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    #46
    We have 9 hours. We chat each day in my evening and her's lunch time. Also started to mail each other much more now.
    Sometimes she stays up late and we chat again in my morning.

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      #47
      We currently have a 10 hour time difference (during daylight savings, 11) and it works really well for us so far. Some times one of us will stay up really late talking to the other during their off day. When I'm about to wake up he will normally make sure to send me a really cute wake up message and vice versa. It wouldn't be nearly as easy to send those sweet wake up messages if we were only 3-6 hours difference. Not to mention I get off my morning shift right around the time he's gotten home from hanging out with friends! The time difference CAN be hard, but mostly it's decent. And we both get a large chunk of the day where we can focus on work/what needs to be done without checking our phones/computers :P

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        #48
        My partner is 5 hours behind me, he gets off work at 3, just under 2 hours commute home and by the time he gets home he falls into bed exhausted. I get off work at 6 and by 9pm I am pretty much in bed. So, we try and yahoo message each other on our phones but sometimes thats pretty touch and go to weather yahoo or our phones are behaving. Also by the time he wakes up after passing out when he gets home its 1am and I am flat out. I don't mind so much as wknds but during the week it's harsh.
        We leave little messages to each other during the day saying we are thinking of each other or other sentimental things. Trying to make the best of a difficult situation, or we leave each other extended messages for the other to reply to when they can.

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          #49
          We're in an eight or seven hour time difference, depending on the time of year (hurray Arizona and your decision not to use Daylight Savings in most areas). We usually Skype when she gets home from school for around a couple of hours a day and another couple of hours before she goes to bed and when I wake up. I do wake her up and say good morning to her on Skype as well. During the day, we Facebook each other and we send pictures over Facebook too of what we're doing or just pictures of us smiling. On the weekends, we tend to Skype for significantly longer (over six hours of the day). It's pretty nice and relaxing. On top of that, we usually write a big email before the other wakes up for us to read in our own time (I usually read it after she's gone to bed and she normally reads it when she gets up for school). So, we do keep a lot of contact, but we still have time for our own thing.

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            #50
            I can't even imagine how tough it has to be for you guys. Keep it up!

            Our time difference is 6 hours - I'm the one being 6 hours ahead.
            We spend our afternoons/evenings together, usually sitting in TeamSpeak all the time. We talk for hours, we eat together, we take naps and we play video games together. We skype when we feel like seeing each other, which is atleast every couple days and once we start skyping we do it for hours straight.
            The thing with time difference is the sleeping pattern that had to change for us both. At first it was kind of hard to cope with less sleep, since I go to bed much later than I used to, but I don't really need much sleep anyways, so it's all working out well

            Relationship began: 05/22/2012
            First Met: 03/21/2013 - 03/30/2013
            Second Visit: 06/06/2013 - 08/21/2013 ~ Proposal: 07/06/2013 ♥
            Third Visit: 10/09/2013 - 01/08/2013
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            Married: 1/24/2015
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              #51
              Ours is usually 6 hours difference. There are a few days a year were it is 5 but just a few. We IM mostly after he eats his dinner. If he does not work to late it is around 730 for him so 130 for me, I try to work my schedule around his. I do a lot of my work before him and after he goes to bed, usually by 5pm my time. On the weekends, it is earlier and for longer. We only talk on the phone about once a week for maybe ten minutes, he hates phones. One day a week he has school and I don't talk to him till later and only for about an hour. We do see each other every 3 months for about 3 months so far as much credit and miles hold up.
              "Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. "
              Benjamin Franklin

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                #52
                i know that 2 hours isn't a big time difference...i am 2 hours ahead of her...i do tend to get a little less sleep...but i am pretty ok with that...lol

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                  #53
                  Well ,he lives in UK and me in Mexico, so we have a 7 hours difference, we chat almost everyday and 4 phone calls a week..
                  We chat while he is in his lunch break or in mine ...and on weekends we agree in a specific hour we have been like this for 22 months. Don´t worry sometimes we have not the time to chat or maybe just some minutes to say hello, the thing is to be in continous communication.

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                    #54
                    My hubby and I have a 16 hour time difference..with me being on the east coast of the US and him being on the east coast of Australia. It's incredibly difficult to find any way to talk, but like others have said you make the time. I currently am not working, so I work my schedule around him so that I am available to talk, and on the weekends we tend to catch up and skype for most of the day. Try to schedule times, but the most important thing is to keep the communication open, so make it a priority, and you will do it!

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                      #55
                      My SO is 16 hours ahead of me. Whenever we talk, I feel like I'm talking to someone in the future! It's Sunday evening for me right now, and for him it's Monday afternoon. We actually don't have much trouble communicating, to be honest. When I get off work in the evenings, it's afternoon for him, so we call/text often in that time frame. Whereas my mornings = his sleep time haha, so we rarely ever talk then. Some days it lags and is a little tough if one of us has something come up, but all in due time we get back to one another. One of the biggest lessons I've taken from this relationship is PATIENCE. Loads and loads of patience!!

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                        #56
                        Currently have an 8hour difference, for about a week it's 7hrs, we did try to make my lunch his dinner work but my Internet is terrible at work so we do my 11pm-midnight and his 7am-8am. depends on his and mines schedules as to whether we start at 11pm/7am or 12pm/8am. As you can see one of us has to make a sacrifice! It's tough and I'm tired a lot but its worth it!

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                          #57
                          In summer we have 12 hours time difference while in winter the difference becomes 11 hours. It was easier before because i didnt work and had to go to university once a week. Since past 3 months as i started my lab work i have to go to university atleast 3days a week So basically one of us has to make a sacrifice to b together. But as said in above post its worth it. The time we are together is the best time of the day Now a days we mostly do skype sleepover which is indeed one of the best things although we dnt talk for longer time but going to sleep hearing him and hearing him breathing( when he is asleep) make me feel like we are together in real When love is true you can manage everything i believe whether its 12 hours difference or its of 2 hours

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                            #58
                            Originally posted by redapple View Post
                            Currently have an 8hour difference, for about a week it's 7hrs, we did try to make my lunch his dinner work but my Internet is terrible at work so we do my 11pm-midnight and his 7am-8am. depends on his and mines schedules as to whether we start at 11pm/7am or 12pm/8am. As you can see one of us has to make a sacrifice! It's tough and I'm tired a lot but its worth it!
                            yeahhh indeed its worth it. you are sleepy you re tired but hearing him works wonders makes u the happiest person..

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                              #59
                              Between my SO and I there is a 6 hour difference and to be quite honest, I consider that we have managed it quite well. Both of us has lost sleep to be able to stay up longer with the other and we let each other know when we are going to sleep so as to not wake the other up. I used to work the night shift which shortened my day ( since I would sleep in until past midday ) hence, my time to talk to him cause it would only give me a 2-4 hour span to talk to him. Now I am working the morning shift and have much more time to comunicate with each other

                              We used to use Viber application but found WhatsApp which is much more reliable (in our opinion) and text through the day until we find an opening in our days to actually skype.
                              ”Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

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                                #60
                                we have 12.5 hrs difference and it works great for us since we talk twice a day and it's easy to remember, it's a little weird to wake up to his phone call and instead of saying "good morning" I ask "how was your day" or him saying good morning to me while he is ready to go to bed but we got used to it for the most part, sometimes I am still half asleep and ask something like "what are your plans for today?" he just laughs and tells me "right now sleep BUT tomorrow..."

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