I'd rather not know because I can't handle the truth.
I'm just really sad/confused right now.
If this has happened to you or you have some consoling words, I'd love to hear. Thanks for reading.
My SO and I had been online buddies for almost two years now. He had always been very flirty and I knew he talked to a lot of girls, so I didn't want to take him seriously at first. He had been saying he wanted to visit me since August 2010, but we were not serious back then at all, and he was with his ex girlfriend until October 2010. We talked a lot, and I guess the point when we both decided to be exclusive would have been in February 2011. Anywho, he held off his visit until July, which was when we finally had his passport and tickets all sorted, after much frustration. He is currently staying with me and will be here until mid-october. I know, I was sceptical about the 3 month stay, being a first meeting and all, but its been wonderful and time is flying fast.
Sorry I know that was a little long, but back-story is needed here (thanks for staying with me!)
Now, my problem today is that he's been feeling that I didn't take him seriously until he got here. Part of that is true, because he had money and time to come see me, he was just really chicken or something rather.. idk. But when he finally put on his big boy pants and took the step to see me, I knew he was serious. You know how actions always speak louder than words.
He had always been really insecure before coming to see me, always accusing me of talking to other guys online saying I had multiple online "boo's" (which wasn't true at all) and then I'd jokingly say that he must have lots of girls too, and he'd deny. Of course everyone has random internet people they talk to on MSN/AIM/FB (I think that's how a lot of these LDR's start out, right?) but he was the only person I spoke to day in, day out. The only person I would confide in.
Anyway, idk when, but he must have used my laptop a couple of days ago and left his gmail logged in. Something compelled me to check his chats, and there were multiple logs from all these girls I know he is friends with. I know I shouldn't have snooped, but it confirmed everything. He was still in contact with his ex right up until a few weeks before he came to visit me. He met up with her (this I know because he told me and was honest about that, told me they are still friends), but the way he spoke to her in the chats was very loving, saying that he missed her and enjoyed hanging out with her.
I went back in the history and noticed that the way he talks to all these girls was the way he spoke to me, too. I thought that maybe I was special... but now I realise that it's just the way he is. I don't really know what to make of all this... its kind of sad. Maybe I shouldn't have gone snooping, and should have just stayed ignorant... sometimes I'd rather not know because I can't handle the truth.
I'm just really sad/confused right now.If this has happened to you or you have some consoling words, I'd love to hear. Thanks for reading.
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