Religion differences

[alNimsa]

He is muslim, I am christian.
There is no proplem at all. He wishes me a merry christmas, and I am patient during Ramadan.

After all we both belive that there is just one god. When there is just one god then there can just be one religion. Because god can´t go to the christians, give them the holy bible to say: " This is the holy book, its the true religion" and then go to the muslims give them the holy quran to say : No, I´ve decided the bible is not true"
God doesn´t make mistakes

[krabuzh]

I'm Catholic and he's an atheist (all of his family too).
Not a big deal! He also celebrate Christmas as a part of tradition (having Christmas eve dinner, exchange Christmas presents, etc.). He also celebrate Easter... again as a part of tradition...
We respect each other and don't force each other to follow the belief.
But one thing that made me quite shock but also happy.. He said that apart from his belief, he is willing to accompany me to the Church on Christmas or on Great Friday (well of course if we live together).

So.. my advice will be.. try your best to compromise with it and then respect it.
Hopefully everything will goes alright.

[Anabela]

I am Pagan, raised Catholic (but in a very liberal home) and my SO is Muslim (also very liberal). We both have deep mutual respect for each other's beliefs, so there's no problem with that. I am an expert in my SO's country so I am very much aware of the cultural differences (and similarities) between our cultures. I love all sorts of holidays so I would have no problems celebrating all of them in our future home. There is deep archetypal meaning for all of them anyway.

[bluishskin]

I'm a Muslim and so is my SO. We were raised with pretty much some differences because basically we come from quite a different denomination, although we still share the same core teachings of Islam. Apart from that we are both quite strict and we hold on to the belief that a Muslim should only marry a Muslim. So yes, regarding that aspect we are happy and thankful that we share the same religion. That's not to say that we don't need to compromise, because there are still some differences that we have to work out and hopefully we can do that. For us it's very important to share similar beliefs because it will affect on how we will raise and educate our future family.
Good luck for all of us!

[FadedSunrise]

Slight difference. I am agnostic with a Christian slant(meaning, if given the right amount of additional influences and information, I am very much open to the idea of converting to Christianity, but I won't really seek it out). He I'd call atheist with an agnostic slant. He doesn't believe in God or the afterlife, yet. But his mother is devoutly Christian, which is what turned him atheist as a kid because he was opposed to the blind faith in the beginning. He says nowadays he sees religion has benefits, and due to being able to meet me and getting to know my beliefs, he doesn't know and is not against the possibility of becoming religious later in life.

[OceanBlue]

He is muslim, I am christian.
There is no proplem at all. He wishes me a merry christmas, and I am patient during Ramadan.

After all we both belive that there is just one god. When there is just one god then there can just be one religion. Because god can´t go to the christians, give them the holy bible to say: " This is the holy book, its the true religion" and then go to the muslims give them the holy quran to say : No, I´ve decided the bible is not true"
God doesn´t make mistakes

ahh you shouldn't say this. I mean you're right, we both believe in one god (I'm muslim) but saying that there can be only one religion isn't so right to say. We don't think that God makes mistakes and said that the bible is wrong how he wrote it. We said that the people changed it so much that it's too different from God's original words. and that's why the Koran came. That's how we believe. but anyways, I understand what you meant so it's ok. I just wanted to tell you how Muslims think about it. nothing more.

[alNimsa]

ahh you shouldn't say this. I mean you're right, we both believe in one god (I'm muslim) but saying that there can be only one religion isn't so right to say. We don't think that God makes mistakes and said that the bible is wrong how he wrote it. We said that the people changed it so much that it's too different from God's original words. and that's why the Koran came. That's how we believe. but anyways, I understand what you meant so it's ok. I just wanted to tell you how Muslims think about it. nothing more.

I know, that muslims say christan religion is to far away from God´s original words. There are some muslims, I know personally, that say Bible is a big lie, but they are Salafi, so I am not sure weather they are muslim or just call themselves "muslim" without having the right to do so. I spoke to them just before I posted at this topic, so I was a bit angry how they called my religion. I didn´t want to post something wrong about real muslim people

[floridaellen]

We're both Catholics but even though we are, we were raised differently and there are some traditions/rituals that I don't really follow while he follows it completely. I have some issues with some of the Catholic laws that I find rather too outdated due to our changing times & that contradicts some of the things they're even teaching. So yes, I am a Catholic but I can say, I'm a Catholic "with issues" LOL. Him, on the other hand, follows everything religiously and sometimes we clash because I express my view on one teaching but we don't really fight about it.

Even with same religions, there are still conflicts, but if you love each other, religion shouldn't be a factor. Love surpasses everything, right? Besides that, religion is a very touchy subject, no one really wins in a religion battle.

I would also identify myself as a Catholic with issues haha. For example, I don't fully believe their teachings on premartial sex and on homosexuality.
My SO on the other hand thinks of himself as fully Catholic but he obviously does not agree with their teaching on premartial sex hahah.
So I guess we are both Catholics with issues! I think most Catholics are these days.

[Sharon Q]

I am wiccan, new age pagan. My whole family except for my brother is christain. I still celebrate christmas, I just add yule traditions to it, The tree, and reathe are pagan in origan so you can still celebrate with him, just ask what to do, like what he does for the holiday, every pagan celebrates in their own way.

[Haru]

I am Christian, although not devout; my whole family is Christian, but veeeery devout. My boyfriend is Agnostic and has never celebrated Christmas before (in his country, Christmas is celebrated in January). We both plan on having Christmas celebrations in January, but not the religious aspect -- just the general gift giving.

Religion talks are quite interesting with us, but we usually refrain because we both know this is how we will feel and we will never change said feelings.

[Manoek]

My SO is a Mormon and I'm not sure what I am haha! I guess I'm an atheist if you have to label me.

Even though my SO isn't the diehard Mormon (has sex before marriage, is for gayrights, drinks alcohol etc) I still have issues with him being Mormon. I don't think issues is a right word for it though.... I just think it's difficult sometimes... I just ordered the book of Mormon (online for free, hooray for 2012) ) because I want to know what he and his family believes in, I'm sooooooo curious, but I'm not sure if reading this book is going to make things better.. because if I know what it;s about I probably have more to discuss about. And don't get me wrong I don't try to argue.. But it just happends as soon as we talk about religion.

Sometimes he tells me that he got his good morals from his upbringing, and that is great! He is great! But my mom, brother, and sister are atheist as well and we all have good morals too!! So sometimes we have discussions about that, I try to avoid it and change the subject. Yesterday I had questions about the book and I spoke to his sister. His sister explained me a couple of things because David and I know that we wil argue.. I think he get's more frustrated with me for not understanding then I have with him...

I know it's a "We cross that bridge when we get there" thing, but what if we want to have kids... how are we going to raise them? I don't know.. I sometimes wonder.. David is the guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with! Should I bring it up? Or wait for the bridge...

[Oregongirl]

I know it's a "We cross that bridge when we get there" thing, but what if we want to have kids... how are we going to raise them? I don't know.. I sometimes wonder.. David is the guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with! Should I bring it up? Or wait for the bridge...

You should ALWAYS iron all of that out before you even think about marriage because if you end up wanting different things and there is no compromise your marriage would totally fail and you would be unhappy.

[Manoek]

You should ALWAYS iron all of that out before you even think about marriage because if you end up wanting different things and there is no compromise your marriage would totally fail and you would be unhappy.

Yes.. You are totally right! Thanks... I know that... but like I said.. sometimes trying to avoid the subject I guess.. Discussing religion is never easy, in general! haha

I just need to tell him that if we talk about religion that it's not my intention to convince him of becoming a Atheist. Sometimes it hard to express my feelings about religion in English, it's not that I have english religious discussions every day hahaha

We talk about everything so we will figure it out..

[rubydissolution]

I've spent times thinking about this as well. I've discussed our religious differences with him in regards to marriage and kids and we agree on how things should be separated. I told him I want to celebrate all the Christian holidays with our kids and he said that's absolutely fine because many pagan/christian holidays overlap. As for marriage the only thing he wants in our ceremony is to leave god out of the vows. That's going to be but I think its manageable. Just bring it up one day, you'll feel better about the whole thing =)

[keminlove]

We don't have this issue because never of us are really religious so it works out well. But in a previous relationship it was an issue; he was super religious and I'm really not so ir was problem and it didn;t last. My advice is if you two really want to be together you are either going to have to compromise or some one is going to have to sacrifice. I hope it works out for you two.