Hello All,
I'm writing simply because there is so much going on in both my SO(Kalen)'s life and mine. I can't say that much of it is good but we are getting through it. I just want to share to get everything off of my mind. So I'm going to start with Kalen's world first. Not too long ago, his families' car was stolen, they haven't been able to locate it and it wasn't paid off so they can't get a new car. He was in school this semester but was forced to drop out because one he started late because of financial aid issues and two, he was having to ride 10 miles everyday to school and back on a bike. All of this combined was too much for him to handle, along with his family having financial issues. His father, runs his own business and their money isn't steady from month to month. And this month, no one paid the internet bill so we can only talk on the family phone (which is prepaid, so we can't talk long). As for me, My family is having financial issues as well. My uncle just moved in with my mom and 2 brothers because him and his wife are now separated. Problem is, he doesn't give my mom money for rent and food like he is suppose to, we can't really kick him out because he's family and has nowhere else to go. My mom doesn't work and lives off of child support and food stamps because my youngest brother has Down Syndrome and is sick too often for her to work. Because of this, she is really struggling to feed everyone since there is a new grown male in the house she has to feed as well. I am living off of my financial aid, since I am in College. I send them money when my mom needs help. I won't get into the other problems because they are more personal.
With all of this going on, Kalen and I have realized, we won't have kids until we know that we are financially stable. We don't want to have to deal with all of the same problems when we have our family. Meanwhile, we are trying to move in together sometime within the next year but aren't quite sure how to make it happen with all the money problems. I may be able to ask my landlord about him moving in because I found out in my lease it says the house can have 5 occupants and currently there are 4 so I'm assuming that means one of us can have a roommate. I just don't want to rush things, he wants to move in by January, I told him we should wait until next school year (July/August) because I want both of us to have our licenses (which neither of us currently have) and at least one car so we don't have to rely on public transit and we can go visit our families whenever we want to. He doesn't have a problem with waiting, he just really wants to make it happen ASAP, which I can understand. We've been a couple almost 2 years, known each other for 3 and haven't visited since a year ago.
Anyways, I think I've rambled on enough.
If anyone has read this all the way through and would like to give me some advice/suggestions please let me know. Oh and just FYI, he is 19 (will be 20 in April) and I am 20 (will be 21 in March). Thanks for listening everyone! ~Samantha
I'm writing simply because there is so much going on in both my SO(Kalen)'s life and mine. I can't say that much of it is good but we are getting through it. I just want to share to get everything off of my mind. So I'm going to start with Kalen's world first. Not too long ago, his families' car was stolen, they haven't been able to locate it and it wasn't paid off so they can't get a new car. He was in school this semester but was forced to drop out because one he started late because of financial aid issues and two, he was having to ride 10 miles everyday to school and back on a bike. All of this combined was too much for him to handle, along with his family having financial issues. His father, runs his own business and their money isn't steady from month to month. And this month, no one paid the internet bill so we can only talk on the family phone (which is prepaid, so we can't talk long). As for me, My family is having financial issues as well. My uncle just moved in with my mom and 2 brothers because him and his wife are now separated. Problem is, he doesn't give my mom money for rent and food like he is suppose to, we can't really kick him out because he's family and has nowhere else to go. My mom doesn't work and lives off of child support and food stamps because my youngest brother has Down Syndrome and is sick too often for her to work. Because of this, she is really struggling to feed everyone since there is a new grown male in the house she has to feed as well. I am living off of my financial aid, since I am in College. I send them money when my mom needs help. I won't get into the other problems because they are more personal.
With all of this going on, Kalen and I have realized, we won't have kids until we know that we are financially stable. We don't want to have to deal with all of the same problems when we have our family. Meanwhile, we are trying to move in together sometime within the next year but aren't quite sure how to make it happen with all the money problems. I may be able to ask my landlord about him moving in because I found out in my lease it says the house can have 5 occupants and currently there are 4 so I'm assuming that means one of us can have a roommate. I just don't want to rush things, he wants to move in by January, I told him we should wait until next school year (July/August) because I want both of us to have our licenses (which neither of us currently have) and at least one car so we don't have to rely on public transit and we can go visit our families whenever we want to. He doesn't have a problem with waiting, he just really wants to make it happen ASAP, which I can understand. We've been a couple almost 2 years, known each other for 3 and haven't visited since a year ago.
Anyways, I think I've rambled on enough.
If anyone has read this all the way through and would like to give me some advice/suggestions please let me know. Oh and just FYI, he is 19 (will be 20 in April) and I am 20 (will be 21 in March). Thanks for listening everyone! ~Samantha
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