We've hit that point where we have NOTHING to talk about.

[beckychan]

Hmm I talk to my SO well over 3 hours every day (and I mean EVERYDAY) and we still find stuff to talk about. We play a lot of video games together, so it always gives us something to do if we get bored of talking. I don't know what it is but maybe you should do stuff to your relationship (of course good stuff) to give you guys something to constantly talk about.

[snow_girl]

Why would you sit for 2 hours with nothing to say? There is nothing wrong with saying 'I guess there wasn't anything particular to talk about today so lets just say hey and cut it short" My SO and I would have trouble sometimes if nothing exciting happened worth mentioning, so we ct our talk time down to once a week with emails here and there and it made it much better. In CDRs you can be in the presence of someone and you don't have to constantly be talking, same goes for LRDs its nice to skype but keep it casual, a 2 hour skype that you have nothing to say is painful try skyping while both of you are doing something. I used to clean my room and skype while he did homework. That way we are still together but not having to constantly think of something to say.

[mouse411]

We used to video chat all the time, but he just got home recently, and his parents don't have the internet. So we talk on the phone every night to talk about our day, or say goodnight. But recently it's just been uneventful. I think I'll try that 10-20 minutes on the phone idea, I think that would probably work. I was starting to think maybe we were just talking too often and for too long at a time, and maybe that was why we have nothing to say.
I do need to start writing stuff down too, because every day something happens where I'll want to tell him, but when I finally get on the phone, I totally forget.
beckychan, I've thought about playing video games with him as well but since he doesn't have internet, it's not really a possibility
snow_girl, I have NO idea why we sat around for so long lol. I think it was because it's never really happened before, and maybe we were thinking someone would eventually say something. I am going to start cutting the conversations down. I think it's really cute that you guys would skype but do your own thing, I had never really thought of that. If we get to the point where we can start video chatting again, I'll probably do that.
I'm glad I'm not the only one this has happened to. You guys are so supportive, and full of good ideas

[HollzHeartsChris]

I'm glad I'm not the only one this has happened to. You guys are so supportive, and full of good ideas

That's what we're here for!

I recommend going out with friends more, and not being so much of a hermit. This will definitely offer some conversation topics. I recently went through this stage with my SO, and we had absolutely nothing to talk about, mainly because we weren't really doing that much. He may have been going to school, but there wasn't really that much to report. We'd often end up just ending the call and then trying again later on, but not to much avail. However, about a week ago, I started university and suddenly everything's changed and my SO and I can spend ages just talking about what we do both in uni and school. The reason I now have lots to say is I've been telling him what university is like, I've been hanging round with friends and I've told him what we get up to, what sort of things we do in lectures and outside of uni etc. We play lots of video games too, mainly with his school friends, and we have a right laugh. It's good to have a conversation with him and his friends together...perhaps there's a way you could try this? I also recommend you try and find a subject both you and your SO can have a good debate about: my SO and I (as boring as it may sound) have debated politics, the differences between life in the UK and US etc. many times and it can get really interesting It's a good way of keeping a conversation from being boring.

Good luck!

[Haley53]

I'm somewhat concerned that I have never run in to this issue, but then, I chatter like there's no tomorrow, heh. :P

I think what helps me is not only being a royal chatterbox, but also doing something else while talking to my SO. For example, assuming we're using MSN, oftentimes I'm also catching up on an episode of a favourite show on Hulu, or I'm browsing forums, or talking with people. Sometimes I'm looking through blogs such as Postsecret or Ugliest Tattoos or The Fuuuu Comics. Other times, I'm working on writing or have decided to dabble in Paint and see what I can come up with. Meanwhile he'll be working on his forum or sometimes playing a game and so on and so forth. It gives us both something to talk about if the typical "how are you?"/"how's your day been?" conversation runs dry. When it comes to Skype, usually things are pretty lively, but in the event that conversation gets slower, we'll often turn on a game. Basically, have something to do other than simply sit there with the pressure to talk.

You could also consider coming up with whacky questions. See who can come up with the whackiest question - about anything, and you both have to answer honestly! - and continually try and outdo one another. Or come up with something you can do on the phone together. If you live in the same country, perhaps there's a game show you both like and could play for an hour while on the phone to one another, or a program you both like that you could sit in silence and watch together (maybe something funny!). Some others have suggested seeing the same movies or reading the same books and discussing those. The list of possibilities is endless, really. Don't be afraid to get in touch with your silly side, either. Sometimes it can prove to be incredibly fun and dynamic, if you're both open to it. Like a game of charades! Sure, the rules are normally that you can't make any noise whatsoever, but see if you can do it trying to imitate the noise as accurately as possible. For example, instead of saying "meow" for cat, see how many noises you can make sound as realistic as possible (that one's a bit obvious, but hey, using it as an example). Or you can see what other games you could adapt to playing over the phone.

I know that all of these won't currently work for you, as you mentioned he doesn't currently have internet, but I thought I'd throw everything out there regardless, especially since a lot of it can be adapted to use without internet. Best of luck!

[Zephii]

Maybe we're weird, but we enjoy "companionable silence". I'd get the shits if he was always yammering at me! We spend a lot of time on skype not saying anything But it's never awkward. If I want to hear his voice, he can read to me, or we can have phone sex. There's always something to say if you're having phone sex haha.

But seriously, read the news. Keep up with local events. Buy a book of questions. Think of sinerios and discuss your different ways of dealing with them.

[rusty15]

haha same here!
I think it's just that, well for me and my boyfriend, we are so in routine, he works all the time and hangs out with coworkers, i work and have school all the time and hang out my friends. It's like when their is no exciting news, there's not much to talk about and it sucks. That's why we usually talk on skype during the day and before we go to bed at night. I find that if we talk about future visits, it makes us feel better.

Don't have long boring conversations!! When you talk on the phone, get to the point! Talk about each others days, a common tv show you watch?, miss you, and love you. Bye.

[Kerry]

that's what I was curious about- how long have you know each other and how long have you been together? my bf and I talk about EVERYTHING! we rarely get to chat on the phone so when we do we spend a lot of time saying how much we love each other- especially him!