having fun with other guys?

[rusty15]

So this past weekend I went out a lot with my cousin and her friends, we were ALL drunk, dancing, grinding, flirting, talking and having fun! I told my other friend (who is a little stuck-up) that I was grinding and talking with other guys (NO kissing or anything like that) and she got really offended and told me to break up with my boyfriend (lol), I don't consider that cheating at all, apparently she does.

Of course, if I found out my boyfriend was grinding with other girls I would be mad but I wouldn't consider it cheating.

What do you think?

[Minerva]

It's between you and your SO. Frankly I find it sort of disrespectful, but that's just me. You and your SO might think differently.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I think it's very disrespectful and I would consider it cheating. But, that's my own opinion and that's how my SO would feel too.

[snow_girl]

If you would be angry that your SO was doing that then how is it okay for you to? I don't think there is anything wrong with going out with a group, guys included and drinking or even dancing but grinding is a very sexual intimate thing and crosses the line a little. How would you like your SO having a girl rubbing her ass on her penis?? Probably wouldn't. Perhaps you and you SO should set some ground rule as to what you both are comfortable with each other doing with the opposite sex.

[kiara_silver]

I would be upset personally if my SO was doing this, and maybe not cheating but still hurtful. But guess everyone has there own opinions, for me I would be hurt and upset.

[Rosebud]

Every couple has their own standards for how they deal with this so you really need to discuss it with your SO. While I wouldn't full on call this cheating I would find it extremely disrespectful if I were in your partner's position and probably feel as though my trust in you had been violated. I would NOT be okay if my boyfriend decided to dance in this manner with another girl. There are so many ways to dance and they don't all have to be as sexually charged as grinding in order to be fun.

[Sunnyside193]

Just depends on what your SO considers cheating. Every couple is different so you both you need to talk about it and be on common grounds on whats acceptable and what isn't.

[keypatalina]

I wouldn't consider it cheating, but if you would be mad at your SO for doing that then it's sort of hypocritical for you to do it...I mean dancing's fine, talking's fine, but the grinding and flirting is a too much for me (personally) because I wouldn't want my SO doing it and I know he would be really hurt if I did that. Though to be honest, I have no interest in any other guys other than the occasional small talk, but maybe I'm just really prude lol.

[lucybelle]

When my SO and his friends all go out together there's always drinking and dancing. Dancing is very much part of the culture here and I encourage my SO to dance with other girls because they're better than me. But if I saw my SO grinding on some girl in a miniskirt, that'd be a whole other ballgame. That is not okay. As far as flirting is concerned, my SO also tries to pick up girls for his friends all the time. But he doesn't flirt with them, he just talks. And I believe that flirting on purpose is not okay as well.

But while we were LD we were in an open relationship. So physical stuff was alright. I think you two need to set some boundaries and decide what's okay and what's too far.

[Miramaid]

cheating - no. Disrespectful - probably. especially since u know it is not something he would be happy about (coz u wouldnt be)

[Moon]

It may not technically be cheating, but if I were you, I'd be questioning my integrity and commitment to the relationship. Out of respect to him, you should not be grinding other guys, how can you think that's appropriate?

[James76]

I think its a bit much. Its not something i would like my gf doing and its not something i would do myself out of respect for her. It is just a bit of fun yes but in my eyes its a bit of fun in bad taste. Its what you do when your single and not when you pledge to be loyal and faithful to someone you love. Just my opinion.

[Zapookie]

Personally, I would never do that out of respect for my SO. Even though I may get drunk and go out with my friends, the fun stops when a guy even touches me in an inappropriate way. I am very firm when it comes to this kind of thing. I would not be happy at all if I found out my SO was grinding with some drunk girl. He would not be happy if I was to grind on some guy, so we simply just don't do it.

Plus, I don't WANT to be grinding on anyone else but him.

[Ms.Justine]

Okay it's not cheating in my books but definitely disrespectful. If you would be upset with your SO grinding on some girl - why the hell is it okay for you to do it? You definitely crossed a line. Would you appreciate some girl rubbing her ass against your boyfriends dick? Probably not.

[LilyChiba]

I wouldn't call it cheating, but to be grinding up on another guy just isn't right when you're in a relationship. I hang out with mostly guy friends, live with three. I just prefer guy company over girl, because it's a lot easier. Sure, I have fun with them in the terms that I'll go out and socialise or hang out at the mall. But that's as far as it goes with me. No dancing, no drinking. Just casual talking and laughing.