Me again, thanks everyone for weighing in on whether or not to tell TOW.
(As a side note, the bastard is writing me on AIM right now, just making small talk about politics and such. Last night I was wondering how long it would be before I heard from him again...remembering the past 5 breakups, it was always the next day. He is as predictable as the sunrise...)
Everyone has good points...I'll admit that the idea of ruining his life right now is tempting...I also have information that could get him evicted and he has nowhere else to go.
However, I believe too strongly in karma for that depth of revenge. I may be a woman scorned, but my fury isn't that bad.
Eclaire, you make a lot of good points that really made me stop and think. I'll be reading your post several times as I work towards making a decision.
To be honest, I'd already written up a rough draft, with some intimate details that only someone who has been involved with him very recently would know. I even copied and pasted a few of our AIM conversations on or near the dates that he was writing how much he loved her on her wall, and from the date that they supposedly started the relationship. She'd have to be stupid not to see that he and I were obviously involved at the same time, and she appears to be quite intelligent. But actually sending it? I honestly don't know right now, which is why I'm not going to do anything until I cool off a bit.
I have to admit that I am leaning towards it, but I'm not entirely sure why. I think I need to discover the "why" before I do anything that I can't take back.
Thanks again to everyone, I have a lot to think about, still.
(As a side note, the bastard is writing me on AIM right now, just making small talk about politics and such. Last night I was wondering how long it would be before I heard from him again...remembering the past 5 breakups, it was always the next day. He is as predictable as the sunrise...)
Everyone has good points...I'll admit that the idea of ruining his life right now is tempting...I also have information that could get him evicted and he has nowhere else to go.
However, I believe too strongly in karma for that depth of revenge. I may be a woman scorned, but my fury isn't that bad.
Eclaire, you make a lot of good points that really made me stop and think. I'll be reading your post several times as I work towards making a decision.
To be honest, I'd already written up a rough draft, with some intimate details that only someone who has been involved with him very recently would know. I even copied and pasted a few of our AIM conversations on or near the dates that he was writing how much he loved her on her wall, and from the date that they supposedly started the relationship. She'd have to be stupid not to see that he and I were obviously involved at the same time, and she appears to be quite intelligent. But actually sending it? I honestly don't know right now, which is why I'm not going to do anything until I cool off a bit.
I have to admit that I am leaning towards it, but I'm not entirely sure why. I think I need to discover the "why" before I do anything that I can't take back.
Thanks again to everyone, I have a lot to think about, still.
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