Saying "I love you"

[blankita719]

He said it first, but I don't remember all the details with it because it was over 14 years ago I just know he said it first - and I don't think we'd been together for very long. He always uses that point to say that's why he loves me more - since he said it first! I wanted to say it first but I've always waited until the guy said it because I was always afraid of the rejection if they didn't say it back.

[uniquefem]

He said it first, few days after we first time met in Macau, he said "ya tebya lubylu" its Russian language for "i love you" he said it over and over, but i can not understand it!! he is the first Russian bf i had (and only!). Long time after i went back home, i was thinking to learn Russian, then i found it out that he say it to me when i never realize whats that mean!

Meanwhile, i say it first time when we say goodbye first time at airport, i say "i love you" in English! hahaha

I always say it, he rarely say it these day. But i don't really want to make a fuss about it. The way he care for me, the way he think of me already show it.... he say it easier to say it when i am infront of him, and he did it.. hahah

i miss him

[Mara]

I said it first very early on actually. Before we even met in person, before we started dating, I told him one day on instant messenger, "I think I'm falling in love with you." I love yous, at least from me, shortly followed. I always tell him that I've loved him all my life because when I always pictured my dream guy I was picturing him I just didn't know it. He was the one I searched for and waited for and when I met him I just knew. As a recall, he told me that he loved me about a month later. I'm the only woman he's ever dated that he's told it to so I think he wanted to be sure he meant it.

We still say it all the time though he usually writes something short like "love ya".

[iloveacarpenter]

I had had a long day at work and got home late, completely exhausted. He called me up and asked if he could come over, mind you it was like 1030 at night. He said it was really really important and of course I agreed, worried out of my mind. He got to my house and asked if we could go for a walk. I thought for sure he was going to break up with me or something, but he was way to happy. He paced around for like a half hour with me waiting for whatever it was he had to say. Finally, he just spit it out. I smiled and immediately told him that I loved him back. Both being fairly rational people and only daitn for 17 days, we talked for hours about how crazy we were. It was beautiful and perfect and unforgettable.

[amartnotkmart]

He said it before we went long distance, less than a month into our relationship. We had just finished watching a Disney movie (Hercules, I believe) and were snuggling on his couch and I commented that his heart was pounding out of his chest. He replied that it was because he was scared to death to tell me he loves me. Then I got scared, and didn't say anything back, because of a past relationship that I am going to spare you all the details of. But I said it back less than a week later. <3

[megfashion]

it was "luv u" for a while... then he went on vacation for 2 weeks with his mum... when he came back it suddenly went to "love u" (this is online by the way!).... then just before my birthday (3 months dating) he just suddenly said "I love you" online.... it was completely out of the blue and it was like ahhh!!

then the first time he said it out loud i actually didnt realise he said it (woops). we were on the swings and i said "i love the swings", he said "i love you". I had to ask him when i got home what he said.... so next time we met up, he whispered it because he was nervous! auww.

[SDPersona]

He said it after the moment we had our first kiss. I was surprised and overwhelmed and found it difficult to say the three words back to him, because I don't feel that deep a love after just a week together. I accepted his feelings, though. Three weeks later and one week before my return to my home I said the words back to him! <3 Now we say it as often as we want to to each other - that's how lovey dovey we are together.

[Bobbiejeanne]

He said it first! But only by a few seconds... I had been having this huge internal battle about when I should say it, and if he'd say it back... I actually said it quite loudly to back of his car once as he drove off from my house. But I don't count that since he didn't hear it, hahaha.
It was actually the weekend after that, and we were slow dancing in the middle of the top level of a parking garage at night... (suppperrr romantic) and he looked me right into the eyes and whispered "I love you". I was seriously five seconds away from saying the same thing.
It was a beautiful moment, and I blush even thinking about it.

And it still gives me butterflies when he says it to me, even if it's over text

[adielovesshelbs]

my so said it first. it was late at night, the night before my birthday, and my so wanted to be the first person to tell me happy birthday. we were talking about our relationship and he got a little quiet. he said he had to say something important, i was getting nervous. it took him about 3 minutes to get the full thing out but he finally said it. he was so adorable about him. we had been dating for about 2 and a half months.

[MajorTom]

I said it first. Best decision I ever made. But I could have picked a more romantic opportunity, but I was holding it in for weeks when I said it so I lost control and said it. And she said it back. And it was probably the happiest day of my life.

[Micah]

i said it first when we had been together for three months. He was dropping me off at the airport and I told him that I loved him. He said, "You do?!? Well, I love you too." We loved each other long before that but both were too scared to say it. Now, we usually say it at least once a day, at random times. I'd say it is pretty equal as to who says it more now.

[Dauntedpoet]

Well my SO has a very difficult time putting his feelings into words, but for some reason, even before we ever met in person as friends, I could feel his emotions. I can't explain it but even in text or email.. I could feel what he was feeling, so I always reacted to his feelings instead of to his words. I had always signed emails 'Love Michelle' and I always KNEW he loved me too.

In 2007 after knowing each other for 9 years and 10 visits as friends I had driven him to the airport after a 3 week visit where we were STILL only friends because of the distance. I was always afraid something would happen to him before I could speak to him again. So as we were hugging goodbye I said in his ear.."I just need to know, that you know.. I love you" and he hugged me really tight and there were tears in his eyes when he looked at me and he said "I know." and I smiled really big because I was so relieved that he really did know and believed it.

6 months later I went to see him in the UK and we both gave up and decided we had to be a couple. It was a wonderful visit. I think he knew I would tell him I loved him at the airport when I left, so in the car ride on the way there he said "I know I'm totally crap with putting my feelings into words, but I hope that my actions show you how I feel about you." I said,"Yes, I have always known by your actions." As I was leaving I put both hands on his cheeks after we'd kissed and I said, "I know that you know but I have to say it..I love you" and he kissed me and said "I know." and I said, "thank you".

When I got home he'd left me an offline message that said.."Michelle though i never, or haven't said so in so many words ... i DO love you". Reading those words, even though I had always known he loved me.. just made my stomach flip over and my heart squeeze while a huge wave of joy welled up inside me. I typed back to him in offlines.. "I know".

Now when we are in public all I have to say is.. "I know, you know" and he says, "yes I know", and I always say "I know too." I will say "I love you" randomly because sometimes I just can't keep it in. He says it very rarely and always when we are alone. My stomach still flips over and joy wells up from deep inside me and I just KNOW how lucky I am.

[roosie]

He said it first, a few months before we started dating. I had known him for 2 years and fallen in love with him but I wasn't sure about his feelings. He texted me saying: "I love you. I'll explain later." I wasn't quite sure what to think of it and I had to wait an agonizingly long time for the answer because he had fallen asleep. He then told me that he wanted to say it because he was staying with his parents and could hear the man next door beating up his little daughter (which he still does every evening, it breaks my heart every time I visit my SO's parents). He felt so sorry that the girl had to live in such a loveless environment that he wanted to make sure I felt loved. I remember feeling a lot of mixed feelings after that: sadness for the girl, happiness that I had such an amazing friend and some disappointment because I wasn't sure if that could have been count as a confession of feelings. We said it again when we met for the first time and started dating. However, it took me longer to say it in Finnish ("Minä rakastan sinua") because somehow it felt more meaningful to me. We don't say it very lightly here so when I started saying it I knew I was really serious with him.

[DemonxOisin]

I probably said it first to be honest :P But we started saying it as friends very soon after we met. As in "Hey bro, can I borrow your water? Thanks, love ya bud "

Having said that though, when we actually got together, we set up a ranking system lol. I think itīs just an English thing, but "I love you" gets thrown around a lot. Where as in Spanish, you have different ways to say I love you for the different stages. We decided that for now (back then) te quiero, and I love you where what we would say, because they were suitable to how we were lol. We wanted to save te amo though, as thatīs spanish for the truest of loves. He explained to me that he has said te amo to so many girls in the past that he is no longer with, so now, he doesnīt want to say it unless, at least at the time, he feels as though he would want to spend the rest of his life with the woman. So it took a looong time for him to say it haha. However, he finally did last month after we had lived together for 2 months this summer. It basically took him 9 months to say it lol, but now that he has, I can honestly say that it was worth the wait. It is so special to hear him say it now ^.^

TL;DR It took him 9 months to say Te Amo, which is Spanish for the truest form of "I love you".

I have always been the one to say it lol. Iīm really... "simple" when it comes to emotions, so I new I was in love with him pretty early. It just grew from there

[Bethypoo]

We kind of said it at the same time. It was stupid really. We were arguing about something stupid and then went on to talking about how our feeing had progressed over the months (we had been together 6ish months). So because I didn't want to say it and neither did he, he did this rating system (which made no sense) and then I did mine. When i was more open about mine he said he felt exactly the same. So i asked him if he loved me and he said yes. I said that i loved him to. Its really stupid but kind of cute in our own little way.