Do you often fantasise about a future with your SO?

[HollzHeartsChris]

My SO and I fantasise about a future together a lot of the time, yes. Especially when we're together. We've often pictured us getting married and living together, as well as raising a child together. We do actually like to debate what we would call our child already, mainly because it's an interesting topic :P I've always wanted only one child, and I wouldn't mind a little boy hehe. If we did decide to have one together, and it was a boy, I would be the one to name him. But if we had a little girl, he'd be the one to name her :P Perhaps a little early to be thinking of things like this, but it's what gives us hope and strength. All the hard times we've had...little discussions concerning the future keep us going. And we've had a lot of obstacles to overcome. We're still overcoming them now. It will take awhile for marriage and parenthood to become more than just discussions and far off dreams, but we'll get there eventually

[Kelly.92]

Definitely one to be caught fantasising/day dreaming about our future!!
And luckily enough we share the same goals .. Apart from being a student midwife, I am sort of getting turned off of the thought of child birth... OUCH!!

Next step in our future= Own place to close the distance..... Cant wait

[squeeker]

I love fantasizing about a future with my SO. We talk about it together sometimes which is always fun, we've discussed how many kids we'd want (our ideal is 2, one boy one girl, but of course we both understand it might not work out like that), we've talked about things we want to do together, our future house and garden. I love taking some time and just going to the future in my head and picturing it all, from getting to cuddle him again, to the day he officially proposes, to when he moves here and i can show him off to everybody, to when we get married, to when we start a family together... ahh dreaming and fantasizing is so much fun, it helps remind me that all this distance might be hard but it's worth it to have such an amazing future with such an amazing guy.

[floridaellen]

I fantasize about a future with my SO all the time but so does he so it's okay! We want three kids and already have their names picked out. I look at apartments a lot for both of the areas where we live because we haven't decided where to live yet. I love looking at wedding stuff and such. It's like an addiction.
I think the time when I think about the future the most is when I'm grocery shopping. That seems so much like a family thing to do. Seeing couples grocery shopping together to me is so adorable!

[rsvpnj]

If by often, you mean every waking minute of every day... then yes totally!!!

I can't stop thinking about our future together with my kids. Everytime I see a commercial for furniture, I think that I can't wait until we can got furniture shopping for our first home together. Or when I see ads for weddings, I can't help but think about what our wedding day will be like. I even think so far ahead as to my daughters' wedding days... and him walking them down the aisle. Sometimes I worry that I obsess about it.. Especially right now where we know 18 different couples that are getting married this year....and we can't even be physically together all the time yet.

So you are most definitely not alone.

[Silvaria]

My SO has never been to the Oregon coast (he's east coast Canadian), so as I'm driving I often fantasize that if I'm bringing him home from the airport, and pointing out things of note to him as I drive along. Sometimes I even talk out loud, as if he's in the car with me, lol...

[iloveacarpenter]

I fantasize all the time! Sometimes it does get me into trouble though---gets me so upset about our current situation. I'm constantly picking out wedding stuff and home-y things. I am part of a site called pinterest which is an online inspiration board, and I can get totally wrapped up in it if I'm not careful!

Also, sometimes we fantasize together. Like, when we were CD over the summer, we went on a nice date and after he had to run out to get some new shorts. We ended up walking around the home sections, picking out what we would have in our house. It was so much fun. Along with that, we are constantly talking about our future. We are so excited to start it together! Only a year and eight months left!

[Élan]

Before we were short distance, I would always fantasize about the future! Wherever I was, I'd think about what it would be like to take Amir there. It's great to finally be able to take him to all those places!

[Bethypoo]

I didnt use to. I was one of those people who thought planning a permeant future with someone was useless. Aaaaand then I got together with my boyfriend and it went down hill form there. About 8 or 9 months in (we have been together 10mo) I would do things that normal girls do and watch shows like "say yes to the dress" and "amazing wedding cakes" and instead of just admiring the things like I used to, I was picturing my own wedding to my SO. I was so thrown off by it. And now by best friend and I have decided that we are going to make these stupid little binders of different things that we would like for our weddings though we are not engaged or planning a wedding. Things like venues, dresses and cakes. All of that fun stuff. My SO just laughs and asks if there is anything that I really like while her boyfriend laughs and says we are being dumb. Its funny but I think that it is natural for us to start thinking about that stuff when things feel right.

[lucybelle]

I'm a young, fertile female... of course I fantasize about this stuff. Women my age are meant to reproduce and everything in my primal mind is telling me to do so. In fact I get pregnant dreams all the time that freak me the hell out. I always wake up like "OH MY GOSH DID THAT ACTUALLY HAPPEN?"

But, I don't so much fantasize about kids (though I have wondered what they might look like) as I do about a proposal or a marriage. More a proposal than anything. But I've done that with every boy I've ever dated. hehehe

[Haley53]

@Bethypoo, I'm actually going to keep a journal and see how my tastes change over time. I've been so creatively inspired lately that in addition to scrapbooking as per usual, I'll be keeping a separate album for my wedding plans and designs, tehehe. It'll be interesting to look back as things change.

@Everyone else, I won't be able to respond individually, but I am reading everything and it's all bringing a smile to my face! :P Especially inspiring Rosebud to look at engagement rings, haha.

[AshleyNicolle]

Haha, I do this all the time! To me, it's something normal to imagine the future you'll have...and with someone you love, it only makes that future better! I dream of decorating our apartment, and I'm sure he won't mind if I decorate it, he said he loved how I decorated my room . I've already asked him if having kids was important to him in the future and what he thinks about marriage, because I really want to be married, take his last name, and have *at least* two kids, lol I'm crazy but who cares because it's all just dreams now, dreams that will eventually happen. I'm positive these things will happen with him, because I've never loved anyone as I've loved him. I've known him for about a year, and have had other relationships, and I can't see myself building another future, but this future I see with him! So..don't worry, haha, you're not alone in this.

[DemonxOisin]

I work at a shoe store, and often mothers come in with their children.
I have never wanted kids. Ever. I hate the little monsters. But lately, I´ve been catching myself thinking about Me and him taking our kids shoe shopping one day :P
Cheesy! What has he done to me?! D:

[Bobbiejeanne]

Oh goodness, this happens to me way more than I want to admit!
Mostly it's Engagement, like imagining how he would propose to me, and what kind of ring I would like.... I swear almost every other day. I guess since we're LDR, I have to submit myself to daydreaming about being with him...and it seems to always end up a proposal... *sigh*
I imagine wedding stuff a little less, I am of the opinion that I only will talk about weddings when my SO is ready, because I don't want to scare him with commitment stuff... we ARE only 18 and 19, we can wait for the wedding.
...doesn't mean I don't have my wedding dress already picked out, because I do, and I can't wait to wear it! I also have a slight idea on my dream honeymoon vacation... but again, I'll keep everything vague until he brings it up.

[heylittlekrissy]

Very, very, VERY guilty of this lol. I do it a lot more than I let on to anyone, even to my SO, and we have discussed our thoughts for the future many times lol