I'm new to this forum and new to an LDR, but I think I might have a concept here!
I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for 15 months, but just over a month ago I had to move 300 miles away from her (temporarily) while at University in Brighton, East Sussex. She's staying behind in Newquay, Cornwall to work for her family business for a year before heading off to Uni herself next year. Whichever Uni she goes to, she will be closer than she currently is to me, which is pretty good.
And though every time we part ourselves it's massively heart-wrenching (I usually end up crying more than she does!) I feel it's just about tolerable. I think that while the distance does curtail intimacy and physical closeness, it allows us to grow separately as people. I've been going to the gym a lot and reading up on my Journalism, and she might be doing a 2 week expedition to Kenya to further herself too. I'm not saying in any way that being together prevents self-improvement, but by growing as people separately for a while, but not away from one another, it can only be a good thing, providing a stable base (Job security, finances) for our future. That was the concept bit
Self improvement is a great way to keep busy, too, which as many of us know is a good way to forget about the distance. We text each other a few times a day, and usually make time for Facebook chat or Skype. I went home last weekend for a few days and had a lovely time with her, and then she came up to mine for a day and a half. We're planning to see each other in another 4 weeks or so.
I have every intention of one day marrying my girlfriend, Iona, and with that passion and belief in the relationship, which the both of us share , I don't see any reason why this relationship can't work! I've made a vow that as soon as my three years at Uni are over, I'm going to live with her, regardless of whether she's still at Uni <3
This is my first post so I guess I'm saying most of this mostly as a way to introduce myself, as well as the comforting notion of sharing my emotional burden with people in a similar situation. Let me know if you think I'm doing things right, but as my title suggests, I think it's going well!
I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for 15 months, but just over a month ago I had to move 300 miles away from her (temporarily) while at University in Brighton, East Sussex. She's staying behind in Newquay, Cornwall to work for her family business for a year before heading off to Uni herself next year. Whichever Uni she goes to, she will be closer than she currently is to me, which is pretty good.
And though every time we part ourselves it's massively heart-wrenching (I usually end up crying more than she does!) I feel it's just about tolerable. I think that while the distance does curtail intimacy and physical closeness, it allows us to grow separately as people. I've been going to the gym a lot and reading up on my Journalism, and she might be doing a 2 week expedition to Kenya to further herself too. I'm not saying in any way that being together prevents self-improvement, but by growing as people separately for a while, but not away from one another, it can only be a good thing, providing a stable base (Job security, finances) for our future. That was the concept bit
Self improvement is a great way to keep busy, too, which as many of us know is a good way to forget about the distance. We text each other a few times a day, and usually make time for Facebook chat or Skype. I went home last weekend for a few days and had a lovely time with her, and then she came up to mine for a day and a half. We're planning to see each other in another 4 weeks or so.
I have every intention of one day marrying my girlfriend, Iona, and with that passion and belief in the relationship, which the both of us share , I don't see any reason why this relationship can't work! I've made a vow that as soon as my three years at Uni are over, I'm going to live with her, regardless of whether she's still at Uni <3
This is my first post so I guess I'm saying most of this mostly as a way to introduce myself, as well as the comforting notion of sharing my emotional burden with people in a similar situation. Let me know if you think I'm doing things right, but as my title suggests, I think it's going well!
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