Hey guys. Just wanted to give you a quick update, for those who didn't read it, my original thread can be found here:
https://members.lovingfromadistance....in-another-LDR
Anyhow, I did end up sending her that message on FB, and she either didn't read it or totally ignored it, because she never replied and they are still together. I suspect he knew I would do exactly that, and told her to ignore anything from me. And if she's dumb enough to do that, then she deserves exactly what she is going to get, which is heartache and lies.
Sunday night he asked me to game with him for a while, which I did, and he was acting flirty and charming and we actually had a good time...then after he logged out, I sat and did a LOT of thinking, and I realized how stupid that made me look. The bastard has been cheating on me and is still with her, and here I am, acting like everything is OK??? What kind of idiot would do that, you know?
Also, I talked to a friend of mine who brought up a very good point. He said, "M., you've been with him on and off for 3 years now...if love, devotion, and caring were going to change him, wouldn't they have done so by now? How much longer do you give it?" And I realized he was so right, and I don't want to give it any longer. I am done.
So the other night, I wrote my ex an email.
And with that, I am moving on. Thank you again for all the support I received here, it truly made a difference. Good luck to everyone in your relationships, whether they be long distance or otherwise. 
https://members.lovingfromadistance....in-another-LDR
Anyhow, I did end up sending her that message on FB, and she either didn't read it or totally ignored it, because she never replied and they are still together. I suspect he knew I would do exactly that, and told her to ignore anything from me. And if she's dumb enough to do that, then she deserves exactly what she is going to get, which is heartache and lies.
Sunday night he asked me to game with him for a while, which I did, and he was acting flirty and charming and we actually had a good time...then after he logged out, I sat and did a LOT of thinking, and I realized how stupid that made me look. The bastard has been cheating on me and is still with her, and here I am, acting like everything is OK??? What kind of idiot would do that, you know?
Also, I talked to a friend of mine who brought up a very good point. He said, "M., you've been with him on and off for 3 years now...if love, devotion, and caring were going to change him, wouldn't they have done so by now? How much longer do you give it?" And I realized he was so right, and I don't want to give it any longer. I am done.
So the other night, I wrote my ex an email.
Well, at the risk of sounding melodramatic...I truly believe this will be the last email I ever write to you.
I have to accept that you have chosen another woman over me. She obviously does something for you that I do not. Fair enough. I am what I am, and if I'm not enough for you, it is what it is.
You decided to lie and to enter into a relationship with her while still with me. I know you were hurt by females all your life, but I'm not them, and I didn't deserve that. Nine months ago I came back to you in good faith, because you promised me that we would "Stick together as a couple, though good times, through bad times". I trusted that you meant those words.
Even now, I wish we could somehow work through this, that you would say, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to lie, I don't really care about her, you're the only woman I need in my life, now and always", but I have finally realized there is no working through it. You have made your choice.
There's really nothing I can say here to describe how naive I'm feeling. I bow to your acting ability, it must have been hard to pretend you loved me deeply when you didn't.
My only defense is that because you wrote me almost every day, chatted with me for hours at a time, asked me to game with you regularly, told me that you loved me often, laughed a lot at my silliness, snuggled and kissed and cuddled and licked and petted and humped constantly, I truly thought that meant you had found a great deal of happiness with me.
As incredible as it still seems to me, I have no choice now but to accept that somehow, I was wrong.
Always be safe, J. *Hug*
I have to accept that you have chosen another woman over me. She obviously does something for you that I do not. Fair enough. I am what I am, and if I'm not enough for you, it is what it is.
You decided to lie and to enter into a relationship with her while still with me. I know you were hurt by females all your life, but I'm not them, and I didn't deserve that. Nine months ago I came back to you in good faith, because you promised me that we would "Stick together as a couple, though good times, through bad times". I trusted that you meant those words.
Even now, I wish we could somehow work through this, that you would say, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to lie, I don't really care about her, you're the only woman I need in my life, now and always", but I have finally realized there is no working through it. You have made your choice.
There's really nothing I can say here to describe how naive I'm feeling. I bow to your acting ability, it must have been hard to pretend you loved me deeply when you didn't.
My only defense is that because you wrote me almost every day, chatted with me for hours at a time, asked me to game with you regularly, told me that you loved me often, laughed a lot at my silliness, snuggled and kissed and cuddled and licked and petted and humped constantly, I truly thought that meant you had found a great deal of happiness with me.
As incredible as it still seems to me, I have no choice now but to accept that somehow, I was wrong.
Always be safe, J. *Hug*
but I truly wish you all the best and lots of strength.. you seem like such a nice girl 
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