How man LDR's have you ever been in?

[Zephii]

I think there's a thread on this already that has a poll. Might be worth looking into.

Just one LDR for me.

[leonsfangirl]

First and hopefully last, Not because i wouldn't do it again but because i dont want to be with anybody else... long or close distance.

[LilyChiba]

I've been in three. My first ex, he was amazing and I still care for him to this day. He got depressed when he found out he could have got with me again and I actually haven't heard from him since I do worry.. but he was the one that went wrong. We were young and I mean like 18ish. 2 months apart. He started to get on messenger less, using an excuse that he didn't like using them as much. So I started to get back on the MMO we played after a couple of weeks of him disappearing to find out he was with someone else. Someone who ended up doing what he did to me, to him and got married and had a kid to another american. They were engaged when I found out too and keep in mind this was all in a 4 month span. We had been really close in the year we knew each other. In any case, I stopped talking to him for a while after she was a crazy bitch, told me never to talk to him again and went psycho protected to me just having a chat with him. Not like I was going to steal him or anything, coz he had left me. That has actually scarred me for LDRs, and I often have insecurities with my SO because of it. The second LDR wasn't much better and the week before I decided to end it, I got super sick. I was over at my last ex's house I was that sick, because my sister was too young to look after me/at school and my mum was commuting to a job two hours away. I had severe tonsilitis and was throwing up. I could barely think and ended up in bed most of the time. When I got home when I was feeling better and when my sister got home from school, he wanted to keep me up so he could talk to me. We talked every day and shit, all I wanted to do was sleep and I knew he would get pissed off if I fell asleep on him, which I ended up doing. That's how exhausted I was. But he made me feel really bad about wanting to sleep because I was super sick. I ended it because of that. This third LDR has been harder than both of those because we actually do love each other to the fullest and he has never really done anything to hurt me, not intentionally and not big things. The only thing I would change is being there with him. So this LDR has been golden compared to the first two. Though if something were to happen, I would more than likely find someone in my own country next time, just because of how hard and how much it costs. But that will never happen. ^_^ He's the one for me.

[killerkaytee]

This is my first and I hope my only =) He's 100% worth it

[Silvaria]

I've been in two, and I was actually still in my first when I met my SO.

My first was with a guy considerably younger than myself, and it became clear after a while that he was perfectly content to live at home and not work while mommy paid the bills. On top of that, he quit spending time with me in the online game we used to play together. That's just the way he was, and had nothing to do with the distance.

If for some reason my current SO and I don't work out, I'm open to another LDR, for the simple fact that I spend a lot of time online, and I can't choose the direction my heart leads. <3

[Zapookie]

I've been in two.

The first was online, and I never met the person and I'm glad I didn't.

My second is my current and hopefully the only one. He is wonderful. My mother gets at me for it sometimes because she knew about the first and told me to find someone local. But I didn't choose the distance. I didn't go looking for someone half-way across the world. I just happened to develop a strong bond with this man and we decided we'd like to meet each other to see if what we were feeling was real. And it was, it was so real and so exhilarating. I've got something so insanely special. If I had to do it all again, I would, but only if it was for my SO. I don't think I could ever love another human being again, the same way that I love him.

[uniquefem]

Not my first, i've been in more LDR rather than CD... i think i had 3 LDR and 1 CD hehehe

[London-FortCollins]

Just the one...and I dont plan on doing it again if I can avoid it. We didn't break up because of the distance...although it certainly didnt help. I feel had we have closed the distance when the problems started they may have been resolved...but I dont want to blame the distance because I always believed we were stronger than the LD.

Although now I think about it I had a holiday romance when I was 16 and I suppose we were technically LD for a while after that before we split up...I totally forgot about that until I answered this question!

[Sora1101]

This is my third LDR.

The first one I was in I met the guy online and although he lived fairly close, only one state away, we never met even though the relationship lasted for about a year or so. I found out he cheated on me, I left him, I felt lonely from the lack of communication with anyone which only served to deepen my already horrid depression I'd been in for so long so I took him back, just to have someone to talk to, although he cheated again and I left him for good.

The second LDR I was in was with a close friend who lived in canada, also someone I met online, this one only lasted a couple of months because I was insecure from my past LDR and the lack of communication on top of the still worsening depression only made the relationship a strain. We ended it on good terms and in fact this guy was the one that pretty much introduced me to my current SO.

I met my current SO and for some reason felt a strong connection, within days he had broken down my nearly impenetrable emotional walls, it only took 3 days and before I knew it we were dating, he helped me through my depression despite the hardships, he was always there when I needed him and he saved my life, the weekend before I met him I had contemplated taking my own life, something inside of me told me to hang on just one more week and then there he was, my guardian angel, he led me back from the dark path I had taken.

Honestly if this relationship doesn't work out I don't think I'll ever try a LDR again, I don't think I could handle dating again for quite some time in general, the love I have for my SO goes beyond anything I've ever felt for anyone, and I know I'm young, only 17, but with all the pain that's been in my life I'm fairly certain I know what love is and I can honestly say that I love my SO.

[Dauntedpoet]

This would be the other post with a poll if you're curious. https://members.lovingfromadistance....ve-you-been-in

[Kerry]

this is my 1st one. and will be my last because one day I will marry my bf and we will close the distance.

[Snap]

This is my 2nd. When my 1st one ended and as I was sobbing at the airport, I swore that I would never allow myself to be in an LDR again, no matter what.

Life had other plans for me.

[beckychan]

I suppose this is my first LDR, but I'm used to having a lot of distance between me and my friends/family. A lot of my good gaming friends, actually all of my gaming friends, live long distance from me and my best friends go to college elsewhere.

[msskunk]

6 LDR and 3 CD, geez that sound a lot >,<

[bluishskin]

Probably this is the first LDR that I've had. Though when I was with my ex (CDR) I spent around almost 11 months of LDR as a part of our 7 and a half years being in a relationship.
So yeah, this is the first, and hopefully it will be the only one.