My SO is a student pilot; it's his dream to become an airline pilot some day. Ever since he moved to Cali he has been taking flying lessons and flying with aviation friends that he's met out there. He has had his PPL (private pilot license) for over 2 years now, meaning he can fly a small single engine aircraft by himself. There are many more licenses and ratings to get before he can even work for hire, and as you can imagine lessons are extremely expensive. So expensive in fact that he hasn't flown since August of last year.
When I question it he always has some excuse: "Oh, (instructor's name here) doesn't have the time right now," or "I work too much I don't have time," or "I just don't have the money right now, dude," or "Mom and Dad are going to give me the money soon," or "I was gonna fly tomorrow, but the plane broke"; there's always some reason that he can't fly. Honestly, it's driving me CRAZY. I feel like our future is NEVER going to happen because he can't get his freaking act together and get in the air. And of course, whenever I try to talk about it he feels as though I'm pushing too much; he tells me he can take care of it on his own and doesn't need me to "gripe" about it, which I don't feel as though I was griping, but whatever.
So I have since stopped talking about it altogether. I never bring it up, ever. Has it helped? NO! He still has not flown.
I understand money issues. I realize it's expensive and there are a million other things he would rather spend his money on (like the electric guitar that he just bought), but this isn't just about him anymore. He's wanted to be a pilot since before we started dating. Now he finally has the opportunity and resources to make it happen, but it's not happening. I don't know what else to do. Not only is this putting our future on hold, but he is running the risk of letting his dream slip away, and that kills me. I just don't know how to be encouraging and supportive of him without showing my frustration. Can anyone offer some advice?
When I question it he always has some excuse: "Oh, (instructor's name here) doesn't have the time right now," or "I work too much I don't have time," or "I just don't have the money right now, dude," or "Mom and Dad are going to give me the money soon," or "I was gonna fly tomorrow, but the plane broke"; there's always some reason that he can't fly. Honestly, it's driving me CRAZY. I feel like our future is NEVER going to happen because he can't get his freaking act together and get in the air. And of course, whenever I try to talk about it he feels as though I'm pushing too much; he tells me he can take care of it on his own and doesn't need me to "gripe" about it, which I don't feel as though I was griping, but whatever.
So I have since stopped talking about it altogether. I never bring it up, ever. Has it helped? NO! He still has not flown.
I understand money issues. I realize it's expensive and there are a million other things he would rather spend his money on (like the electric guitar that he just bought), but this isn't just about him anymore. He's wanted to be a pilot since before we started dating. Now he finally has the opportunity and resources to make it happen, but it's not happening. I don't know what else to do. Not only is this putting our future on hold, but he is running the risk of letting his dream slip away, and that kills me. I just don't know how to be encouraging and supportive of him without showing my frustration. Can anyone offer some advice?
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