Do you often fantasise about a future with your SO?

[marbear31]

Oh my gosh, literally all the time! I get shivers every time I think of waking up next to him every morning, cuddling with him at night...oh God, the thoughts!! We love talking about our future family, house, how we're going to decorate things (we both want floor to ceiling bookshelves ), how we're going to celebrate things, future trips...it's like living in a fairytale at times. I love him so much! And it's the best security in the world to know I have a future with him.

[Dar917]

I still feel like it's too soon, but sometimes I do. We've talked a bit about traveling together to visit some other people. I need to get a job though so I can save some money again, if I decide to move to be with him or whatever happens.

[Tooki]

I do this all the time as well.

Whenever I'm at the supermarket, I imagine her and I shopping together. When I'm at a mall, I imagine it is us there together. When I go to the city, I imagine that I am showing her around.

Although I'm 21, I feel ready to make the commitment. I've been living on my own for around 9 months (and 1000km from my family). It is trickier because she is 18 but we already have plans to live together for 1 year if I can do study exchange close to here in about 16 months.

[HisCutie]

Oh, I do the "girlie" thing all the time and fantasize about the future with him and the whole nine yards. You can even catch me browsing wedding dresses online from time to time, as well. The kind of dress and wedding always changes depending on my mode (from a Vegas quicky to a big deal). But in the end, the one thing that I fantasize about that is what makes me happiest and I would really like more than anything is us coming home to each other, no matter where that place is. I can cry just thinking about it.

[Malaga]

At the moment, I don't like to think about the future as I'm feeling quite despondent about it, so much I can't even fantasise. Our relationship is fine but not the circumstances.
But I also never had particular fantasies abot how it should look like. Where we should live, how many kids etc. I just want us to be together. The wedding, I must be one of the rare girls who absolutely doesn't care about the details of it. In fact I'd prefer it to be as low key as possible, just get it over with.

Sometimes when he's feeling low, I tell him an anecdote from our future life, something I think of on the spot. He likes that.

[dukes2011]

I fantasize about finally losing the distance, so yes. I can't wait to get married, find a place together, and just do everything together. Even the "boring" things like grocery shopping and laundry. While it's exciting to think about the future, I try not to do it all the time. If I think about too much I get upset because it just reminds me that we're apart and won't be together for a while.

[MeganK]

I think of the same things, luckily we plan on closing the distance soon.
Shortly after 2013, weve already started our evidence of our relationship
for my fiancee visa. Hopefully things go well, i dont want to wait much longer.

[BabyDimples]

All the time, about everything! From the moment that we first meet, to when we're the old couple that everyone adores, watching our grandchildren running around in the front garden! I mainly think about the moment that we first meet, when we are living together, when we have our first child etc. Sometimes, I'll be laid in bed and I'll start to imagine what it would be like if he was laid there next to me. Just being able to turn over and kiss him and snuggle up to him. I think about what our wedding will be like, and our honeymoon, how I'm going to decorate our house (with a teeny bit of his say thrown in there too! ), shopping with him, messing about and going to the cinema, meals etc. I think about everything!

[lala]

Once we talked about what we would do if we win in the lottery..haha sooo unrealistic! when we were CD he said the one day if I come back we could travel around the country and visit New York.. other than that I'm imagine us beng married and living together.sometimes I catch myself dreamig about having a family with him.. but I don't like dreaming too much,cause I don't want to be too disappointed if the future changes.

[lyonsgirl]

ohmygosh ALL the time. about everything. it stops at the "when we have kids" phase though. haven't thought to grandkids yet. but from now until we have kids... oh yes. i think about it all the time. (and we talk about it often, so i know he does too!)

[killerkaytee]

Trust me girl I do the same thing haha I CAN'T WAIT FOR IT ALL!!

[alesitag]

We both fantasize about our future together. I actually freaked out in a good way the first week after we made it official, because I kept having these flash-forwards of us doing all kind of things together, like cooking, buying groceries, watching TV, walking on the park, having babies, getting them ready for school, visiting both of our families, and i couldn't control it... it was not something i was doing voluntarily, these thoughts took over my mind and I didn't know what to do... pretty crazy huh?

The "scariest" part is he had them too... we even had the same flash-forward of us getting married on a beach here in Mexico, and my best friend had it too... I know, I know... FREAKING WEIRD!

After that one, it stopped, but we keep talking about things we want to do when we're together during my first visit, the places he wants to show me, food he wants me to try (he says he's a great cook, so we'll see), he even wants me to learn ice skating!!

I don't think there's anything wrong about fantasizing about these kind of things, it actually gives you more topics to talk about with your SO, and gives you the chance to get to know each other better

[Yaaamiii]

All the time. I show my SO stuff I want at our future wedding, ask him if he would mind having certain things in our house, how many kids, how we would raise them, the works. :P Fortunately for me, none of it scares him. Sometimes it seems like I'm trying to rush things, but I'm just eager to start our lives together. I don't mind waiting for him.

[Zephii]

but I can't help feeling like such a complete and total girl; despite the fact he considers it adorable, I absolutely detest it, in part because I hate being so stereotypically female and in part because I hate the fact I want a future this bloody badly

This. I'm right there with you.
For example, the other day I made a word doc listing the names (first and middle) I want for each of our children (Most of which Obi's agreed on, but he says he doesn't want to suggest names, he's happy with power of veto. He thinks our children will have boring names if he picks them). On that list I also added the meaning for those names, taking several hours to cross-check to make sure I had the correct meanings as well as the culture the names came from. I also listed alternative ways of spelling some names. *Sigh* When did this happen to me? I used to be... not whatever this is. Haha

But I felt like it was this big dirty secret when I finally told Obi what I'd spent hours on that afternoon. He tells me that's what women do. But I seriously didn't feel any better.

I'm lucky because I'm already past the long wait part of our future, but I still daybream a lot. Some of the most common ones include pregnancy fantasies - like how I'll break the news to him, how I'll take care of myself, what kind of birth I want - and when my kids are young teenagers, like helping them study, encouraging their dreams. Oh and decorating. I have so many decorating dreams.

Like, when we finally buy a house I want to turn one room into a pirate ship - including a wooden deck (with hatches in the 'floor' for storing toys + linen), with the walls painted as railings with a sea view, maybe the bed/s could be made to look like emergency row boats etc.

[Starry Nightmare]

I do this all the time. My head is in the clouds anyway, me being a creative writing major. My SO and I are total nerds and I would want our wedding to reflect that - the main theme would be wizarding/Harry Potter as we look like two of the characters. We both dream of graduate school in California and we both want to be writers - he a novelist and I a screenwriter/film director. He isn't sure about kids but I want them, and I feel he would want them once he experiences children more (he's an only child and I grew up in a large extended family).

We haven't met in person yet, which makes it hard to fantasize sometimes, but I fantasize about our first meeting as well. One of the things I'm most excited for is to take fun pictures with him and go out to dinner or a show. (He lives in Las Vegas.)