How do you handle the differences (big or small) between you and your SO?
Sometimes ours are so visible... I'm a really curious person and quite open about the things going on in my life, whereas she keeps all her worries to herself. This sometimes creates us some tiny communication problems when I'd like to know how is she (she's having some issues with job) and she won't tell me. And eg I know nothing much about her siblings, and when I try to ask her about it she just laughs it off and says it's a boring subject. No, it's not for a person who is overly curious about everything. I'm always trying to be as gentle as possible without pressuring her when I ask her something and I always drop it, but this is the main thing that makes me frustrated.
We've also got completely different tastes in such things as food, music, movies, literature... We're from different cultures, religions and countries. She's a smoker, I'm not. She eats and sleeps badly wheareas I find healthier lifestyle habits quite important. She's very laid back and I constantly stress over everything. I like schedules and planning, she doesn't. I have a really specific memory, and she forgets everything she's told. Then there's age difference and her hard-to-understand Glaswegian accent: needless to say I have to ask her to repeat quite a many times. Sometimes I feel like we are from completely different planets - it's as if we are different in every possible way! The only differences that I really find a bit tricky are those in our personalities and the ways we have been raised in our cultures, because small things like what to eat or which movie to watch are much easier to figure out.
Yet she's the best thing happened to me during the year we've known.
So now I'm curious - do you have any differences with your SO and how do you usually make those things work? Do they ever make you frustrated?
Sometimes ours are so visible... I'm a really curious person and quite open about the things going on in my life, whereas she keeps all her worries to herself. This sometimes creates us some tiny communication problems when I'd like to know how is she (she's having some issues with job) and she won't tell me. And eg I know nothing much about her siblings, and when I try to ask her about it she just laughs it off and says it's a boring subject. No, it's not for a person who is overly curious about everything. I'm always trying to be as gentle as possible without pressuring her when I ask her something and I always drop it, but this is the main thing that makes me frustrated.
We've also got completely different tastes in such things as food, music, movies, literature... We're from different cultures, religions and countries. She's a smoker, I'm not. She eats and sleeps badly wheareas I find healthier lifestyle habits quite important. She's very laid back and I constantly stress over everything. I like schedules and planning, she doesn't. I have a really specific memory, and she forgets everything she's told. Then there's age difference and her hard-to-understand Glaswegian accent: needless to say I have to ask her to repeat quite a many times. Sometimes I feel like we are from completely different planets - it's as if we are different in every possible way! The only differences that I really find a bit tricky are those in our personalities and the ways we have been raised in our cultures, because small things like what to eat or which movie to watch are much easier to figure out.
Yet she's the best thing happened to me during the year we've known.
So now I'm curious - do you have any differences with your SO and how do you usually make those things work? Do they ever make you frustrated?
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