Do you fit in with your SO's family?

[lucybelle]

And do they fit in with yours? Not get along, but really fit in?

I get along quite well with my SO's family, but we have absolutely nothing in common. His mom is Catholic, his sister has had multiple cosmetic surgeries, his dad I can't even understand and everyone smokes and no one drinks. They're nice, and we have conversations, but never anything beyond recent news and the weather.

My SO fits in extremely well with my family. My family is a drinking, partying family and my SO LOVES them. He could be one of us

[Caitlin2009]

her mom and dad love me to bits, were not married yet but they consider me a part of the family already. i love them as well! My family on the other hand...ehhhh....they ask about how shes doing, but i think they like her, they confuse me constantly cause there opinions on her change alot :/

[princessmeg1328]

I absolutely love his family! They welcomed me into the family the very first day that I met them. His youngest brother even told me, "Welcome to the family" the very first day we met. I already call them my family because they are.
My SO fits in with my family as well. My mom refers to him as her son, and he calls her mom. I don't know how much better it can get than that.

[snow_girl]

My parents love my bf to bits. He stayed with us for three months and him and my Dad would go out for coffee and drives in his corvette. My mom and him would hang out during the day when I was working. My mom missed him so much after he left cause she missed his company. Even my extended family love him and he is not a shy person so he got on well with them all.

His family is very nice, they are really lovely people. I've only really met them a couple times. I'm not at that point where I feel super comfortable with them yet. I don't see myself ever having the same kind of relationship he and my parents do though. I guess only time will tell.

[London-FortCollins]

I got on SOO well with my SO's family. His stepmum and me spent a lot of time whilst he was working when I was visiting and became very close friends. His sister treated me like a sister, so even though we didnt get to see each other much it was amazing, and like having a big sister.

His mum and me could talk for ages too, I loved her very straight up view on life.

And whenever I met and spent time with either grandparents I really loved it, enjoyed chatting to them and wished I could spend more time with them.

I never had a big family growing up so it felt great to be a part of a larger family - even if they were spread all around the states. I really miss them...

[WakeUpSusie]

I could literally write a novel about how much my SO's family means to me, but I'll give you the short of it.

I have a terrible family situation and I've never really known what having a real family who truly LOVES you, and shows it, is like. Now I do. I am grateful for that with every breath I breathe.

[Hildy]

I could literally write a novel about how much my SO's family means to me, but I'll give you the short of it.

I have a terrible family situation and I've never really known what having a real family who truly LOVES you, and shows it, is like. Now I do. I am grateful for that with every breath I breathe.

I feel the same way. I grew up with divorce parents and they both remarried and I don't get along with either of my step parents today. My mom and her side of the family absolutely love my SO. Especially my grandma. She always asks me, "How's the boy doin?" and asks me all about him. My dad's family likes him, but he hasn't spent much time with them because I hardly see that side of the family, not even for holidays. However, my dad and his wife do not like my SO. They have been trying to break us up and they prevent me from spending time with him. They always tell me how bad he is for me and that he is holding me back. They barely know my SO, so its very hurtful to hear my own father say these things to me. I wish they could just be happy for me, because my SO makes me the happiest i've ever been, but my dad and his wife refuse to see that.

I'm sorry about that! Its just been on my mind a lot lately.

[Engel]

his mother and i have loads in common, really, that woman gets me. hhahaha

my SOs dad died when he was young, his aunt and uncle dont speak german or english, just russian, so not much communication there. his family isnt big, he is an only child. so getting along and fitting in with his mother means the world to me! <3

[mllebamako]

I get along great with his family but I think it'll take more time/language acquisition for me to "fit in". When they're all together, they speak Bambara (I have like a beginner/intermediate level) so it's hard to really join in the conversation. We are from hugely different socio-economic, cultural, and religious backgrounds. Like I said, we get along great and I love them, but I wouldn't really say that I fit in completely yet.

[kittyo9]

My boyfriend's only family is his mom (unless you count his cousins and stuff), and she doesn't speak English... but we seem to share most values and perspectives.

My boyfriend fits very well into my family. I mean... I don't think I would be dating him if he didn't. :P We both lost our dads when we were in our teens, so that's been a very bonding experience for us.

[kiara_silver]

I haven't met his family yet so not sure.
But he could fit in with my family. When he was comfortable we would just hang out and they would talk to him and play games and was nice. My parents still need time but my aunt and grandma and cousins love him, and he's at ease with them, lol he's already part of the family and i know with time the rest of my family will love him just as much. So im hoping that his family will like me as much as my cousins love him. But we'll see, im nervous!

[amartnotkmart]

My family (except my sister for whatever reason) LOVES my SO. He gets along really well with everyone (again except my sister...I don't get it, but she doesn't really get along with anyone). I get along with his family but sometimes I feel like I don't really fit in.

[Madge]

I get along so well with my SO'S Mum and Step dad back in England..feels like I am a part of the family

His Dad and Step mum however it has been a slow progress from when Nick and I first got together.. although this summer I felt comfortable around them. I have an understanding of why they were so relucant..well wasn't reluctant really, more just polite. Anyway, that is something I can't share on a public forum.

And although my Mum and Dad have only met my SO once they ADORE him. Think it must be the accent.

[LatinButterfly]

Oh yes! =)
I do get along really really well with my SO's family.
I have always feel included, welcomed, loved.. They are great to me!
His mom has shared with me important details of her life and we can talk about nearly everything...
Same thing with his brothers; they are very nice, funny and treat me like part of the family... Ahhh his grandma is the sweetest thing ever!
So yes, I can say I fit in with my So's family. He hasn't met mine yet, but I'm sure everything will be alright. My family, friends and relatives can't wait to meet him!

[Dziubka]

His mum and I get along really well.
She has some weird views sometimes and she can be big on esotericism, which is something I don't really know how to deal with. I don't want to be rude and tell her it's a load of b/s but... that's essentially what I think.
But that's really a minor problem. In general she's a great woman and I love her a lot.

My boyfriend's dad...
I don't know, I guess he likes me, at least that's what my boyfriend told me. I can't seem to have a proper conversation with him, though. I just really don't know what to talk to him about.

His grandparents try their best to be nice to me, but I know they don't really like me because - as stupid and silly as it sunds - of my nationality. There's nothing I can do about it, except be overly nice to them, though.


My family isn't really big on emotions, neither the positive ones nor the negative ones.
I guess my mum and brother like my boyfriend, but it's hard to tell. Even if they didn't, they wouldn't let me know. They've also only met once and that was rather briefly, so possibly they can't even tell whether they like him or not.

Do we fit in each other's families?
It's not so easy to answer. Our families are very different and you probably couldn't say that we really 'fit' in each other's family. Seeing as we're used to something very different, but we like each others families.
And I guess once we are our own little family, we'll combine only the best of both worlds and have exactly the family we both want.