I'm currently sitting alone in the guest room of my girlfriend's parents house.
An ongoing saga is unfolding downstairs right now and has been since Christmas Eve.
So, we took the decision - one I certainly feel is vindicated now - to not tell her parents that I would be staying with her at her apartment whilst she's as school before I come to see her family at Christmas. After errors by my girlfriend of leaving clues of me having being at her apartment lying around her parents house, they confronted us. Not telling the truth was not the issue, the issue was that we did that at all - they confessed that they would have forbidden it had we told them. After much awkwardness, they are still creating situation after situation in the house and using every opportunity to re-hash the conversation all over again. We apologized and agreed that after this we would never tell them anything, but now they seem to want to break us up before we even get to that point.
The current situation is that her family is downstairs trying to convince her that she should break up with me. I feel so lonely right now. I just need some friends.
I love her so much and we can't imagine our lives without each other.
She's almost 24 years old! I don't want to and never will try to control her life, but her parents are using her tuition fees for medical school as leverage to control every move she makes. I feel like the only way she can be truly happy is if I step aside and let her find her way by herself and maybe we will see each other again in the future? I don't want to give up - it's not my personality, but I'm completely lost right now. I want to cry, but I'm so sad, I just can't seem to even do that.
Please get back to me. I just need some kindness right now. Thank you so much.
An ongoing saga is unfolding downstairs right now and has been since Christmas Eve.
So, we took the decision - one I certainly feel is vindicated now - to not tell her parents that I would be staying with her at her apartment whilst she's as school before I come to see her family at Christmas. After errors by my girlfriend of leaving clues of me having being at her apartment lying around her parents house, they confronted us. Not telling the truth was not the issue, the issue was that we did that at all - they confessed that they would have forbidden it had we told them. After much awkwardness, they are still creating situation after situation in the house and using every opportunity to re-hash the conversation all over again. We apologized and agreed that after this we would never tell them anything, but now they seem to want to break us up before we even get to that point.
The current situation is that her family is downstairs trying to convince her that she should break up with me. I feel so lonely right now. I just need some friends.
I love her so much and we can't imagine our lives without each other.
She's almost 24 years old! I don't want to and never will try to control her life, but her parents are using her tuition fees for medical school as leverage to control every move she makes. I feel like the only way she can be truly happy is if I step aside and let her find her way by herself and maybe we will see each other again in the future? I don't want to give up - it's not my personality, but I'm completely lost right now. I want to cry, but I'm so sad, I just can't seem to even do that.
Please get back to me. I just need some kindness right now. Thank you so much.
If she's worth it to you, just understand this won't be forever. The holidays are always full of family drama and stress, so take a deep breath and ride it out. I'm really sorry you have to go through this.
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