Silly Doctor Phil.

[DemonxOisin]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5e0QkZNF1k

It's really bothering me that I can't leave him a nice long nasty response to this.

FIRST OF ALL, he did not, to my knowledge, answer the question at all. Secondly, I've seen quite a few people on here in very long term long distance realtionship, and they are HAPPY with each other! Truly and utterly happy. Is that not worth anything?

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[Sunnyside193]

Im guessing he has never discovered this site then lol

[Darth_Taco]

Dr Phil is a total bitch and a fraud with no valid license to practice psychiatry in any state in the United States. 99% of the time he's full of shit and just phoning it in and only dealing with stupid people. Just watch one typical episode of his show, these people are mind-numbingly idiotic. Either that, or poor as hell and have no other options but go on the show since they can't afford real counseling, making these people victims who are desperate for help. Oh, and interesting fact: Dr Phil is well known for being against all forms of porn. Yet when his oldest son married a former Playboy model, suddenly he no longer has an opinion.

[Madge]

What a cock. Grr SOMETIMES PEOPLE DONT HAVE A CHOICE!

[DemonxOisin]

Lol I'm quickly discovering this Darth. I've never actually seen his show, just heard of it. Wow. How can he get away with this crap?
And, doing a youtube search on "opinions of LDR's" clearly proves that many people have not discovered this wonderful little community -.- Doesone anyone else notice that so many people base their relationship ONLY on the physical part? "It can't work if there is no kissing or touching"... Well then it's not a real and truly loving relationship then, is it?? Me and Miguel could spend hours just... talking. When we get together on weekends, granted, it's like 72 hours of animal planet, but that's just cause we can. We don't NEED it to be in love... Do we?

Also, one more thing. Does he think that Asexuals are allowed to have LDR's?

[kiara_silver]

what's he consider long term? is he giving us a month,week, year, days? I think its alot of stubborn people who arn't open minded and look at things the old fashion way. Like a comment my dad had made, how you can't be in love unless you have real in person moments. So he basically told me i wasn't really in love. My dad has a old fashion look on things. Now he more or less doesn't have anything to say to me about it after seeing my SO come. I think people will just think what they want and the only way they'll see and realize is when you show and prove to them after time, that hey its a year later and were still in love and together. It is annoying and frustrating though to hear negativity like this.

[Sunnyside193]

We get Dr Phil during daytime tv here is Aus and I watch it just to laugh at it cause its so dodgy its funny

[yayagrl]

I have no words for that man. Absolutely no words

[Minerva]

"I have an opinion [blah blah blah] and no actual experience in the thing I'm talking about [BS BS BS like to hear myself talk] and I'm going to tell it to you straight [avoid the question by invoking folksy cliche saying] what your doing ain't right and ain't ever gonna work [research done: none, because I don't have to do research - Oprah anointed me. Best. Day. EVER.]."

The man is an idiot. He "retired" his license to practice because he said what he does on his show isn't psychology, it's entertainment. Which must be nice for the desperate people who look to him for guidance. He's a fraud and it's sad there are people who buy into his shtick, and since his career revolves around directing people with issues, it makes it even worse.

[NaNi]

Oh what??? I actually always enjoyed watching his show in New Zealand, but that YouTube video... really? I won't even bother saying anything to that.

[Joyce:)]

i started disliking this man after the first three seconds of the video. GRRRR.

[Malaga]

I would argue with Dr Phil that any relationship unable to cope with the distance for a substantial amount of time isn't a real relationship. If affection and connection with your SO is reduced to having a warm body in bed at night, that's not much to build on. Couples in CDR often never get that test of time, distance and trust, and so they don't get to fortify their relationships like LDR couples do.

He is right in saying that there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel. Sure there are a few people who are content with keeping a LDR as it is, but the vast majority of us suffer because of the distance and are looking to close it as soon as possible - that's in fact one of the conditions to stay in a LDR. He is of course blatantly wrong when he says you can't have a relationship with someone you're not living close to. And I agree with OP, he didn't answer the question at all.

[WakeUpSusie]

I definitely agree that there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel for ending the distance. I personally wouldn't get into a relationship where there was no visible end in sight for an extended period of time. I also don't think I could be in an LDR where we didn't see each other on at least a semi-regular basis (every few months or so). When we were in college, we'd see each other every six weeks or so during the semester and every day over breaks. As much as we love each other, I don't think we could have handled seeing each other much less frequently than that. I do believe that physical intimacy (not just sex) is critical for maintaining relationships, even if it is few and far between.

Basically, I disagree with him that LDRs never work (mine worked beautifully!), but I do agree that there has to be an end in sight and visits should be as frequently as possible.

[lucybelle]

Well I hate that Dr. Phil has ever even used a "Dr" in his name. The man is no doctor and to say so is quite misleading. So here's the opinion from Dr. Lucybelle:

I think he's right in the extent that there does need to be a light at the end of the tunnel. I believe in order for a LDR to be successful and to reach the ultimate goal of being CD, you need to have some sort of plan in place. If you're looking at the future and have no way or plan of closing the distance, than you're going to have a lot of serious problems. I just think he should have said it in a better way than "it will never work".

[HollzHeartsChris]

Hmm....some people. They really do make me wonder.