Hi, I've just joined this forum and I'm really grateful to be part of a community of people who understand the difficulties of LDRs. I recently met my SO after two years of friendship leading into relationship - a meeting that was wonderful in all sorts of ways!
I've got a couple of questions about this experience and I would like to know if these are common experiences:
1. When I came home from overseas, I automatically expected my friends and family to be enthusiastic about my relationship. Instead, I got a lot of underwhelming responses. It's almost like no-one can really understand that this relationship is worth pursuing for me. No-one seems to really be interested to ask me much about it. Even my therapist has kind of dismissed it as a symptom of my classic avoidant/ambivalent attachment style and hasn't asked me much about it. My SO's therapist on the other hand was in a LDR for two years before marrying her own SO, so she understands and is very enthusiastic about the quality of our relationship. Is this general lack of understanding and support a common experience out there?
2. My SO and I were blown away by the quality of our sexual connection, and we were thinking that perhaps our experience was something unique to LDRs with a long build-up - in our case, two years of emotional and erotic intimacy followed by the freshness of physically touching and exploring each other. Did anyone else experience this in their own LDR?
Kwala
I've got a couple of questions about this experience and I would like to know if these are common experiences:
1. When I came home from overseas, I automatically expected my friends and family to be enthusiastic about my relationship. Instead, I got a lot of underwhelming responses. It's almost like no-one can really understand that this relationship is worth pursuing for me. No-one seems to really be interested to ask me much about it. Even my therapist has kind of dismissed it as a symptom of my classic avoidant/ambivalent attachment style and hasn't asked me much about it. My SO's therapist on the other hand was in a LDR for two years before marrying her own SO, so she understands and is very enthusiastic about the quality of our relationship. Is this general lack of understanding and support a common experience out there?
2. My SO and I were blown away by the quality of our sexual connection, and we were thinking that perhaps our experience was something unique to LDRs with a long build-up - in our case, two years of emotional and erotic intimacy followed by the freshness of physically touching and exploring each other. Did anyone else experience this in their own LDR?
Kwala
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